Phoenix Man: My brother needs 200,000 yuan to get married, but my parents-in-law are traveling abroad. What happened to my divorce?

In marriage and love, there is no absolute meaning to take for granted. The two sides come together on the principle of equality and voluntariness, whether giving or taking is based on voluntariness. Marriage is not a transaction, and it should not be a transaction.

Money is often a sharp weapon to destroy marriage, and it also brings seemingly lofty love back to reality. How to weigh the economy after marriage is not only a problem for two people, but also a problem for two families.

As Chen Yushu said, "When the balance of love is added to the weight of money, the balance of happiness will be lost. When marriage is betrayed, it is often the beginning of a love tragedy. If money is regarded as the embodiment of love, it is undoubtedly putting love on the gallows. "

That's how Wu Yuan pushed his love and marriage to an end, but now, he still doesn't feel that he did anything wrong.

Wu Yuan was born in the countryside, and his parents were both born and raised in the countryside, and he never even walked out of the mountains all his life. Wu Yuan lived up to expectations. She was admitted to the university by her own efforts, which changed her fate.

But as a Phoenix man, his shoulders still bear the hope of a family. Since he graduated from work, he has been scrimping and saving every month, and the rest of the money has been sent to his parents and his younger brother who has not yet worked.

Among his peers, Wu Yuan is excellent in other aspects except his poor family. Hard-working, hard-working, years of polishing has also developed excellent working ability, no bad hobbies.

Excellent people will naturally meet excellent people. It was in this case that Wu Yuan met Qin Meng.

Qin Meng and Wu Yuan fell in love at first sight. They also feel that everything is suitable for each other, so they naturally fall in love. After two years of love, their love and career gradually stabilized and they began to plan to get married.

02.

Qin Meng's family is completely different from Wu Yuan's. Qin Meng's parents are in business. Although they are either rich or expensive, as long as Qin Meng wants, they have tried their best to satisfy them. Therefore, Qin Meng was raised by rich people and never worried about money.

In the family background, Qin Meng and Wu Heng can be said to be people from two different worlds.

At the time of marriage, Qin was distracted and open-minded. Not only do you not want a bride price, but even the wedding room is provided by Qin dreamers. After marriage, they had difficulties at home, and Qin Meng's parents helped them when they could, and they never cared about Wu Yuan economically.

Perhaps because of the understanding of her parents-in-law, Wu Yuan became accustomed to their efforts. Over time, it has evolved into a matter of course.

Wu Yuan's own money and savings for such a long time are still unreservedly dedicated to his family of origin. When his small family needed a lot of money, he began to lend a helping hand to his wife and in-laws.

Qin Meng didn't take this seriously at first.

Because of the small living environment, she doesn't have much consciousness and sense of crisis about money. Even her own job is easy, because her parents are her biggest backing.

She felt that since she married Wu Yuan, she was a family, and Wu Yuan's family was poor, so she could naturally help.

What's more, Wu Yuan is very kind to her and treats her like a little princess. It is said that children from poor families take charge early, and Wu Yuan is the best example. Whether cooking or doing housework, Wu Yuan does a good job. At home, Qin Meng doesn't need to worry about anything.

But after a long time, even the dull piano dream feels wrong. Parents' help to Wu Yuan has exceeded its due limit. Wu Yuan's money is rarely reserved for himself and their small family, and almost all of it is used to subsidize the family of origin.

Every time Qin Meng needs money, Wu Yuan has only one sentence: "Ask your parents for it."

03.

Although Qin Meng is simple, he is not stupid. Wu Yuan is selfish in money and has never thought about her. This marriage seems to be just an ATM machine of Wu Yuan's family, and her family has been helping the poor from beginning to end.

Unexpectedly, before Qin Meng could attack Wu Yuan, Wu Yuan took the initiative to "pick things up" again.

The cause of the incident is that Wu Yuan's younger brother has reached marriageable age. Although there is already a good marriage partner, the other party said that if there is no bride price and marriage room, they will not get married.

Although Wu Yuan has been sending money to his family for years, Wu Yuan's parents are also very frugal and have saved a lot of money, but it is still not enough. Therefore, Wu Yuan set his eyes on the rich in-laws and bluntly needed 200,000 yuan to marry his younger brother.

Now, not only her parents-in-law are unhappy, but even Qin Meng, who has always been indifferent to money, is angry.

She said to Wu Yuan, "My parents have helped us too much over the years. They also need money to support the elderly and have no money. "

If this sentence is put in the first marriage, perhaps Wu Yuan will consider it from the perspective of Qin and Meng families, so he will give up and find another way. But now, he has been "indulged" by Qin Meng and Qin Meng's parents, thinking that Qin should help his family.

So when he heard this, all he felt was anger. He shouted at Qin Meng: "I see, your family just doesn't want to help me. It's all family and so selfish. It is better to divorce. "

Hearing Wu Yuan's words, Qin Meng's heart was half cold.

Qin Meng's parents feel that they have helped their son-in-law for so many years, but they have become baiwenhang. In a rage, Qin Meng said: "Divorce is divorce. Our family has helped you for so many years, that's enough! "

04.

After the impulsive divorce, Wu Yuan was criticized by many people. Many people say that he pushed his luck, which led to the breakdown of his marriage.

Who knows, he also responded plausibly: "My brother needs 200,000 yuan to get married, but his parents-in-law would rather travel abroad than pay for it. Is it wrong for me to divorce? "

Obviously, in Wu Yuan's mind, a correct view of marriage has been missing.

Even if the parents-in-law have money, they have no obligation to help. They are willing to pay because they love their daughter and want her to live a better life, which does not mean that they are willing to give in indefinitely.

As for traveling abroad, it is entirely Wu Yuan's moral kidnapping. They earn their own money. Do they need someone to tell them how to spend it? It is Qin Meng's luck that such a selfish and greedy man divorced in time.

However, Qin's distraction is not without fault. Her family's connivance with Wu Yuan over the years is also the key reason for his ideological change. If a clear line had been drawn from the beginning, Wu Yuan would not be so greedy now.

Therefore, it is not unreasonable to be suitable for each other. The same growth environment, the greatest probability can create the same values and outlook on life. After marriage, you should keep the proper boundaries with your family, instead of sacrificing your partner and asking for it in marriage.

Otherwise, it is only a matter of time before the marriage breaks up.