My child is already in college and is disobedient. He wants to go on a trip. What should I do if my nineteen-year-old son disobeys me?

What should I do if my nineteen-year-old son disobeys me?

1. Communicate more emotionally with your children

Although 19-year-old children have become adults, they still have a great need for family affection. Due to their shallow experience, many aspects are not as good as they imagined, and they need more guidance from their parents. Parents should not ignore their children's conversational needs because they are busy with work.

2. Listen patiently to your child's appeal

When your child talks to you about a topic that interests him, pay attention and don't be distracted or ignore it. If you are doing something very urgent, you may wish to say hello to your child and communicate later so that your child can understand.

3. Respect

Even the relationship between parents and children needs to be based on respect. Many children especially like to rebel against their parents when they are in the rebellious period. He didn't get the respect he deserved from his parents. Children's growth also requires personal privacy and personal space for choice. Good education should start with respect, which is also the beginning of correct love for children.

4. Discover the child’s strengths and praise them more

Don’t just focus on the child’s shortcomings, but be good at discovering the child’s strengths. I believe that every rebellious child is not without merit. There must be something. Strengths, such as being hygienic, polite, etc. Everyone likes to be recognized and praised. Although the child appears to be indifferent to the praise and praise from teachers and parents, he still longs for recognition and praise from the outside world

The reasons why the nineteen-year-old son is disobedient:

1. Children have grown up, have their own thoughts, and no longer obey their parents' arrangements.

2. There is a generation gap between children’s ideas and parents’ ideas. If parents do not respect their children’s opinions or suggestions, they will make their children do rebellious things. Therefore, parents should know more about their children's different thoughts at different stages, especially the inner world of children aged 18 or 19. If they can synchronize with their children's thinking, parents will not have differences with their children.

3. Many parents, while demanding their children, cannot do it themselves. For example, most parents ask their children to play with mobile phones as little as possible, but they often play with their mobile phones until midnight. As the saying goes, don’t do to others what you don’t want others to do to you. Blindly asking children to do things that you can’t even do yourself seems to be inconsistent with the concept of education both emotionally and rationally. It also gives children sufficient reasons and Parents fight.