How do Norwegians hold babies?

A while ago, a mother got on the bus with her child in her arms. The young man sitting in the special seat didn't give up his seat in time and was beaten by the child's father. Read this social news that caused a heated discussion in Weibo. My first thought is, why do Norwegian women rarely give up their seats to women with children? In Norway, mothers with babies are the main users of public transport. Perhaps for this reason, buses and subways are convenient for getting on and off strollers, and there are also special areas. Mom usually stands by the car.

Of course, due to the great difference in population density, public facilities investment ratio and per capita resources between China and Norway, it is not suitable for comparison. However, it gives the impression that Norwegians rarely hold their children in their hands. Babies who can't walk are mostly fathers with baby backpacks hanging on their chests to see the scenery, like male kangaroos with babies. One-year-old or two-year-old children who can already limp ask themselves to come down and walk when they don't want to take a stroller. Of course, parents will support them. A little older, three or four years old, you can stand on your own feet. Of course, parents don't hug, and when the bus is crowded, the passengers sitting rarely give their seats to such a big child.

Norwegians don't even hold children at home and elsewhere. The most common sight is that children are crawling around on the ground and grass, and parents and guests are laughing and laughing. When Miao Miao's grandparents came to Norway to see Xiao Miao, we invited a guest. Adults stand together and talk. At that time 12 months old saplings were crawling on the ground, so my mother picked them up and wandered around.

When the guests left, I asked my mother, "It is also exercise for young trees to climb on the ground. Why do you always pick him up? Your arm is not good. "

Mom said, "He crawled on the ground and saw human legs. He looked up at others. I don't like this. " I sighed, "If you are not a fish, you don't know the happiness of the fish. How do you know that saplings don't like to look at people's legs? If he looks down at the girls' legs when he grows up, he will be arrested as a hooligan.

Grandma spends too little time with the saplings, so she can do whatever she wants. If I get along with my children day and night, then I have to object seriously.

After the sapling is born, apart from touching, eating and playing together, we really seldom hug him, and hugging him to put him to sleep is unprecedented. Many children can't let go when they are hugged, and there must be a labor force at home to hug and coax them. This is a luxury that we can't even think about here. At most, put it in the stroller and walk outside. The outdoor air is good, and children naturally sleep soundly.

I often see mothers asking their children if they want to hold them online. Experts say that holding more children is good for children's development, with a broad vision, a sense of security and intimacy, and is good for intelligence, body and personality. Give more hugs. People who have been there say that if you are used to hugging, you will have dependence. Cry if you don't hug, adults and children suffer. In fact, according to my experience, to hold or not to hold, first of all, we should start from the children's own needs, and secondly, it should help the children to develop the law of life.

Many parents say that holding a baby is basically to put you to sleep, and the child will not sleep without holding it. If you do sleep training, the child will cry badly again and often return to the old track of sleeping with him. In fact, sleep training need not be so cruel.

Babies, especially newborns, often fall asleep after eating, and then parents let their children sleep, feed them when they are hungry, and then sleep after feeding, so that at night, their children will be full of energy and can't sleep anymore. At this time, the parents are already very tired, and they are afraid to disturb others' rest. They have to hold their children with glassy eyes, just asking them not to cry and make trouble.

This situation is completely avoidable. When the sapling was still in its infancy, Tracy Hogg's Baby Whispers helped me a lot. Tracy advocates a "relaxed" rhythm. E (eat) A (exercise), S (sleep), Y (you), that is, eat-play-sleep-own time. A day begins with eating, then moves for a while, and then goes to bed. Parents can have a rest or do their own thing. Children, like puppies, are habitual animals. Once he adapts to this rhythm, he forms a fixed expectation value: when eating and playing, he is in close contact with his parents. Sleeping is sleeping quietly by yourself. A sense of order will make children feel safe and comfortable, and it is also convenient for parents to arrange their own time. In this way, the saplings can probably go to sleep after the full moon: take a shower at 9 pm and go to the bedroom, and then they can fall asleep by themselves. 1 1: 00 and 3: 00 can sleep until 8 am.

Probably because I have the habit of sleeping by myself, young trees never need company when they sleep in the future. At most, I tell bedtime stories and then sleep by myself. Many friends are envious when they hear that I never need to sleep with them.

According to the recommendation of Norwegian doctors and health nurses, saplings sleep in their own beds at birth and are used to having their own space. Doctors emphasize the need to cultivate children's ability to sleep by themselves, as well as the ability to lie down, turn over and crawl. Children over one year old, entering kindergarten, spend a lot of time outdoors every day and begin to explore the world with their own legs and feet. By the time the children are 2 or 3 years old, some parents have arranged for their children to learn skiing and skating, so that they can enjoy gliding.

Although Norwegians don't advocate having more children, they definitely don't advocate leaving them alone. There are several situations that encourage parents to have more children. First, for premature babies, hospitals and health stations encourage the use of "kangaroo parenting method". It is to wrap the child around the mother with elastic cloth belt, preferably skin to skin, which is of great benefit to the weight gain and health recovery of premature infants. For children born normally, parents should also have more physical contact with their children, such as touching, such as mother-child yoga. Usually there should be belly time, which is the time for children to play on their parents' stomachs. Parents look at their children and communicate with them with exaggerated expressions and voices.

Secondly, in crowded festivals, children are at their best. Because dads let their children ride around their necks. The children are holding their father's head. They are proud of themselves. Some dads also put one on their shoulders and two in their arms, which is really the most masculine moment.

The third situation is to let children express their feelings with hugs. Say goodbye to parents in the morning, go home and say goodbye to teachers in the afternoon, and go out to be a guest and say goodbye to relatives and friends. When you receive gifts, you should hug them and kiss your face to show your happiness and love for each other.

Let children have a sense of security, order and independence, and learn to express their feelings and love, which can be achieved through timely "hugs".