Good love is always the effort of two people, rather than the compromise of one person.

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Recently I read an article online - "On New Year's Eve, I ended my eight-year relationship." The heroine Wenwen in the article has an Electra complex due to her own experience, so when she met the private entrepreneur Feng due to work, she was immediately attracted by his humor, maturity and stability.

Gao Feng confessed to her, saying that he fell in love with her the first time they met. He said that she was the one he was looking for. His daughter-in-law was arranged by her parents and had no feelings. He was preparing for a divorce and asked her to wait. He divorced and then married her.

What a clumsy, low-level, vulgar plot, but she believed it and was still immersed in his sweet words and couldn't extricate herself.

People often say that love makes people blind. In fact, what makes people blind is love. It is clearly that the person involved is willing to cover his eyes with his hands, and then see everything he wants to see through the gaps between his fingers.

Even if he gave her a nice car and a mansion, and gave her more of a world for two, he couldn't give her cuddles under the sun. Even holding hands would make him panic. He took her to many beautiful places, but he never took her to a friend's party. After all, she ended up being the third party that even she despised.

What is love?

Qian Zhongshu said to Yang Jiang, before I met you, I never thought about getting married. When I met you, I never thought about getting married with anyone else.

Love is the encounter between one lonely soul and another lonely soul. It is a lifelong commitment and stay together.

Even if love that is not for the purpose of marriage is as dazzling as fireworks, in the end it will be a pile of debris, devastation, and nothing but kidneys.

Love is when he holds your hand and smiles happily to everyone who comes his way, with your shadow in his eyes.

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"I love him wholeheartedly and have sacrificed so much for him. Why is he so cruel?" His girlfriend Ating, who had been fighting alone for love for three years, burst into tears. Crying on the sofa.

The first time Ating saw Ziwen on the boulevard, she fell instantly. During four years of college, the beautiful and cheerful Ating rejected countless suitors and stuck to the love in her heart. She believed that she could keep the clouds clear and see the moonlight. Sure enough, Ziwen broke up with her high school sweetheart. Ating was overjoyed. She firmly believed that her gentleness and understanding could capture Ziwen's hurt heart. She slowly approached him, chatted with him, went hiking with him, and worked with him late into the night. Later, she cooked, washed and tidied the room for him, just like a little wife. But he would send her home no matter how late it was.

Ating said, I always dreamed of being with him, and wanted to hear him say, don’t leave tonight, stay. However, he never said that, even if he got caught in the rain and had a headache that day, I was in tears, but he still insisted on sending me home. I licked my face and asked if I could stay, and he said it would be bad for my reputation.

For the tree of love to blossom and bear fruit, it always requires two people to work together, one to water it and the other to fertilize it. Otherwise, there will be too much water, roots will rot, and there will be too much fat and leaves will wither.

Because she had sacrificed so much, even though she had been performing this one-man show of love for three years, which was sad and exhausting, Ating could never make up her mind to let go. She was afraid that she would regret it. Fortunately, someone helped her make a decision, which saved her from the dark abyss of pain.

Ziwen is on a business trip and accidentally discovers his drunken ex-girlfriend in a bar. He learns that his ex-girlfriend’s savings were defrauded by a scumbag. The shocked ex-girlfriend leaves her job, sleeps during the day, and gets drunk at night. Ziwen said nothing about bringing back his ex-girlfriend. Ating asked Ziwen why with red eyes. Ziwen looked away, looked at his ex-girlfriend sleeping on the bed, and said lightly, I'm sorry, I don't want to delay you.

This is the cruel side of love. If you don’t love, you don’t love. No matter how hard you try, it’s useless.

"What's wrong with me?" Ating murmured.

It’s not that you are bad, it’s that you haven’t met anyone who understands you.

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On Valentine's Day, the 40-year-old Manager Wang received a bouquet of red roses. According to insiders, the flower sender was none other than Manager Wang’s husband, the chief CEO of Huanian Company. This news was so shocking that the young girls in the office were asking how Manager Wang met such a good love.

Manager Wang thought for a while and asked, if a man said, I will support you, would you marry him?

As expected, all the girls answered almost in unison, yes.

Manager Wang’s eyes crossed the young cheeks of the girls, he sighed softly, and said slowly, the worst thing I did in my life was to believe what the man said. This sentence is poisonous.

The girls’ eyes suddenly fell on Manager Wang’s face like a spotlight, and the office was so quiet that one could hear their heartbeat.

In this way, we learned Manager Wang’s little-known secret.

When Manager Wang met her husband, she was already a key member of the business, and the company had intended to promote her. But at this juncture, she accidentally became pregnant.

Her husband’s family was passed down by only three generations, so he immediately asked her to go home to ensure the pregnancy. She was a little reluctant to let go of what she had achieved and was hesitant. The husband hugged her, with a doting look on his face, and said, I will support you.

At that time, she was picked up by her husband in the envious and jealous eyes of her colleagues.

After giving birth to her son, she also thought about re-entering the workplace, but the child was too young and she was reluctant to leave full power to a nanny, so she put it off and became a full-time housewife. But in her spare time, she practices yoga, does skin care, keeps fit, travels, learns swimming, and flower arranging, and still lives a delicate life.

But gradually, she felt bored, and she had less and less topics to talk about with her former friends. Friends chatted about work and gossip, but she felt so far away that she couldn't get a word in. Later, when friends got together, they called her no matter what, and she lost interest.

She felt that she had been abandoned by life and wanted to seek comfort from her husband. However, her husband was very busy and often took work home. Sometimes it would take a long time to communicate with colleagues, and she was impatient to wait. , her husband signaled her to rest, and she shook her head, but she fell asleep at some point. When she woke up, her husband had already gone to work.

She felt that she and her husband were no longer as close as before, but she comforted herself that her husband was too busy. Until one day, her husband had an argument with a colleague on the phone. She asked concernedly what was going on. Maybe she was in a bad mood. Her husband said impatiently, "Don't ask, you don't understand!"

Her husband’s words were like a slap in the face, waking her up. Once upon a time, her husband and she had endless things to talk about. Even if she didn't understand something, her husband would patiently tell her.

She suddenly realized that she should not lose her job. Losing your job means losing your qualifications to work with others, losing your job means losing your right to speak, and losing your job means losing yourself.

She wants to return to work.

The husband explained that he was in a bad mood at the time. She smiled and shook her head and said, it's not your fault, it's because I have to be myself.

After returning to the workplace, she was horrified to find that she was out of touch with society. Everything has to start from scratch. Fortunately, she has a character that refuses to admit defeat, and she quickly found the feeling and caught up. And her husband returned to his previous doting on her.

Only by being yourself with a distinctive personality can you encounter the best love and marriage.

I would rather lose my marriage than my job. Although Manager Wang's concluding words may sound a bit heartbreaking, the importance of work to women is self-evident.

Work can not only bring economic independence, but also achieve personal independence and avoid becoming a dependency of men. More importantly, work is a stage. As long as you work hard, you can realize your own life value.

As a woman, no matter what she faces, she must not lose her goals and pursuits, and she must not lose herself due to being in a superior environment. A woman who loses herself will eventually lose her love and family.

Having a job that you are willing to work hard for, a salary that you can control at will, a circle of friends of your own, and a proud figure are the standard features of contemporary women.

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The "Hedgehog Law" says that two sleepy hedgehogs hugged each other because of the cold, but because each of them is covered with thorns, they will become uncomfortable if they are close together. It stings the other person, but makes him sleep restlessly.

Therefore, the two hedgehogs left a distance, but the cold was unbearable, so they hugged each other again. After struggling several times, they finally found a more suitable distance that allowed them to keep each other warm without getting stuck.

This "psychological distance effect" in the process of interpersonal communication also applies to love and marriage.

Men and women in a relationship must first be independent individuals, and then find the most appropriate distance to get along with each other, rely on each other without relying on each other, encourage each other without dragging them down, and care for each other without losing themselves. Only in this way can they Walk hand in hand to enjoy the beauty of life.