What should I do if I don't agree with my good friend's consumption view and cause embarrassment?

I think this kind of thing is inevitable. We are in college now. People in a dormitory come from different cities and different families, so it is inevitable that there will be differences in family income and consumption concepts. Diligent and thrifty students should be praised, but we don't need to criticize those students who spend money blindly. Whether a person spends money depends on where his money is spent.

If he spends all his money on unrestrained recharge games, eats and drinks big fish and meat in restaurants every day, and buys a lot of clothes and cosmetics every day without wearing them, then of course we blame him. However, if he only buys things in the game occasionally, is it harmless? Is it understandable if he only goes to the restaurant occasionally to improve his food? Is it reasonable for him to buy only two clothes when the season changes?

Of course, some people will say that 50 yuan is enough for me to buy a dress, and she buys thousands of clothes. Is it too much? But my friend, it is commendable that you save money for your family, but her parents are willing to give her so much money that people don't steal or rob it. Why are you talking about her? Everyone has the right to pursue the quality of life, and students with poor families can also study hard and improve their families during college. Of course, blame those people who buy thousands of clothes and shoes every once in a while and pile them up in the closet without wearing them. There is no doubt that they are black sheep. But if people only buy things when they need them, but the things they buy are a little expensive, they can only say that their spending power is different, and you are not qualified to blame others. After all, people don't spend your money.

In fact, many contradictions do not lie in where your spending power is or what your consumption concept is, but in whether you are a person who knows how to care about others. Individual consumption can be based on their own ability, but collective activities should take everyone into account. Kanekin's law is not only used for study, you can also imagine a classmate with family difficulties. You insist on spending too much with others, and even I will scold you. Collective consumption is a qualified and successful activity only when everyone's situation is taken into account and everyone can feel comfortable.

For example, watching movies, the quality of movies is constant, and the price difference between big cinemas and small cinemas often lies in their own decoration and services. The same is true of watching movies. The ticket price of a big cinema is basically around 120 yuan, while that of a small cinema is only 20 minutes to 30 yuan. When there are differences in spending power, you can choose a small theater. Your viewing experience will not be much reduced, but it will reduce many contradictions in this group activity. It is also suitable for KTV or restaurants. In supermarkets and shopping malls, everyone spends their own money and there is no mutual influence. At this time, you can be casual according to your own ability. It is important not to judge other people's things. It's none of your business whether you think it's expensive or cheap, or whether you think the quality is good or not. That's someone else's business. When you are shopping, what you have to do is not to let your friends suffer.

In short, when we get along with friends, we will be more tolerant, less angular and less unhappy. Time with friends is precious and needs our careful maintenance.