My husband is often reticent when he comes home. What should I do?

Many female friends can't see their husbands for a day, and when they get home, they start chattering, which will inevitably bring some new pressure to their husbands. Usually this happens because the husband is tired or in a bad mood or under too much pressure. In fact, two people can still understand each other's psychology as long as they sit down and talk.

Some women will mutter: just like who owes you. Then they went their separate ways. And most women will ask, what's wrong with you? What happened? Asking questions may get more and more annoying and eventually lead to a quarrel. There are still some women who feel that there is something wrong with them, and they may have done something wrong. If it is not cold violence, there are deep psychological factors behind this appearance of men.

First, treat your husband as a friend. Once upon a time, married women stopped worshipping men and began to examine and criticize men. In such a relationship, men naturally don't find motivation to stimulate their thinking from their wives. As a wife, while keeping herself, we must like what we like, study what we study (we don't necessarily know everything, but we must know it), and of course we must give up the habit of pretending not to know and asking everything. Be good at listening, ask clever questions, and don't point fingers at the commander when you are not allowed to draw conclusions.

Second, treat your husband as a son. From the perspective of Oedipus complex, a person is a small person rather than a big person. Usually a man should show his mettle, but when he is in trouble, he should treat him as his own son, give him care, send him a glass of water, invite him to dinner, give him time to think for himself and so on. This is caring. But there is also a problem of degree. If you always play yourself as your husband's "mother", the harmony of marriage and family will become empty talk. A married woman watched me study every day for three years. I don't want to live like this.

Third, treat him as a lover. Many women are influenced by traditional sexual concepts and show passivity in sex. In fact, sex is an important factor in a harmonious marriage. A woman with children should not only play the role of mother, but also be her husband's lover. Many women who have given birth only play the role of mothers, ignoring their love for their husbands, which is also the main reason for the breakdown of many modern marriages.

Fourth, treat yourself as a goddess. In mythology, God has always been a symbol of mystery, strength and power. Women should also play the role of goddess in marriage, which has the characteristics of mystery, strength and authority, so that no force can overthrow the status of God. However, it is not advisable for a woman to go to work every day and face the work after work, because she is a child's addition, subtraction, multiplication and division, and in her mind she just becomes a god. Women should enrich themselves with knowledge, let themselves grow constantly, and truly become the objects that their families can rely on. With this power, the small storm in marriage is not enough to shake your position.