Someone said, "Don't travel with your relatives, they will become enemies." What do you think of this?

The same as online dating "from ruin" is the "travel killing" of relatives. What is "tourism killing"? Simply put, it is "never travel with relatives, and relatives become enemies." Relatives are a loving family. Can they become "enemies" because of a trip?

That's the truth!

The hit rate is as high as over 90%.

Why is this happening?

This is caused by four major reasons: different living and consumption habits, different levels of cultural cognition and personality differences.

1 Life is a mess

"Life is a mass of hemp, and there are always bumps that can't be solved." No one can live in a vacuum, everyone can't live without rice, oil and salt, but also accept the baptism of ups and downs, which will also leave a tangled connection and brand with life and affect the way of life.

For example, some people like to go to bed early and get up early, while others like to go to bed late and get up late. Some people like to get up in the morning and take a bath, while others like to take a bath at night. Some people like rice, others like steamed bread, and even the difference is that some people like hard rice, some like soft rice, some like to tear steamed bread with their hands, and some like to chew steamed bread with their mouths. ...

These details are usually inconspicuous and will not hinder anyone. The family that gets along day and night is fine. After years of running-in and adaptation, you will get used to it. It doesn't matter which lifestyle is good or not.

However, no matter how long the journey is, it is only a short journey. Therefore, these differences in living habits will become a hemp rope when traveling together, and generous and tolerant relatives will choose to bear it, but not everyone is "the prime minister can punt in his stomach." Contradictions and conflicts are inevitable when you meet relatives with completely opposite living habits.

No matter whether you choose to endure or break out in the end, after a trip, you will have a lot of "insoluble little pimples" in your heart more or less. There is no doubt that one day, the "pimple" will get bigger and bigger and will never be removed. Relatives naturally became enemies.

2. Is it really "no separation between alcohol and tobacco"

In life, especially in northern cities, we often see such a scene: in order to shorten the distance as soon as possible, one of them will hand in a cigarette and say with a smile, "Come on, have a cigarette."

This trick works on many occasions. A cigarette can make two strangers know each other quickly and find a common topic. The potential psychological implication is five words-alcohol and tobacco are not separated; The subtext is also very clear: since alcohol and tobacco are no longer the same, why not say something quickly?

Can relatives travel without separation of tobacco and alcohol? The answer is: no, what if you have to do it? The result is: seemingly as if nothing had happened, I have "turned my face" countless times in my heart.

Why?

Because the work and income of relatives are different, some families have thicker backgrounds and some are slightly thinner. According to the travel, some people think that the four-digit expenditure has just begun, while others think that the three-digit expenditure is just right ... If one relative is rich and takes the lead in bearing the expenses of another, it will be even more troublesome.

If you don't pay it back, you will owe it. If you go back to the same expenses, it's really distressing. Of course, it is ok to spend your own money. Wait a minute! Not necessarily. Because there is still a common phenomenon in society-comparison! You can afford it, but I can't. Awkward. Relative to each other, the two relatives have an issue in their hearts, and sooner or later they will find the right opportunity to break out. Relatives naturally became enemies.

3. "Get on the bus to sleep and get off the bus to pee."

All along, people have been complaining that traveling is "getting on the bus to sleep and getting off the bus to pee". Some people enjoy this kind of travel very much, and in recent years, they have added another point: taking selfies at the tourists' punch-in point and uploading them to their circle of friends.

Some people will scoff at this kind of behavior, and if they catch up with outspoken people, they will complain a few words and eventually make both sides unhappy. Because of the different levels of cultural cognition, even if you go to the same scenic spot, there will be differences. For example, some people like to appreciate the natural landscape, some people like to have fun in human history, and some people are willing to browse and skim, and have no special preference.

Different cultural cognition leads to different evaluation of a scenic spot.

The same scenic spot, some people love it, some people hate it, some people find it boring ... If it happens to be serious, the two sides will have a dispute based on their own cognition, and if they are not careful, they will blush and have a thick neck. Come out to play just for fun. It's good to broadcast a "college debate contest" live. Sometimes it is inevitable to speak rashly or get angry when you are excited. Relatives naturally became enemies.

4. Personality differences

Different personalities are born, and they are basically shaped when they leave the factory. After the constant fine-tuning of the student days and the workplace, everyone has put on a mask, which is different inside and outside, and plays different roles in reality.

However, we should face up to the fact that "a leopard cannot change his spots", which often breaks out during travel.

Among tourists, introverts like to walk silently, watch quietly, sit alone, walk alone and enjoy their inner happiness. People inside and outside are completely different. They walked all the way, saying, * * * enjoy their experiences all the way, and they will never be idle.

In sharp contrast, one party will find the other party boring, and the other party will find the other party shallow and ostentatious. At the same time, some accidents or unexpected things will inevitably happen during the tour. Introverts may choose to watch calmly, while people inside and outside often participate enthusiastically.

Personality differences lead to different angles and methods to deal with problems. If the final result is that everyone is happy, it is better to say that if one party happens to be dissatisfied, quarrels and conflicts are inevitable.

A few years ago, there was a popular saying: life is a practice. In fact, isn't traveling a kind of practice?

Practice your vision, your heart, your cognition, your personality ... Since you have chosen to walk with your loved ones, the most important thing is to practice your family!

Let the family be promoted in the tour and let the family love each other. This is the correct way for relatives to travel together.

Some people say never travel with relatives. Talk about my opinion and what really happened around me. Our self-driving group is a large group of 1000 people and more than 600 cars. Organize group friends to drive by car every year. We went to Zhangbei the year before last. There is a car that my brother-in-law travels with his brother-in-law. On the third day, the two men began to work. Brother-in-law said that he had to drive, stop and cook every day when traveling. His brother-in-law cares nothing, but he is also very picky. This brother-in-law consulted with his brother-in-law Can you cook while I'm driving? My brother-in-law is very arrogant. "I don't cook at home, and I can't cook for you when I come out." As a result, two people had a big fight. Brother-in-law finally turned against him and asked him to take him to the nearest railway station. Brother-in-law is not in the mood to move on and return directly. Later, I heard that the two became strangers from now on.

There's another real thing. 19 15 We went to Hainan with a group of friends from other places. He took his wife with him. This group of friends are afraid of spending money when they enter the scenic spot. Often drill barbed wire into the scenic spot and leave the daughter-in-law in the car. His daughter-in-law is getting angrier and angrier. Say nothing and go home. They returned the same day. Later, I don't know how the couple got well again and asked to continue to follow the team. We also agree that he should stay in the team. After going to Hainan, I will continue to drive to Laos and Thailand. He will follow me anyway. As a result, there was trouble all the way. Everywhere he goes in Thailand, he buys a lot of clothes for himself. Not for my wife. As a result, my wife was angry again. Began a hunger strike and asked to go home. My wife and I have been persuading them to work for them. On the fourth day, I finally began to eat. This is how the couple stumbled all the way. Finally returned to China. He went straight home. Later, the couple never traveled together again.

So, whether it's relatives or lovers on the road. Be tolerant. There are many problems and things on the way by car, and many things need mutual understanding and tolerance. Only in this way can we go on and have a good time.

You'd better make three rules before you leave. Tourism routes, scenic spots, consumption, and how to deal with problems in the future should be made clear. If you can't get a piece, don't go at all.

If you travel with relatives. Make it clear in advance, preferably AA system. There is a financial controller. When we get back, we'll split it equally. Walking like this, everyone's spirit is not burdened.

Damn, this seems to be about me. If you want to travel to Jiuzhaigou in spring, you can't do without friends. It's boring to join this group alone. Finally, I called my cousin and asked her if she would go. She wants to go too. Finally, the two of us went, and we had a little altitude sickness. It was already afternoon when we went to climb the mountain. She walked slowly and even had a rest. I was in a hurry to get up, but I was too embarrassed to wait for her. Finally, I can't wait to get to the colorful pool, because the sun is about to set and the tour guide also stipulates that there is time. I was slow, but I didn't catch up. When I arrived at the color pool, the sun just reached one side and I couldn't take a good photo. It will be dark soon, so I hurried back. She waited for me on the road, and then she still couldn't walk down the hill together. The tour guide keeps calling about us. Everyone else got on the bus, and I was more worried. After getting on the bus, a woman talked to us badly. I had a quarrel with her, and then returned to Chengdu from Jiuzhaigou, and we were free for a day. Two people have done the whole strategy together, and we don't know anything. I say we go with someone else, so we don't have to cut our own throat. Who knew that my cousin didn't want to, and as a result, some famous ones were released. I didn't go to several places, but the road was not pleasant. It's more interesting to get back on the train. Mine is the lower berth and hers is the upper berth. People just lie still. I stayed at the bedside for two hours. It's time for bed. I said go to sleep, she said go to sleep, and no one moved. I'm speechless. Whenever she says, I don't want to sleep in the upper bunk, but I can't go. I'm not embarrassed either. I said nothing to her this morning. I think her work is ridiculous. She was very happy when she traveled, but she was not happy when she got it. I advise you to find a good place to play while traveling, or you might as well rest at home.