2020-03-26

The Psychology of Women at the beginning of this book tells the development and changes of women's social status. With the improvement of women's knowledge level and educational status, women's social status is also constantly improving, and they continue to enjoy the same social status as men and participate in political, economic and social life, instead of preconceived that "women are inferior to men." At the same time, it is proposed to respect the needs of women, instead of the world where society is just the needs of men as before.

Women hold up half the sky and should be considered from the perspective of equality between men and women, not from the perspective of male chauvinism. At the same time, in order to better understand women's needs and do less things that make girlfriends uncomfortable, we should take the initiative to understand women's physical and psychological characteristics.

Physiological characteristics of women

Menstruation is a physiological feature of women. Menstruation usually lasts for 3-7 days, and the average amount of bleeding is 50 ml, ranging from 20- 100 ml, which is dark red. There will be some physical and emotional discomfort during menstruation. Abnormal menstruation includes menorrhagia, menorrhagia, menorrhagia and menorrhagia. Pay attention to the cheerful mood during menstruation, and negative emotions will lead to amenorrhea. Avoid hot, sour, cold and irritating food. Moderate exercise. Pay attention to keep warm and menstrual hygiene.

Leucorrhea is a physiological feature of women. Abnormal leucorrhea is a precursor of gynecological diseases, manifested as itching, pain in urine, burning sensation, thin yellow and so on. Transmission routes include sexual intercourse, public toilets, towels, swimming pools and so on. The prevention method is to pay attention to hygiene and improve immunity.

Early pregnancy reaction of fertility change: nausea, loss of appetite, burnout, etc. As long as you keep a normal diet and a happy mood, the fourth month will disappear on its own. Second trimester: dizziness, calf spasm, edema and low back pain may occur. Pay attention to a balanced diet, prevent constipation and pay attention to a low-salt diet. Late pregnancy: stomach discomfort, edema, spasm and low back pain may occur. transmit

Climacteric syndrome caused by menopausal hormone changes refers to some symptoms of autonomic nerve dysfunction in women aged 45-55 during menopause, mainly manifested as menstrual changes and emotional changes.

Psychological characteristics of women

There are some differences between men and women in feeling, perception, memory, imagination and thinking. Thinking is an advanced form of psychological activity. Men's thinking is logical and women's thinking in images is strong, often with stories and metaphors and rich emotions.

Talking to women belongs to the "feeling type" style. The content of the chat includes dress, love, family, experience and feelings about something, etc. Their small talk may have no practical significance, but through this kind of small talk and interaction, the purpose of maintaining a harmonious, equal and consistent relationship is achieved. However, with the increase of women's employment, women's topics began to change to economy, occupation and news.

There are some differences between men and women in motivation, will, mood, ability and personality, but there is little difference.

Sexual desire in women's minds, love is the main psychological factor that causes sexual desire. Men may think because of passion, while women think because they love you. It is very important for a husband to be considerate and concerned about his ardent love and warmth. Unhappiness in life has a negative impact on women's sexual desire; Objective environment also affects female orgasm, such as poor environment and light. The sense of touch of the body is often stronger than vision, especially when sensitive parts are touched; Comfortable communication between husband and wife can improve sexual desire and enjoy the warmth of love.

interpersonal communication

Self-worth, need. Women's demand for appreciation, praise and affirmation by others is obviously higher than that of men.

A sense of security. ? You will feel much safer with a companion on the dark road. Although it is dangerous for two people to be together, they feel much safer. Your girlfriend comes home alone at night, so you can pick her up. Let her know that you are always by her side; She is ill. It may not help if you fly back at once, but she feels safe. After something happened to her, she thought you would be around.

love

what is love ? Love is a responsibility that needs to be shared. Difficulties at home are shared by two people. Food is not enough, we share; When we encounter difficulties in our career, we will share them; Love is a tacit understanding, and two hearts feel each other. We can read each other's chats. Can read each other's needs and body signals; Love is a kind of giving, and we need to give to each other. For example, spend time on each other's things and needs; Love is a kind of luck, which needs two people to feel together. Both of them feel very happy together.

Women who choose a spouse generally like men who are tall, broad-shouldered and full of strength, which can bring women a sense of security. When choosing a mate. Women's appearance has a certain influence on men. Men's loyalty has a great influence on women, that is, you must love me. When faced with a choice, you must choose me and be good to me. For example, make your girlfriend's favorite dish, not your own. Choose the environment and things your girlfriend likes, not the environment and things you like.

Here is a new one.

Among the reasons why older women stay behind, the choice rate of "it is difficult to find a perfect man" is 69.7%, "single and free" is 38.38%, and "life is trivial" is 34.34%. From here on, you should be a perfect man, respect your girlfriend's freedom and live without fun. )

Subjective reasons: high mate selection conditions, perfectionism in love, strong ambition, fear of marriage, lack of love ability, etc.

Older women who are single for a long time may feel lonely. Because: 1 looking at others in pairs will cause loneliness. The topic of peers began to shift to family, life and other aspects. Slowly, the topic opened the gap.

Gender differences in love

Women need care, understanding, respect, loyalty, consideration and comfort. Men need trust, acceptance, gratitude, praise, recognition and encouragement.

Emotionally. W: She uses many emotional words and body language, which is subtle. She hopes that men can guess her thoughts without expressing them directly. M: It's more direct.

In character. Women's home life is neat and orderly, while men pay more attention to comfort. Women have delicate feelings, fall in love with contours critically, and are gentle. Men are realistic, open-minded, bold and resolute.

Behavioral differences: men pursue results and women enjoy the process; Men like physical intimacy, while women like language and eyes, sweet words and psychological intimacy; So, pay attention to your girlfriend's expression and communicate with her more. Feel her inner needs, not move her body)

A healthy way of love is to appreciate the positive characteristics of your lover, handle conflicts reasonably, respect each other no matter how close, give each other their own space, and don't have reckless sexual behavior. Love is not the whole of life.

How to keep love sweet? 1 like it. 2 Be humorous. 3 to share. 4 think positively, don't let life be dull)

Female marriage psychology

Happy marriage = physiology+psychology+society. Physiology includes physical quality and sexual life, psychology refers to the emotional factors between husband and wife, and society refers to colleagues, friends, work, interpersonal relationships, family and so on.

Marriage is a contract for both parties to live together, and the responsibilities they need to bear are: as partners (such as traveling and shopping together). ), * * * bear the family economy and housework, negotiate and make decisions, raise children, bear each other's family responsibilities, and don't have sex with others.

Criteria for mate selection: With the increase of economic ability, we should pay more attention to inner feelings and emotional needs.

Family stage changes: two people, giving birth to children, raising children, children leaving home, middle-aged couples, old-age retirement.

Marriage quality. Evaluate from subjective feelings. Feelings include: romance, intimacy and communication between husband and wife; Sexual life; Whether to blame each other often, frequency of conflict, degree of conflict, degree of disappointment, intention of divorce. After 3- 13 years of marriage, the quality of marriage changed in a "u" shape.

Why are married people happier than single people? 1 Emotions support each other. 2. The economy supports each other. 3 Interactive supervision and exercise. I admit that I also have emotional needs in my heart. I long for someone to accompany me, have fun together, do things together, overcome difficulties together and enjoy success together. )

Five fatal injuries in marriage: unwillingness to discuss the inner feelings of oneself and each other; Entrust yourself to the other party (neither party has the obligation to support the other); Adhere to "I am right"; Maintaining false harmony, there is no reasonable mechanism to solve contradictions, and it has been suppressed for a long time; I don't know how to deal with contradictions.

The harm of premarital sex: it brings great psychological pressure to the woman, which makes the love relationship unfavorable to her development, and her sexual attitude affects her married life at will. But the survey shows that many modern male and female college students can accept premarital sex.

Career development. Life stage division: children and students; Social citizens, workers and housekeepers; retiree

Mental health. Psychological diseases include anorexia, postpartum depression, menopausal depression, anxiety, fear, doubt, neurasthenia and so on.

abstract

The harvest is still quite big. Understand the physiological and psychological characteristics and needs of women, so you don't have to bother to explain to your girlfriend, so you know what to do. I also learned how to correctly handle sexual impulse, love relationship and marriage relationship. In order to avoid being misled by the noisy vocal cords in society, it will cause harm to your girlfriend and yourself.

Then continue to read several other books, systematically learn how to run a love relationship and do less things that make your girlfriend uncomfortable.

The best love for her is to take the initiative to grow up and do less things that make her uncomfortable ~

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2 After reading "She is Happy".

Note: (), summary, inspiration, these are my own feelings, the rest are excerpts.

First article

1. At the time of reform and opening up, southerners were very enthusiastic. Everyone wants to make more friends and do business. There is such an opportunity now. Everyone on the Internet is enthusiastic, sharing and helping each other. )

2. The author's speech and behavior left a warm, sincere and approachable impression on the other side, which generated confidence in cooperation and contributed to a single business.

I met President Shi at a company meeting. Call immediately at night: express your love first, and then chat. The distinguished people in life are of course very important, but when I meet people I admire and love, I am not shy and hesitant, and I am not ashamed to confess, but I confess generously. This character makes the author meet noble people in his life.

At the age of 4.38, he went to Beijing to study for a doctorate and graduated at the age of 43. At the age of 45, I accidentally came into contact with positive psychology and the law of happiness (the road to writing proved feasible).

It is a woman's beautiful wish to be loved all her life. I am loved by my father at home, by my husband after marriage, and by my children when I am old. For women, being spoiled is love and happiness. What is doting? Like a father to a child, play with his lover and give him gentleness and patience.

Summary: The author's success lies in her persistent dream, persistent study and improvement of her own ability. Be kind to others, make friends with others and expand interpersonal relationships.

Inspiration: While staying healthy, keep reading and keep in touch with people who are better than yourself. I believe that with my own exploration, my life will become wider and wider.

The second article

[If! SupportLists] 1, [endif] Women's looks were given by their parents before they were 30, and by themselves after they were 30. The appearance after the age of 30 comes from the sum of inner cultivation, behavior and treating people with things. ? There are two kinds of women who live happier: women who love to laugh and women who love to read (girlfriends have both)

[If! Support list ]2. [endif] Love bookcases and wardrobes. The bookcase can cultivate your temperament, and the wardrobe can cultivate your aura. Women over 40 should learn to be "old but not old"

[If! Important things in life: eat well, sleep well, work hard and study. The author also recognizes the necessity of hard work, and it is the same for me. Although the after-sales work is not very good, I will work hard, and the process of work is also a learning process, so we should take it seriously. )

[If! Support list ]4. [endif] In a family, maintaining the necessary "sense of family ceremony" is not only a manifestation that parents know and love life, but also a beautiful way for parents to teach their children to enjoy and inherit life. A sense of family ceremony, such as: jiaozi for the New Year.

[If! Support list ]5. Families should cultivate an atmosphere of reading. There are two things that parents need to teach their children personally: first, the ability to speak; The second is writing ability. (Summary: No matter whether I start a business or not, I will insist on reading and writing, and I will also cultivate a reading atmosphere at home. Because words are the carrier of human experience transmission, I need guidance from words in any action, and I hope my future family can cultivate such an atmosphere)

Summary: The author loves beauty, insists on exercise, pursues health and longevity, and tries to run a family.

Inspiration: I also want to keep exercising, pursue health and create a good family atmosphere.

The third article

[If! SupportLists] 1, [endif] positive psychology. At the entrance of the gym, two fat men came at the same time. There was a fat man who saw the figure of the person inside was so good that he felt ashamed and went home in despair. Another fat man saw that the people inside had such a good figure, so he thought that he could have such a good figure by exercising himself, and he could also have such a good figure by exercising himself, and then walked into the gym to keep exercising and reach a good figure. I recognize this positive psychology. For example, when my cousin wanted to report to Tsinghua, he analyzed it like this. He thinks that anyone who is inferior to him can be admitted, and so can he. I think the experience of other writers proves that writing is feasible, so I think I can go this way.

[If! Support list ]2. [endif] "Flow" is a very efficient and happy working state. "Flow" is a state of spiritual experience, which means that when people are completely immersed in what they are doing, they forget everything around them and even don't realize the passage of time, and they have an unspeakable sense of happiness and are very relaxed and happy inside. People who "enjoy it" can immerse themselves in what they like wholeheartedly, so even if the living conditions such as food, clothing, housing and transportation are not good, they will not care, and it is easier to feel happy if they are full. On the contrary, those who only eat and do nothing all day will not be too happy. (I recognize this state and have had this feeling. Before the college entrance examination, I experienced "flow" when I was working hard for the college entrance examination and when I was studying.

[If! Support list ]3. [endif] "Businessmen are frustrated". After experiencing the crisis, many people become more mature, more open-minded, more emotional, more confident, more supportive of people around them, and their happiness and satisfaction will also improve. I admit the meaning of "business frustration". Many people have experienced tragic situations, so when they encounter difficulties again, their confidence will be stronger.

[If! SupportLists]4, [endif] happiness formula: total happiness index = congenital inheritance+acquired environment+self-controllable psychological strength. I think the future with my girlfriend is very happy. Because of congenital inheritance, acquired environment and psychological strength, my score is not low, and my girlfriend's score is not low, so it is good to predict the overall happiness. )

[If! Support list ]5. [endif] filial piety to parents. Young parents are not allowed to take their children to travel, and the family is happy, while elderly parents are lying alone in the hospital bed. Before the Spring Festival, I want to go back with my girlfriend and change my trip home. It is right to discuss with your parents in advance. We should deal with the relationship between small families and everyone, and don't hurt the hearts of elders.

[If! Support list ]6. [endif] People should know how to be grateful and kind. It is unkind to give students expired snacks at work, and I want to stop it. Bottom line: no harm to students' health, no harm to students' face, no safety accidents, and keep students' hope for the future)

Conclusion: Recognize the importance of positive psychology. People should be kind, grateful, open and affectionate, and consider things from a positive perspective. For example, if you encounter something, you first assume a result, can you accept it? If you can accept it, then push back the conditions for realizing this result to see if you can find these conditions in this environment. If so, do it.

Inspiration: Be a person who loves to laugh, be humorous and be optimistic.

postscript

Wang Weihua came out of Kashi town at the age of 2/kloc-0 and started a business in Hainan. At the age of 38, she went to Beijing to study for a doctorate, from moss to white hair. It can be read from her words that this is an independent woman who has her own pursuit and can give herself happiness.

Like many women, she likes meditation and fantasy. When life encounters difficulties, she will also feel Lacrimosa's inner loss. She also has her own uniqueness.

[If! SupportLists] 1 and [endif] always have their own life plans and goals. And ask yourself if you have achieved your goals in stages and adjusted them in time.

[If! Support list ]2. [endif] Insist on reading and studying.

[If! Support list ]3. [endif] Talk to your body every day. Stick to eating well, sleeping well and exercising well.

[If! Support list ]4. [endif] Cherish everyone and everything you meet.

As a mother, she believes: "As a mother, when the child is born, give the child a sound and healthy body; Create a harmonious family atmosphere and cultivate children's optimistic and confident attitude after landing; Create a good learning environment and positive beliefs for children when they study; After the child becomes an adult, he has prepared enough education and living expenses, as well as a valuable interpersonal communication platform. "

Women in their prime think that what men love deeply is happiness and women. To this end, women are cautious, suffering from loss, or sadness, or missing, or joy, and all emotional changes are centered on men. The woman in the age of destiny found that happiness originated from herself, learned to love herself, experienced choice, persistence, change and abandonment, and things around her got better and better with her heart.

abstract

Summary: I think the book "Her Happiness" is well written. From the book, I learned about the growth experience and thoughts of an excellent woman, and also helped me to recognize the characteristics of an excellent woman. At the same time, I also understand the role of positive attitude and how to treat life, which provides guidance for my own life actions.

Readable place: it is the author's personal experience, thoughts and feelings.

Disadvantages: few cases and insufficient guidance on specific details.

How to read this book:

1, look at it first, about a day. Then every two days, spend two hours writing a summary.

3 "Women's psychological growth self-treatment course"

This book records more than a dozen cases consulted by the author as a psychologist and the author's comments, including many women's puzzles, directions for readers to think, ways of self-reflection and ways to solve puzzles. After reading it, I understand, don't take people too seriously, how to grasp the boundaries of lovers, how to meet the needs of girlfriends, how to run a family and so on. This is a book worth reading.

Readable place: all are real cases.

Disadvantages: the author's comments. Lack of logical and theoretical basis, more is their own subjective feelings. (Maybe this is the way of thinking of liberal arts students.)

My reading method: I spend one day reading the book quickly and two hours writing the summary.

The purpose of writing a summary: review the contents of the book, reflect on your own shortcomings, record and share.

Brief introduction of the author

1998 graduated from Chinese Department of Nanjing University, and once worked in Shenzhen newspaper.

In 2007, he was admitted as a national second-class psychological counselor, specializing in psychological counseling.

In 2009, he published a career planning novel "Grass Man".

From 2065438+00 to 2065438+03, I studied psychology with a psychology professor and wrote a psychological novel "Bones and Jackfruit".

On 20 14 douban, a column of "self-treatment course for women's psychological growth" was opened. The reading volume of the article ranks first in Douban psychological column and becomes a first-class key writer.

After 20 15, writing classes and psychotherapy classes were established, which combined writing and psychotherapy to recruit students.

The following is an excerpt from the book, () is my own feeling.

[If! SupportLists] 1, [endif] recorded women's psychology with cases.

[If! Support list ]2. [endif] In the case of dating a man, the heroine regards people as the object, excessively regards love as an investment, and ignores the more meaningful internal emotional communication between people, the satisfaction of personal spiritual world and the sweetness of love. I personally have this problem and need to correct it. 1 Know more about your feelings with your girlfriend. Such as: the waywardness of my girlfriend last night; Her loveliness; She shared my sister's story in the apartment and reminded me to enjoy the shopping strategy in the work group. These things do not necessarily produce monetary value, and they are worth doing. )

[If! Support list ]3. [endif] The heroine who peeked at her boyfriend's mobile phone didn't grasp the boundaries between good people and people. When we are together, we do things for two people. When we are apart, we do our own things. I agree with my girlfriend. When we are together, we can chat, fight, cook, go shopping, have fun and hold hands. When we are apart, we can work, pursue our dreams, meet friends and do what we like.

[If! Support list ]4. [endif] The heroine of "City Shoppers" put her life on "buying while buying" and failed to handle the relationship between consumption. (On the premise of recognizing his girlfriend's point of view and maintaining the fundamentals of life, he will over-consume and invest)

[If! Support list ]5. [Endif] The heroine of "QQ Stranger, Take My Soul" likes boys because it is very pleasant to chat and talk about various topics every day (mainly happy, just like family members, sharing various topics with girlfriends); Share your own affairs with him, listen to him analyze my problems, and constantly change your attitude towards life in the process of analysis. I want to listen, retell, explain my thoughts and convey more positive thoughts about my girlfriend. He is very capable and humorous, and his explanation is helping me solve my emotional problems. Women need to be pampered, comforted and encouraged. We should admit this fact, and then accumulate more emotions when our girlfriend needs it. For example, when she is happy, you should also be happy with her; Give companionship and comfort when you are sad; In a strange city, you should make her feel dependent. ) I hope that the boys will take the initiative to call me, greet my life and help me analyze my confusion.

(Summary: Understand her emotions from the girlfriend's point of view, so that we can chat. This way of thinking should be exercised; Take happiness as the guide to build a life; We should convey a positive attitude towards life to her through daily chat;

True mature love is rooted in reality, and then love is established. )

[If! Support list ]6. Wives are for love. Listen to her needs and think about whether her needs are correct. Can meet each other's needs, without too many mistakes, rather than according to their own needs. )

[If! Support list ]7. [endif] "Why are you sad to dump your local boyfriend?" The heroine likes lightness and elegance, loves spiritual life, likes reading, practicing yoga and drinking tea, and doesn't like frivolity and vulgarity. My girlfriend, too, likes operas and musicals and doesn't like slow things and topics.

[If! Support list ]8. [endif] The heroine of "You can't be gentle without being a woman" starts as a clerk and takes the initiative to go to work every day. The boss watched her efforts and spent four years promoting her step by step. Later, as a purchasing manager, she bargained with suppliers, explained communication with colleagues, developed the company's business and solved the company's problems. It has been verified that as long as you are healthy, resourceful and versatile, you can do it well. If the job is gone, you can look for it again. If there is no home, there is nothing. How to run a family: 1 Trust your partner. Take the time to find out how to run your family. Work hard to meet the needs of the family. 4 when you encounter problems, solve them with your family, not others. I have many questions in this respect, and I need to learn from my girlfriend.

4 Book Review of The Story of the Sahara

The book records the experience and life of San Mao and Jose in the Sahara desert. Through San Mao's infectious words, he expressed his interesting, optimistic and kind attitude towards life in his daily life. Sanmao's ability to infect words is worth studying.

What is the attraction of words? I admit that the same thing is expressed in different ways and has different appeal. For example, there is a joking tone, and the usual tone expresses the same thing, and the effect is completely different.

5 "Be a happy woman"

This book is about how to be a happy woman and gives a general idea. But I won't write the details of the operation.

[If! SupportLists] 1, [endif] I believe you can get happiness.

[If! Support list ]2. [endif] Learn to know people and find true love.

[If! Support list ]3. [endif] Know how to run a marriage.

[If! Support list ]4. [endif] Love is water, and love words are sugar; Be a man's companion, not an accessory.

[If! Support list ]5. [endif] The standard of a good man: First, be rich, have two eyes, eat a good meal, not be lazy all year round, eat whole grains, have six desires, be patient, make more friends, drink less and quit smoking, and be very open.

Summary: believe, find a way, and operate with heart. This is a methodology, which is the same in everything.

Readability: The method is clear.

Disadvantages: the methodology of one sentence should be written into a book, which leads to the fact that the details in the book come from fantasy, which has no practical guiding role and is not used.

My reading method:

[If! SupportLists] 1, [endif] There is no need to read what you have already understood. If you want to prove that your truth is correct, the ways to prove it are: you must look at the opinions of cattle people, books that can stand the test of time, and small-scale practice.

[If! Support list ]2. [endif] For this very broad book, just browse quickly and extract the theme. ? The definition of books in a broad sense: books that tell people the truth, goodness, beauty and forge ahead are not the author's personal experience, but a large number of first-line cases and a large number of data collection, without article references or theoretical basis.

[If! Support list ]3. [endif] Different books choose different reading methods. This kind of books can be read quickly, and classic books should be read carefully.

6 "Smart Women in Love"

The author's experience:

[If! SupportLists] 1, [endif] For two or three years, I needed to receive a "psychological hotline" every night. At that time, the author studied psychology during the day, but now he studies at night. This experience became the source of his later writing.

Inspire:

[If! SupportLists] 1, [endif] First-hand experience may be useful later in your life. You should pay attention to collecting these first-line real experiences and turning them into materials that can be preserved. There is a lot of information in teacher Fang's computer. By doing this, it is proved that this road is feasible.

[If! Support list ]2. [endif] When we were young, everyone started from the front line, chose a promising industry, and learned by doing. The standard is: you should have a summary and output. The standard of study is: you should study or improve your academic qualifications. I think the training industry has a future, the workshop training management has a future, and the automobile circuit has a future, so I will continue to do these things well.

This book is unreadable. Because:

[If! SupportLists] 1, [endif] The titles of each chapter are not good, which makes people unable to understand what this chapter is about.

[If! Support list ]2. [endif] The names of the characters in the book use names such as "Midnight, Leaves", which is a fictional story at first glance. (The real cases in "Women's Self-treatment Class" are all told from the first perspective of "I")

[If! Support list ]3. [endif] The author's name is not pleasant to hear either. It's called Green Tea.

7 "Know yourself and yourself, women are invincible in love".

[If! SupportLists] 1, [endif] People need to communicate in personality, thoughts and emotions. The closer the relationship, the more requirements for this kind of communication. Without such in-depth communication, people will feel lonely and depressed. Middle-aged people in the office can verify this. A leader with a bad relationship between husband and wife has no vitality, and no one even speaks from the heart. Writing articles is an important way for me to communicate with my girlfriend.

Summary: This book is unreadable, and it has the same problem as The Love Classics of Smart Women.

8 Diary of a Psychological Counselor

[If! SupportLists] 1, [endif] A girl sometimes needs a hug, or you need to give ten reasons to love her. Maybe the answer is not important, just an emotion. Spoiling a girlfriend is a sentimental pet, not a rational pet.

[If! Women also need a "fun" playmate.

Summary: This book is also unreadable for this reason. But some words in these books still make sense and can cure straight men.