How to deal with college students' roommate relationship

One of the most common problems after we go to college is the disagreement with our roommates' living habits. The dormitory is also a small group. Dealing with the correct dormitory relationship is something that everyone should learn. I have sorted out the following points for you.

First, the schedule is unified.

There are three or four, five or six or even more people living together in a dormitory, so it is advisable to have a unified schedule to adjust. Only when we coordinate and abide by * * * can we reduce disputes, eliminate friction and maintain normal life order. If you are a "night owl", you go to bed very late at night and wait until all the dormitory members are asleep before washing and sleeping, which will easily wake others up and affect their rest. Over time, you will arouse the resentment of your roommates. Therefore, all members of the dormitory should try to unify their living time and reduce the gap between work and rest. If something really happens, members who get up early or go to bed late should also try to reduce the influence of sound and light on their roommates. Therefore, it is necessary to unify the schedule of work and rest, which can deepen your roommate's goodwill towards you.

Second, complete the distribution of handyman.

A person can write "I am on duty today" on a cardboard and hang it on the bedside of a classmate on duty (or a more suitable and conspicuous place). After a week of cleaning, this person will hang the sign on the bedside of the next classmate on duty on Sunday night. In this case, you don't have to consider the day of the week. If the students who have something to do that day may not be able to come in the evening, the head of the dormitory can help clean it up. If that classmate really took a long vacation, give it to the next classmate. The main thing is that the dormitory should cooperate with each other. Don't think it's wrong to scan more or help others.

Third, you can't ask your roommate for help unconditionally.

Nowadays college students are often lazy, especially on weekends. They stay in bed all the time and seldom go to the canteen to eat. Everyone is used to ordering takeout, but because they are in bed, they will ask their roommates to help. Some students even went further and asked them to help them with their laundry and homework. But whether you ask your roommate to take delivery for you, or ask your roommate to help you wash clothes, or ask your roommate to help you with your homework, there is a limit. You can't always ask your roommate for help. If you always ask your roommates for help, they won't say anything, but they still feel very uncomfortable, because no one has the obligation to help you unconditionally.

Fourth, take an active part in group activities.

There are no more classes in college than in high school, so there is a lot of time in college. Roommates will organize various activities, such as going to KTV, having a picnic, traveling and so on. Everyone should take part in activities organized by roommates. Although we are all roommates and close people, after returning to the dormitory, we often play mobile phones, watch movies and play games, and there is little communication between roommates. Therefore, when you meet these activities organized by roommates, you should actively participate, not to mention being a gregarious person in the class, at least in the dormitory. Through these activities, you can deepen the interaction between roommates and deepen mutual understanding and relationship.

Fifth, do not infringe on the privacy of roommates.

In the collective environment of dormitory, it is very important to respect the privacy of others. Don't ask your roommate what he doesn't want to say, which will easily arouse others' disgust. Also, it's sad to keep what your roommate secretly tells you as a little secret between you two, and don't turn around and tell the world with a big speaker.

Sixth, don't compare.

Everyone comes from all corners of the country, and each student's family conditions are different. Rich students should not wear colored glasses and make language attacks on poor students. This behavior is really childish, and it looks like a child is making trouble for others. Don't compare each other, and don't compare who has more living expenses, who wears more famous brands and who uses better mobile phones. Don't underestimate these comparisons. If you are young, it will affect your roommate's feelings. If it is too big, it may make poor students go to campus for loans, which will affect their lives.