Psychological analysis of people who like order

The famous scholar Liang Shiqiu once said in the article "Queue": During the Anti-Japanese War, people did not queue up to buy tickets at the station. But after the Japanese occupied the station, order was in order, because when they saw anyone jumping in line, they would raise their whips and beat them severely. Liang Shiqiu asked: Do the Chinese really need such a whip?

More than half of the people think that Chinese people are unruly

Not queuing is just a microcosm. There are many other unruly behaviors of Chinese people: blocking the train door to wait for your companions, causing the train to be delayed by 30 minutes hours; vehicles are constantly jammed and overtaken, even blocking the reverse lane; when seeing a doctor, you can obviously register yourself, but you have to rely on relationships to get in front of others... A survey on social ethics by the "People's Daily" showed that 52.4% of respondents The interviewees believe that “non-compliance with public order” is the biggest social ethics problem. The survey also shows that less than half of people have never run a red light.

As more and more people travel abroad for business and personal reasons, some people still behave unruly when going abroad, damaging China's image as a "land of etiquette." No matter in front of the Louvre in Paris, Big Ben in London, or the "Piss Piss" in Brussels, Chinese people will flock to take photos without any order; whether in San Francisco's Chinatown or the New York subway, there are always our compatriots standing there as if no one else is watching. Talk loudly and turn a blind eye to the "Please do not make loud noises" notice not far away; whether in Thailand or Japan, many Chinese people ignore the custom of changing into slippers when visiting temples and trample on them while wearing shoes.

The "Influence on the Rapid Development of Thailand's Tourism" survey report released by the Tourism Authority of Thailand last year showed that disorderly behavior, loud noises, and littering are the main impressions that Thai people have about Chinese tourists. In the "Worst Tourists List" jointly compiled by the American "Life Social" website and Mandala Research Company, the Chinese ranked second. According to interviewees from the United States, Canada, Australia, the United Kingdom and Ireland, it is common for Chinese people to fail to comply with public order, such as going through formalities in airport restricted areas, stepping on the yellow line during security check, and fighting for luggage racks on planes. Domestic scholar Wang Chong heard a Chinese broadcast for the first time in St. Peter's Basilica in Rome. The content was "Please line up, don't make loud noises, and don't litter."

Privilege mentality gives rise to "fighting for the first" behavior

From the chaotic state of Pangu when he founded the world to the rise of Confucian "ritual rule" in the Spring and Autumn Period, ancient my country mainly relied on "differentiating between high and low. To maintain the social hierarchical order. Confucianism believes that the distinction between kinship, superiority and inferiority that exists in the family and the distinction between high and low that exists in society are the needs of maintaining social order. However, during the great social changes during the Warring States Period, rituals collapsed and music collapsed. By the end of the Qin Dynasty, Chen Sheng and Wu Guang had made the bold statement that "princes, generals, ministers, and their ministers should be kind", and "rule by etiquette" was already in a state of turmoil.

The essence of disorder lies in the lack of security among the people. For thousands of years in the feudal era, almost every Chinese person lived in fear. The overall situation of Chinese history has always been more divided than unified, with more wars than peace. Even if you are lucky enough to be born in a prosperous age, your fate may not be good. Zhang Yanghao, a poet of the Yuan Dynasty, said, "When prosperity occurs, the people suffer; when death occurs, the people suffer" is a portrayal of this situation. In this state, the Chinese people can only resign themselves to fate and live their lives without worrying about the day or night. When there is any disturbance, they first think of fighting for resources and protecting their lives and property. How can there be any order? After several eliminations, fear was integrated into the genes of our ancestors. As the old saying goes, "Etiquette is known through practical experience." The first reaction of people who are insecure is to "crowd" and "grab." In contrast, although Western countries also experienced the Thousand-year-long Dark Middle Ages, the Renaissance and the Industrial Revolution made their destiny take a sharp turn towards the light. Therefore, today's Europeans and Americans can be in order.

Modern China has enlightened politics and affluent life, but the deep-rooted herd mentality, privilege thinking and face mentality control the thoughts and behaviors of the Chinese people. For example, if you are seated on a plane, there is no shortage of resources, but there is still a rush to be the first to board the plane. When we got off the plane, even before the cabin door opened, a group of people crowded in the aisle as if running for their lives. They probably felt that others had already stood up and they would suffer a loss if they remained seated. Analysis shows that ancient officials enjoyed generous privileges, and the people's desire for them far exceeded the scope of rationality and even bordered on obsession. When this cultural gene was brought into modern society, it gave rise to many unruly behaviors. For example, being able to ask an acquaintance to register an appointment or jump in line to see a doctor shows that you are capable and decent enough, and you are not ashamed of such unruly behavior, but feel proud of it. It doesn't matter that people who can't join the team are resentful and hate themselves at the same time.

The low cost is also an important reason why people are disorderly. For example, if you fail to pay your water and electricity bills overdue in the Mainland, you will only be compensated a little late fee, but in Hong Kong, such unruly "little things" are against the law. In Singapore, in addition to being fined for picking flowers, littering cigarette butts, eating on the subway, etc., they are also punished by cleaning public places and being exposed in newspapers. In serious cases, they may even be whipped or detained.

Be a "leader" in keeping order

It is not possible to say that Chinese people do not keep order. There is a scene in the movie "Glitter Balls": Experts prepared some bottles containing several colored balls connected with thin strings. Children in several countries are asked to remove colored balls from a bottle, but can only pass one at a time. As a result, the Chinese children pulled out all the balls in an orderly manner, while the foreign children scrambled to pull their own ropes, but they all failed.

From the perspective of developmental psychology, well-educated children know how to keep order. We often see children holding their mother's hand on the street and saying "Don't run the red light"; pulling her grandma's clothes in the mall and saying "queue to check out"; and whispering to her father in the library to "keep your voice down on the phone". ...

Many times, the disorder of the entire scene is "driven" by a small number of people. To make all Chinese people keep order, it cannot be changed overnight, and rough criticism cannot solve the problem. Instead, efforts must be made from the following aspects. For society, we must first vigorously develop productivity so that people have no worries. Secondly, we must say "no" to non-compliance, increase the punishment for non-compliance, and at the same time vigorously publicize models of compliance. For individuals, we must start by correcting our own behavioral habits and actively play the role of "leader". For example, if you follow the rules and wait for a red light, most people behind you will wait patiently. Parents should set a good example for their children, and pay special attention to teaching them through words and deeds. They should not tell their children not to run a red light in the morning and drag them to run a red light in the afternoon. Only with the simultaneous development of hardware and software can we create high-quality citizens.