Going to the toilet training is as simple as that, let the baby quit diapers.

More parenting experience sharing, welcome to pay attention to the research sharing of WeChat official account Jiayouxiwang, 985 college master mother [Rose].

In the hot summer, what is the mother most worried about, besides mosquito bites? Of course I quit! Pee! Don't! Wet.

Although Sister C is only two years old, I haven't heard about it for 700 days, especially since May, when an enthusiastic aunt reminded me: "It's summer, children can't wear diapers." "It's too hot, and my buttocks are prone to rash." 1 year old? You can quit, it's not small. "

In fact, it is a milestone for children to go to the toilet independently. Psychological research has also found that a child's habit of going to the toilet will affect his personality construction. Freud, a famous psychologist, believes that children will care about anal-related activities when they are 65,438+0-3 years old, and defecation is their greatest pleasure, especially defecation. They will experience the pleasure of releasing internal pressure during excretion. At this stage, parents should properly train their children's defecation activities, but not too strict, otherwise it will lead to the so-called "anal character." There are two manifestations of this character: one is anal incontinence's character, such as sloppy, wasteful, unorganized and violent; The other is extreme personality, such as being too clean, too neat, too organized, obsessive-compulsive, even stubborn and stingy. Therefore, parents should not train their children to urinate too early and too strictly.

When does [Rabbit] start [Rabbit]

/kloc-The baby's cerebral cortex is not fully developed before 0/year old, and the nervous system is far from controlling the large intestine, bladder and anus, so 1 year old baby can't feel urine. Most babies begin to show this ability from 18 months to 24 months, and some children don't have this ability until 30 months later. These are all normal phenomena. Based on the above development rules, the scientifically recommended toilet training time is about 2 years old and should not be earlier than 18 months. At this time, the child's sphincter development is close to maturity, and the ability to defecate spontaneously begins to appear, and the time recommended by the American Academy of Pediatrics is after 2 years old.

Parents should not blindly compare themselves, thinking that other children can take off diapers early. Why can't they do it themselves? Life is long, and sooner or later, you don't need competition skills.

In addition to the hard indicator of the age of the month, whether the child has a signal that the urine is not wet is the key to toilet training:

1, subjectively, the baby shows an aversion to diapers. If the diapers are dirty and uncomfortable, they will want to change diapers and like to keep their hips dry.

2, the diaper can be kept dry for more than two hours, or the diaper is still dry after a nap, and it will pee after waking up;

3, the defecation time is gradually regular, and the willingness to urinate can be expressed through language or action;

4. Show interest in the behavior of family members going to the toilet and start to be interested in the toilet;

5, can understand simple instructions, such as "take off pants", "squat down" and "sit down". If it is better to take off your pants and lift them yourself, please give your baby great praise.

6. There is an obvious pause when urinating, which will signal or tell adults that they are urinating.

Sister C is 25 months old now. Although I bought a toilet, I didn't intend to change her diaper. Even if she squatted down in1August, she would tell us that she was "smelly". However, this obsessive-compulsive baby can't accept the "long-term" separation from the pull-up pants. It's good to get dressed immediately after washing smelly pants, so I'm going to wait a little longer.

[Rabbit] Practical exercise [Rabbit]

Before the training begins, let me say one more thing: Don't overdo it until the children are fully prepared. In addition, adults should also keep a normal heart and follow the principle of "encouraging more, not criticizing, and being optimistic and shining". If the child does well, he must be praised at once. It is very important to suggest the angle and method of praise here! Try to be as calm as possible, there is no need to exaggerate this matter. Enough to make him feel that he did a good job this time. After all, going to the toilet, enjoying the pleasure of excretion and keeping fresh is already an impressive experience for him. Of course, if the child doesn't do well, let alone blame and criticize the child, which will aggravate the child's nervousness. At the same time, don't interact with a child while he is sitting on the toilet to attract him (singing, playing games or even rewarding him with food). In addition to distracting your child (please put yourself in the toilet for how long when you play with your mobile phone), you will indirectly convey your anxiety to your child. In short, just keep a normal heart.

Everything is ready, let's start, toilet training has begun ~ ~

1, prepare a cute little toilet. You can prepare it a few months in advance and tell him what this is for, or let the baby sit on the toilet for a while without taking off his urine. In short, let the children be familiar with the small toilet first and cultivate their feelings;

2, words and deeds: using children's imitation psychology, same-sex parents can show their children how to go to the toilet. Since children have begun to form gender awareness since they were 2-3 years old, parents of the opposite sex had better avoid it at this time;

In the training stage, clothes should be as loose as possible. Don't wrap your hips too tightly, it will affect your child's feeling of defecation (please make up for the numbness of your bladder after wearing tights). /kloc-After 0/year old, you can change diapers into pull-up pants, which is convenient to put on and take off.

Get training pants and underwear ready. A psychologically strong mother can skip the training pants and prepare pure cotton kk directly, so as to be prepared for tolerance. At first, little dolls would not take the initiative to sit on the toilet. If they urinate everywhere, don't scold the children at this time. You can tell him that this wet and dirty feeling is defecation. If you don't like it, you can try it on the pony barrel next time.

4, learn to observe the child's reaction, whether there are signals such as pinching legs, grabbing gears, twisting, squatting. Can remind the baby to go to the toilet.

Please put away your nagging and nervousness. I can understand that many parents want to stare at their children for 24 hours when they take off their diapers on the first day, and keep asking them "Do you want to take a small toilet" and "Remember to tell mom if you want to pee" (Tang Priest, is it annoying? )。 In fact, the less parental intervention, the more children can master the process of going to the toilet independently, and the more conducive to success. If you are really uneasy, you can observe your child once every 60-90 minutes. If there is a defecation reaction, it is enough to remind the child. Gradually, you will master the child's toilet rules, reduce the number of reminders and extend the reminder interval.

6. Accept failure and put forward it in time, but don't give up. This is particularly important. Usually it takes about half a year to complete toilet training completely. In the meantime, allow your child to fail for a while, but don't give up halfway or change diapers halfway. This will make children conflict and confused. Where should I defecate?

7, defecation is a set of processes: after the child can skillfully use the pony barrel, he should also teach the baby to wipe his ass and flush the toilet after defecation. In fact, these behaviors can be replaced by adults at the beginning of training. The purpose is to let children develop good hygiene habits and hygiene awareness from the beginning.

[Rabbit] Training retreat [Rabbit]

Timely "resumption" of the reasons for children's retrogression, many times, children have clearly been able to go to the toilet independently, why have they regressed? This is normal. Everyone will be in a bad mood sometimes. Parents can pay attention to see if there are any of the following situations:

1, stress: Usually, the sudden retrogression of children is related to psychological stress, such as changing to a new environment: going to kindergarten, traveling, moving, etc. The atmosphere of parents at home is relatively tense; Be criticized or in a bad mood

2, diet: especially bedwetting at night, observe whether the baby has too much liquid intake one hour before going to bed: including drinking milk and drinking water; Eat diuretic food: watermelon, wax gourd, etc.

3, playing too happy and too focused, too excited before going to bed.

[Rabbit] Other nagging thoughts [Rabbit]

1, night training: Statistics show that most children under the age of 5 still wet the bed, and about 10% of primary school students will pee in their sleep, so night training is not too hasty than daytime training, and some parents will wake up their children to go to the toilet, which is actually unnecessary. For children, having a complete sleep is more important than giving up diapers.

2. Picture books: Most domestic opinions suggest that children can read some picture books to set an example. However, some foreign experts suggest that children's toilet training should be treated as a very normal thing, and there is no need to pay too much attention to it. If you take out a picture book seriously and tell your child that we may talk about going to the toilet today, it may imply that this is unusual in itself, but it will make the child nervous and resistant. In short, this is a matter of opinion. Finding the right method for children is the most important thing.

3. Alternative toilet training: There are also some training methods for flying yourself, from Viking or Europe and America, and raising children is relatively free. The specific method is simple and rude: peel off the child's lower body and put the pony bucket where you can see it, so that the baby can run to the small toilet immediately after urinating (you may need the help of your family at first).

The principle is simple: when you wear clothes, your child will become dependent in disguise. If you take off your clothes, your child will feel uncomfortable and naturally find a better solution. At the same time, this can minimize the impact of toilet training on children. Of course, this practice is really expensive and needs constant scrubbing, so please consider it according to your own affordability.

Finally, I want to remind all family members once again that the start time of children's toilet training should never be "when other children start", but on the premise that you and your children are ready. Compared with children, it is more important to be calm and not impatient. After all, children have to take off diapers sooner or later, and physical and mental health is the most important thing.