Why is the "partner" relationship popular?

The form of "partner" is also an opportunity to start an intimate relationship.

Fresher than ambiguity, purer than blind date,

I just hope that people who are in a "partner relationship" will not feel embarrassed because of "establishing feelings" and let themselves be entangled in the state of "not having a full lover".

With feelings, you don't have to worry about it. It's just that your "relationship" has grown to that point.

There has never been a fixed and controllable relationship and feeling.

Feelings are like wild horses that are out of control.

Don't treat it like a scourge. If it happens, congratulations.

I will never meet true feelings in my life. In the "fake relationship", the form is intimate, each takes what he needs, is justified, and respects each other like a guest. someone says that

A partner is a substitute for intimacy.

Some people also refute it.

This is an exquisite version of intimacy.

The essence is that we young people are too sensitive in defense mechanism and can only accept this "very shallow" relationship connection.

If the degree is deeper, you will be afraid, uncomfortable, embarrassed and afraid of getting hurt.

Sense of boundaries and social fear are both problems of defense mechanism.

We have entered the era of "pseudo-intimacy" and we still need intimacy.

But only a "small connection" can make you feel safe and comfortable.

I understand that a friendship between gentlemen is as light as water.

If I control my intimate relationship in a "low intensity" state, I will learn a sense of identity and belonging and ease my loneliness. Then when this relationship is lost, my loss, depression and sadness can also be "small".

The latter is the point. Contemporary young people are emotional pessimists. It is more important to be less sad when you lose than to get it.

Because they have an idea rooted in their consciousness—

What you get, you will lose.

Therefore, be prepared to be "less sad if you lose".

Therefore, the "love brain" is spurned, horrible and life-destroying.

Because of fear: uncontrollable, strong feelings.

And preset the ending of "no good news".

Try to control your feelings within a rational and controllable range.

Very clever, but I don't think so.

Can feelings, feelings and emotions be controlled?

It takes talent to take the "ruthless road". Even Ximen Chuixue will meet Sun Xiuqing.

Some people are naturally sensitive and sentimental.

Moreover, the more emotional people are, the more fierce their criticism of "loving the brain" is, because they know that they have the potential to "love the brain", and the more they are afraid, the more they are repelled, and the more they are "really fragrant".

And those who are too rational and heartless are born to see only themselves and not you, so they will not be hurt by others. They all hurt others.

People who value feelings and long for intimacy, others are normal, but you are sincere. This may not be love between men and women, but it may also be dependence.