Traveling with my baby has made me a third-class citizen in my circle of friends.

I want to drive my mother crazy and go out to take care of the baby.

-Mama Deer

Author | Daughter Paima

Source | Girls' School (insight into its account)

"There is always a body and soul on the road."

However, the same road was ruthlessly divided into three or six grades by netizens:

First-class citizens: married without children, with jobs and spare money,

These people can go back to their bosses they don't like at will: The world is so big, I want to see it.

Let's take a trip. Of course, domestic travel is not worth it, it must be all overseas.

Sun travel photos, each of which is a self-portrait that has been refined for 10,000 times, properly blows up the circle of friends.

Second-class citizen: Married to 1 cub, immersed in the aura of strong fatherly love and maternal love.

Running around short distances every day, occasionally complaining, the circle of friends is also warm as a screen: children stand, sit and lie down. ......

The same copywriting, all in fancy praise of children: a little tired, but seeing the innocent smiling face of children, all the fatigue is worth it.

Third-class citizen: married, with 1 or two older children.

The holiday is coming, but these people's circle of friends has compromised: the National Day is coming, and the living room is ready for an 8-day tour.

If you really want to travel, the circle of friends that is updated occasionally seems to have experienced the end of the world, two naked words: collapse.

Is that really the case?

We interviewed several "third-class citizens" and listened to their stories together.

@ Little Qima

I regretted it before I went out!

Traveling alone, a suitcase travels all over the world.

Traveling with a baby feels like putting the whole world in a suitcase.

Just cups, some for drinking water, some for drinking milk, and some for temporary use. ......

3 sets of clothes, 5 pairs of trousers, 7 sweat-absorbent towels and 6 pairs of shoes. ......

Snacks, toys, daily medicines ... all filled with bags.

The suitcase is full of three, and the things are only half filled.

Is this an outing? This is so touching!

My body is not on the road yet, and my soul has told me: no, you don't want to travel.

@ Cheng Zima

Listen to me, taking children to travel is just another place where they are abused.

After a few hours of trekking, when you are sleepy, the child has completely let go of himself and is as lively as a pig that has just been released:

"Mom, I want to play in the fountain over there."

"Dad, dig sand with me."

When you save your strength and want to go out and experience the natural scenery, the child is uncharacteristically:

"Mom, there are many mosquitoes here. Let's go back quickly. It's not fun here. "

"Mom, I want to pee. I can't help but want to shit. "

Dad held him, running all the way, and finally peed in his crotch.

In the evening, the child said, "Mom, I'm hungry. I want to eat your fried poached eggs. "

It's only 996 to go to work, and it's really 007 to take the baby out.

Boss, is it too late for me to apply for overtime on National Day?

@ 京京京京京

What's the difference between taking children to travel and learning from the west?

This child is the Monkey King:

Seeing my little brother's toy, he also clamored for the same one, and even grabbed it directly;

The flowers and plants on the roadside have to be dragged by hand, and the small animals have to run away, shouting, "Where can you escape, monster?"

Dad is Pig Bajie:

Honey, try it. This is really delicious.

Hey, hey, son, how about trying this big octopus?

Grandma is Tang Priest:

Be good, don't run; Waiting for grandma; How many times have I told you not to play with water? ......

As for me, I am a hard-working sand monk.

I am the one carrying the bag, I am the one looking for the hotel, and I am the one looking for the itinerary.

Traveling without children is traveling, and taking care of children is something I practice with my hair.

@ Ma Xiaohua

I want to take my children to feel the beauty of Huangshan Mountain, the majesty of the Great Wall and the tranquility of the West Lake. ......

Unexpectedly, it is everywhere, and everyone is everyone. ......

There is no scenery in my mind. There is only one question that keeps circulating: where is my baby? You didn't lose him, did you?

You ask me the meaning of traveling?

Being able to return safely and not get lost is already the greatest significance of traveling with the baby during the holiday.

@ Steamed Bun Ma

That time, I took my baby out, just in time for the local food festival. Eating and drinking in the sea, children have diarrhea at night.

At three o'clock in the middle of the night, two tired adults cried until they twitched with a baby in their arms. That was a sour feeling.

I'm a stranger, and I'm still stuck looking for a taxi.

Finally, I was scolded by my grandparents and had to go home overnight.

Take the baby out, not on holiday, but to Du Jie.

Traveling without children feels sorry for children; I feel sorry for myself when I take care of my children.

The biggest grievance of the "third-class citizens" who walk at the bottom of the contempt chain is not from the sympathy and incomprehension of other high-level citizens, but from the fatal blow of children.

Hong Lan, a famous educator, once told her own story.

Because there is no one to look after the children, they take them with them even when they go abroad on business.

When the child was 6 years old, he went to Sweden and visited the famous local fjord scenic spot.

But a few years later, when Hong Lan asked about the children, he said he knew nothing about it.

/kloc-before the age of 0/0, I obviously went to many places, but my child's memory was almost blank.

A little memory is the home of a professor in Holland. When he got up in the morning, he found that all the adults had left. He was so hungry that he ate a piece of fish on the table.

All the places of interest have passed away, and children only remember a "fish" that they can touch every day in their daily lives.

There is such a story on the internet.

In order to let their children see the world, parents deliberately took time out to take their children out for a trip.

After coming back, my mother asked to write about her feelings about the trip and asked her children with concern what impressed her the most about this trip.

Seeing the child's composition book, the mother almost fainted with anger:

What I like best is that my mother bought me an ice cream in the canteen.

That ice cream, which I have never eaten, is really delicious.

After four days' travel, I remembered an ice cream.

And that ice cream is just the most common and cheapest popsicle in the countryside.

Sure enough, there is a travel experience of myocardial infarction called baby.

Some netizens ridiculed:

When the child has not established a sense of travel, taking the baby out can only be a lonely trip.

Is there no time for "third-class citizens" to fight back?

There really is.

A family of five in Australia had to cancel their planned trip to Europe because of the epidemic ban.

However, this did not stop their dream of traveling.

Instead, my mother planned a "perfect" trip to Europe that was broadcast live on the Internet.

Primary goal: go to Europe!

Take a printed ticket with the airline's "Lounge Chair Aviation" logo on it, and get ready to board the plane.

16-year-old son plays the role of security guard, and the movable clothes rack becomes a temporary "security door".

The 9-year-old daughter checked the luggage, and 14-year-old daughter played the stewardess.

Yes, this boarding ceremony is actually at home.

We saw the luxurious cabin, and this flight also provided various humanized services:

Pets are allowed, seats can be tilted and video games can be played.

In a short time, the flight attendant's father came pushing the "dining car":

Juice, potato chips, snacks ... everything, and a big plane meal.

Late at night, the passengers fell asleep one after another.

Then because of the flight delay, everyone was forced to take a quick shower at the "airport" and have breakfast at the "terminal" food street.

Then start again and rush to the finish line.

Finally arrived at the destination, and the whole family showed a victorious smile on their faces.

That's exactly what I said: "As long as there is sea in my heart, wherever I go, it's Maldives."

I saw a foreign video:

At the warm and romantic wedding, the groom looked at the parents in the audience and said "thank you":

"I want to thank my parents, they are the worst parents in the world!"

Friends and relatives looked at each other with incredible expressions.

The groom all ignored, continue to ask:

Why do other children go to piano class, and his music class is that parents sing free karaoke at home together?

Why are other children sent to expensive cram schools by their parents, and he can only be tutored by the aunt of the leader next door?

What annoys the groom most is:

He was disappointed that the only time his parents took him on a trip was to Bangkok on his birthday.

What about tourism projects? It's completely different from what he expected.

There was no party or performance, but his parents just took him to the playground next to the shopping center and played the old-fashioned game of "beating mice".

The groom pointed to the big screen behind him: when he was a child, he sat on the steps, holding his cheeks helplessly, and his face was full of disappointment.

Finally, the groom even went to his father with some excitement and asked loudly:

"Why can't you be like other parents? ! "

The father in the audience couldn't sit still, so he went straight to the stage and messed up the groom's hair. Then both of them laughed.

The groom is very helpless: "Look, this is my dad!" " "

He looked at the back of the big screen, and photos of childhood memories emerged:

Dad played games with him, did funny things, raised small animals and witnessed his graduation ceremony. ......

The groom looked at his father happily and said, "I had a wonderful childhood."

He confessed to his parents affectionately:

"If you didn't give me everything I wanted, I wouldn't have everything now. Thank you for guiding my life. "

At the end of his speech, he hugged the bride: My wife and I will try to be the "worst parents" in the world.

The "worst parents" failed to provide their children with novel and expensive travel experiences for economic reasons.

However, they gave their children more priceless love and companionship.

This is what children need most.

Children's tourism should not be a punch card for sightseeing spots, nor is it necessarily to increase the experience with the flow.

Real travel is the growth witnessed by parents, high-quality companionship, and the accumulation of energy and courage needed for children's growth.

There is a saying on the Internet: "Home is the best place to travel."

This holiday, I decided not to travel with the wind. Instead of being a "third-class citizen" in a circle of friends, it is better to be a "first-class mother" at home.

Every boy is his mother's weakness and armor.

Raising smart and gentleman, raising bad is troublesome and laborious.

There are dry goods for raising boys here;

We all know the bitterness and sweetness of raising a boy.

Our story begins. ...