I want to travel with my boyfriend, but I don't know how to say it.

Traveling abroad is a matter between you and your boyfriend, and you are both adults and fully capable of making decisions about your own arrangements. But what worries you is that your parents and his parents will object, that is, in your opinion, you must listen to and respect your parents' opinions about the arrangement of some important events between you and your boyfriend, otherwise you will have anxiety in your heart. What does this anxiety mean to you? Does it mean that you are unfilial, don't understand and don't respect your parents?

First, the closeness of your relationship is the key to whether you can travel together.

Traveling abroad involves time, money and willingness, and now we have to consider the epidemic situation in the destination. If you have a good relationship with your boyfriend and you know him well, it is very simple to discuss with your boyfriend.

1. Please review this information first: Does he have the right time to go out with you? Have you reached an agreement on tourism consumption? During his usual time together, did he reveal the idea of going out alone with you? Is it the place you all want to go? How safe is it?

2. Then, express your consideration about traveling with him and give it meaning. Falling in love is easier than getting along, and traveling can enhance feelings, temper character, or celebrate graduation. If you think it over, it will be easier for you to discuss it with her. You consider his situation and your ideas, discuss with him and see what results you can get. Maybe this is also an opportunity to test feelings. If he happily agrees to travel with you, it is necessary to consider the attitude of both parents.

Second, the permission of both parents is an external factor that affects whether you can travel together.

Actually, I think it's very good that you can consider your parents' attitude. Because, no matter how old a person is, the family relationship with parents is one of the most important relationships that affect our happiness. The relationship with parents is the last thing we can give up except our own daughter in this life, so it is of course important to consider their attitude and get their blessing. Let's see:

1. As the parents of the man, what factors do you think affect their attitude? I think we should return to the intimacy of your relationship. If you have met your parents, or if they are satisfied with their son's choice, I believe their problems should not be serious.

2. As your parents, on what basis do you think they will support or oppose your travel plan? Put yourself in the woman's shoes, and the woman's parents may think more, worrying about whether the relationship between you is stable, worrying about whether the girl will suffer and be cheated. Or it's not safe outside now. I don't want you to take any chances. You know what your parents think best. Think about how to put yourself in their shoes and consider whether their worries about you are reasonable. Then communicate according to their concerns and dispel their doubts.

In fact, the reason why you do this is largely because of the way you were raised in the process of growing up, because the way a person is treated determines how he treats himself. In other words, your parents may have too much interference and control over you when you grow up. To a great extent, you not only recognize and internalize the way they treat you, which will make you not only distrust yourself, but also have the ability to make independent choices and decisions about your life. At the same time, you will get used to the control of your parents. Without parents' participation, you will have anxiety and fear.

Allow and accept these inner fears and anxieties, and then understand that you have grown up today and are no longer the weak and helpless child you used to be. As long as you want, you can make choices and decisions for your life, because your life must be controlled by you. Although it is difficult for you to take this step, you must work hard. You can tell your boyfriend how you really feel and sincerely express your desire for his support and understanding. ?