Is it true that you are so poor that even your relatives look down on you?

Poor man, greedy relatives may despise you!

But people are poor and short-sighted, and all relatives despise you!

My wife's uncle is from the countryside, and there is only one shed and two daughters at home. I didn't come out to work until three in the morning, and I ate and drank when I had some money at home. I have several sheep, which are the thinnest in the village. Others say that raising other sheep is a kind of pain!

His wife never works or cooks for him. All day, healthy people lie in bed, and the two little girls eat whatever they pick up, and other children can eat candy with them.

The only hard time for his wife is when her relatives in the mountains come, that is, she takes out all the good food and gives them a pile before leaving.

And these are not the factors that I think his ambition is short. At least his own land is being planted and sheep are being raised.

What happened later refreshed my view.

His little daughter has a nosebleed and a high fever for some reason. His wife left her little daughter in bed, and two days later he came to my father-in-law and said that her daughter was afraid. My father-in-law quickly arranged for someone to be sent to the hospital for examination, and the result was leukemia.

When they heard that they were ill, their first reaction was how much it would cost. I heard that it would cost hundreds of thousands, and both of them took the initiative to take the children home, saying that they would die.

My father-in-law is furious. Call me, and I will immediately mobilize my relatives and friends to find relevant information, and also write to the local government and the Red Cross.

Finally, by mobilizing many people, she raised more than 200,000 yuan for her daughter's treatment.

In this process, the only thing they did was to keep her daughter alive.

I heard that there are more than 200 thousand. He called me privately and said that he would take out all the money. I asked him why, but he didn't say. Finally, make the money into a government trust, corresponding to her daughter, how much money to pay each month and how much living expenses to give him.

He took his daughter to Chongqing for chemotherapy. Under our propaganda, people go to the hospital to visit them from time to time and give them things and money. But one day, he called me and made me almost want to give up. He said, "The man who came yesterday was stupid. He gave me 2000 yuan, and I said my daughter gave me 3000 yuan before dinner. Very embarrassed! " . It broke my heart to hear him say that, but looking at his daughter who knows nothing, I still tried to help him.

Later, his daughter's condition stabilized. He took his daughter home, and the government provided subsistence allowances for his whole family, and the children did not have to pay any fees for going to school. The last payment of the hospital was also used to decorate the house. His family has changed.

The last contact was the day after the Mid-Autumn Festival. He called me and asked me why I didn't call him on Mid-Autumn Festival. I wanted to swear at that time. During the Mid-Autumn Festival, I was too busy to make phone calls at home. Why should I call you to say hello? I didn't even drink your water when I helped you. Now that your conditions have improved a little, do you still want my flattery (respect)? I'm too speechless.

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It is normal for people to be looked down upon in real life. The most hateful thing is that you tried your best to help him when he was poor. When he is a little better than you, he will gradually alienate you, indifference you, and even crowd you out. I once had a friend who I regarded as my brother. He didn't come out until 12 engaged in pyramid schemes. He tried his best to pull me in during the pyramid scheme. I know he is engaged in pyramid selling, but I didn't go. 12 over, he came out. At that time, it can be said that his family was heavily in debt, basically the debts of his brothers and sisters and bank loans. In those years, he kept bragging to me about how much money they made. He really regards me as his best friend and wants me to make a fortune. After he came out, he was embarrassed to ask me for money. Knowing his difficulties, I offered to lend him 5000 yuan. In the following years, he started a small business and paid off some debts. 16 years, he came to me. I'm a breakfast shop in Chengdu, and he wants to do it. He said he had no money to invest, so I encouraged him to do it. I said I would try my best to help him. As a result, he found a good pavement in a lot, and the investment will take about six or seven years. He is afraid to take this shop for fear that he will have no money to run it in the future. Said to borrow 20 thousand before borrowing, the shop won the decoration to buy machinery and so on. There is not enough money. I transferred 5000 yuan to him, and my business was bad in the first year, so I don't want to do it. Another friend and I encouraged him to stick to it, and we knew that he would do big business (new high-rise residential area) after sticking to this position. Later, business was getting better every day, and the money owed was also paid, and there were hundreds of thousands on hand. On the contrary, my business is getting worse every day and I have to close down. From then on, he gradually alienated me and stood above me. He never said how I helped and encouraged him. He always boasts about his good eyesight and exquisite craftsmanship in crowded places. Let's talk about such friends. Do I need to continue?

I don't look down on the poor. I've had times like this. When I was particularly poor, I also had friends from poor families. But I especially look down on a person who is not only poor but also complains all day. It can be said that there was such a person around me. He never works hard, and his family of three lives entirely by borrowing money. He dreams of doing business all day. In the case of a pile of foreign debts, he actually wanted to give birth to a second child for the boy, and even borrowed the production fee.

Moreover, this person's consumption concept is also very strange. His spending doesn't match his income. His monthly salary is 3,000 yuan, and he buys toy flowers for his children 1000. There are all kinds of toys at home. Anyway, he borrowed money when he had no money. The child has an upset stomach and wants to buy more than 200 yuan, but I bought his parents a cake of 100 yuan, which he thought was expensive because it was not for his own use. This is the best person I have ever met.

I don't think poverty matters. As long as you keep working hard, you will get better and better.

In most cases, people are really poor and it makes sense not to leave their loved ones. Don't believe it. Everyone who blinks knows this truth. People who don't blink think that others really treat themselves as guests.

As the saying goes, small wealth depends on diligence, and great wealth depends on life. Some people are really poor. They worked hard all their lives and ended up with nothing. Although it is not too bad to be diligent in this society now, there is definitely no problem with food and clothing, but it depends on who you compare with. Ordinary people in your family have one, and relatives have money. You are diligent, and you will be looked down upon when you visit relatives on holidays. Relatives don't laugh at you behind others' backs, but satirize you face to face, which is quite sad to think about.

Almost all my relatives are relocated households, and people broke out in middle age. As a result, those of us who have not been demolished are all poor. My aunt brought two bottles of wow-ha-ha when she came to my house on holidays, or ate the rest. There was a thorn in her words, and it was very obvious that she looked down on people. I may feel that life at home is difficult. I have never seen food and drink, and all kinds of "generosity". Every time I come, I bring something small, a few dollars. When I left, the trunk of my car was full of fruits and vegetables. I will be very happy. Although my family is not rich, it is definitely far from poor counties. My brother bought his own private car before he was twenty, and his family situation was much better than theirs. As a result, people tore it down and we became poor people in their eyes.

A relative of my family once said, don't go to their house without a gift of several thousand dollars. So, for so many years, we have been far away. Take the baby to travel on holidays, and we don't go to relatives' homes. My parents can call me heartless at will. Don't go, don't go. Poor people don't go to places where relatives play and go to extremes. Don't say you don't like us, I'm not going to your house yet! So capricious, how to drop! When I was poor, I didn't eat or drink from your family, and I didn't rub your wifi. Why lick your face and find yourself unhappy? I am not stupid [yi tooth].

My parents are typical people who don't look at each other. They are afraid to borrow money when others avoid them. They also comfort themselves with things that their relatives don't have. I always like to say that I am stupid in reading and don't understand the world. I live without any human feelings and selfishness. I am deeply impressed by their three views and don't interfere. Of course, I don't take their words seriously. I just want to live my own life, so why bother?

People are poor, even their relatives are really disdainful. That is the reality.

People have to bow their heads under the low eaves. In this realistic society, people should know how to be forbearing, learn to be forbearing, instead of being blindly strong, and dialectically understand the sentence "desire is just easy to fold".

It's someone else's business that others look down on you. You are not short of hands. You have your own brain and hands, and you can bring a lot of things. In my opinion, if you are poor and despised by your relatives, you don't have to resist, get angry or vent. Instead, be diligent, seek truth from facts, and let others see your differences, your abilities and your efforts.

You take your wooden bridge, others take other people's sunny paths. In this life, people's eating, drinking, status and status are not compared with others. They didn't raise you, and you don't have to look at their faces. The main thing is to live happily and freely.

This is very reasonable because it is in the real society. People are poor, no one wants to talk to you, and no one wants to look at you again. I'm afraid of sticking to you and avoiding you. If you want others to look up to you, you must have real talent, be firm and confident, work hard and do something impressive, so that others will look up to you, otherwise, no one will look up to you.

This is a true portrayal of today's society. People are short, thin and hairy, and their relatives and friends look down upon them. They only have unremitting efforts, not afraid of hard work, down-to-earth, hard work and try again. I met many people, too. I don't make big money, but I don't make small money either. I play cards, buy yards and gamble every day. The more I gamble, the poorer I get. Therefore, I hope the gentleman will take a warning, even if I have the money to pick it up.

Give an answer, yes!

Don't ask why, are there poor and rich people among your relatives?

If there is, you will know.

For rich relatives, you hope they can help you, even if you don't have such an idea, you say you envy these people. But it is possible to say that money is great. Then it is possible that you have a problem.

You may have no feelings for poor relatives, which has nothing to do with me. But in front of this relative, you will feel more or less superior.

If you still can't understand, for example, suppose you are a boy and have two girls, one with a rich family and the other with a poor family. You must be more interested in children from rich families, not because of their looks! Everyone has a yearning for good things in his bones, and those rich people have accumulated their wealth through their own efforts. More is the embodiment of ability!

In fact, it feels very realistic, just like teachers like good students and don't like people with poor learning. Some people work hard and accumulate wealth by their own efforts, and things like character are excluded first.

You can see people's pursuit of the cloud and their concern for some poor people from the news!

Whether it is urban or rural, ancient or modern, it is a society that pays attention to human feelings. When you are weak, incompetent and poor, your relatives will pretend not to see you; When you are rich and capable, others will compliment you and want to get benefits from you. "No one in the city asks you if you are poor, and if you have money in the mountains, you have distant relatives." Even in modern society, it will still be like this, and it will get worse.

When we were young, relatives were a good word. I vaguely remember that my aunts bought us candy and fruit to eat, and sometimes they hugged us affectionately and gave us small red envelopes. If we are in the countryside, cousins will carry us across the river to play with water and catch fish and shrimp. Especially when mom and dad want to hit us, relatives will stand on our side and help us out. At that time, it seems that apart from parents, grandparents, relatives may be the best people for us, because they will treat us better than ordinary people.

When we grow up and have the ability to think independently, we will suddenly find that the word relative needs a new understanding. Especially in rural society, relatives are money relations that compare with each other and shine with each other. Get together and either talk about family affairs or gossip in the village. Moreover, opinions and contradictions often arise between relatives in rural areas. The following four situations can understand the subtlety between relatives and make people no longer have illusions.

Money is paid for happy events: money was originally a small gift from rural society to congratulate each other on doing good deeds, and it was just a courtesy. And some relatives just take advantage of their inability to get in and out and accept gifts in various names. When they need to reciprocate, they will play dumb and wish to give them a penny.

It is easier to borrow money than to borrow it: it is particularly easy to have conflicts between relatives in rural areas. It's not interesting not to borrow it. Don't ask if you borrow it. If you ask, it will be delayed. If you ask, it may make the relationship worse. Don't ask is not willing, because it is hard money.

Nobody asks you whether you are poor or not in downtown areas. Rich people have distant relatives in the mountains: the economic situation of a family will always change with the passage of time. As the saying goes, thirty years in Hedong and thirty years in Hexi, in rural society, when you and your relatives have the same economic conditions, you two families can live in peace and greet each other on holidays.

When your relatives suddenly become rich and your family lags far behind them. Even if you lower your profile and bring them many gifts, you will still be looked down upon and your hospitality will be much worse than before. The cynicism is unbearable. Such relatives seldom come to your house. Do you think this relationship will continue?

I care about you, but I don't care about you at all: relatives sometimes seem to treat you better than their own children, but in fact they just pay lip service. For them, the most important thing is of course their children. I once heard a true story. A relative told parents that there is a good middle school in the county, and it is right to send children to school. When parents did send their children, relatives sent their children to a better middle school in the county.

In today's human society, the phenomenon that "no one asks you if you are poor in the downtown area, but if you have money in the mountains, you will have distant relatives" will intensify. Many rural and urban relatives will gradually become less and less. Less than 10 minutes after they arrived, they drove away. Due to the lack of communication, some people say that visiting relatives now is like "acting". In the future, there may be more phenomena that "no one asks you if you are poor in downtown, but if you have money in the mountains, you will have distant relatives".

When a person is poor, even in a busy market, you have no relatives to greet you. If a person is rich, even if he lives in a rural area in the mountains, he will not have relatives. This sentence reveals the cruelty and indifference of human society and makes us shudder. What do you think of this? Welcome to leave a message

Most of them are like this, and some look down on poor relatives who are not enterprising and content with the status quo because they are not saving the poor. There is a saying that the poor don't ask in the street, but the rich have distant relatives in the mountains! Expose human instinct to the fullest. When he is poor, he is afraid of infecting him with poverty. You are afraid that poor relatives will ask for money or help. When you see it from a distance, you can find an excuse to avoid it. But even if a rich relative hangs a wooden stick with a donkey's tail, he will come to you as long as he can touch the edge, even if the mountains are high and the waters are long. He flatters and pulls away to express his relationship with him, but he doesn't know that he turns a blind eye to poor relatives and really looks down on them. People who are three points poor and five points short seem to be troubles and stains in the eyes of others. When they want to do something to change the status quo and seek support, others will always think that they have come to borrow money again. Look, it's a bottomless pit for debt collectors. Lending him money is tantamount to beating a dog and eating meat buns, so they refused for various reasons! A better relative will feel that it is not enough to give him charity anyway. It is unfortunate to have such a relative. Send a beggar to minimize the loan amount, say goodbye euphemistically, with pity: only this time, there will be no next time! Therefore, people must work hard to manage their own lives. We don't expect to be rich or expensive, but we can stand up straight in front of others, otherwise, if we are poor and even look down on our loved ones, it is really a failed life!