My wife asked me to sign up for an elderly tour group for her mother. My wife always supplements the family behind my back. Should I get a divorce?

For a woman who has a small family after marriage, she should put the small family first. Having children after marriage, parents should not only be responsible for the baby's eating and drinking Lazar, but also train the baby to go to school. Everyone needs a lot of money, so we should save money carefully and live a long life.

However, some women are confused and still put their parents first after marriage. Regardless of her small family, she always took her husband's hard-earned money and made up for her family without any scruples. After a long time, marriage will inevitably lead to husband's dissatisfaction, and family disputes will inevitably lead to divorce.

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Li Guanghao and Liu Li have been in love for three years. When they talked about marriage, they were strongly opposed by Li Guanghao's mother. She thinks that Liu Li only has a high school education, her parents are farmers, and she has a younger brother at home, which is not quite right for her family. Li Guanghao's parents are engineers, and he is a programmer, with a monthly salary of 1.8 million. Liu Li, with fine features and good figure, works as a lobby manager in a hotel.

Li Guanghao believes that he is determined to marry Liu Li no matter what his occupation. Li Guanghao, the only child in the family, can't beat his son, so his parents have to agree to the marriage. When we got married, the Li Guanghao family paid for the house, car and wedding. Liu Li's parents asked for a bride price of 200,000 yuan, and only made a few quilts. Li Guanghao's mother was even sadder.

Because of her prejudice against Liu, her mother hated her daughter-in-law. When buying a house, Li Guanghao promised Liu Li to add her name, but her mother-in-law firmly disagreed. Liu Li is full of complaints about her mother-in-law's actions, and her mother-in-law is obviously defending herself.

Because there is a gap between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the young couple originally agreed to go to Li Guanghao's parents' home for dinner after work every day, and then go back to their small home. But within two months after marriage, Liu Li and her mother-in-law quarreled several times, and Liu Li was no longer willing to go to her mother-in-law's house for dinner.

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In the fourth month after marriage, Liu Li was pregnant. Pregnancy reaction is heavy, and there are several threatened abortions. Li Guanghao was distressed by Liu Li and asked her to resign and stay at home for labor. Li Guanghao also offered Liu Li a salary card to buy whatever she wanted.

The doctor told Liu Li to stay in bed for about half a year. Li Guanghao goes out early and comes back late every day, and has no time to take care of Liu Li. Mother-in-law offered to take care of Liu Li, and Liu Li found an excuse to refuse and took her away.

Liu Li conceived in October and gave birth to a boy. My mother-in-law was very happy and gave her grandson100000 yuan as a gift, which made Liu Li feel that she was the hero of this family. Liu Li is in confinement, and her mother served her. Later, my brother-in-law went to junior high school in the city, and Liu Li directly let her brother live in her own home.

Li Guanghao found that he had to raise not only his wife and children, but also his brother-in-law and mother-in-law. He felt very unhappy. But my wife said that the quality of teaching in urban schools is higher than that in rural areas, and my brother-in-law lived in his home for six years from junior high school to senior high school. Li Guanghao had to put up with it for the sake of family harmony.

Sometimes on weekends, Li Guanghao wants to drive his wife and children out for leisure, but Liu Li always takes his mother and brother with him, leaving him and Liu Li with no private space. Li Guanghao sometimes wants to take her parents out for leisure, but Liu Li strongly disagrees, and Li Guanghao is very dissatisfied.

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When his son was four years old, Li Guanghao planned to quit his job and start a business with his college classmates. He asked Liu Li for money, and Liu Li said that there was only 50,000 yuan at home, and all the money was spent on the baby. To Li Guanghao's surprise, his salary is not low. There is no mortgage or car loan at home. Even if he spends 8000 yuan a month, he still has to save about 1 10,000. One year is120 thousand. After four years of marriage, the deposit should be around 500 thousand. Why is it only 50 thousand yuan?

Under Li Guanghao's questioning, I learned that my mother-in-law does housework for her family, and her wife gives her a salary of 3,000 yuan every month, and all the expenses of her brother-in-law are borne by her.

What makes Li Guanghao most angry is that his wife bought a second-hand house for her mother-in-law for 450,000 yuan without telling her mother-in-law. Li Guanghao had no money and no way to start a business, so he had to continue working in his original company. At this time, Li Guanghao regretted not listening to her mother. Originally, he wanted a divorce, but for the sake of the children, he held back.

Li Guanghao asked her mother-in-law to take her brother-in-law to live in the second-hand house she bought, and then took back the salary card from her wife, giving her only 5,000 yuan for living expenses every month. Although Liu Li is dissatisfied, she is indefensible after all.

Not long ago, Li Guanghao's parents traveled abroad. Looking at the photos of friends sent by her parents-in-law, Liu Li thought that her mother's birthday was coming, and she also wanted her mother to travel. However, Li Guanghao only gives himself 5,000 yuan for living expenses every month. Since giving birth to a child, she has been a housewife at home and has no financial resources. So she said to Li Guanghao, "Honey, my mother's birthday is coming. Please give my mother a tour group! "

Hearing this, the Li Guanghao spirit not dozen 1 come. My wife bought a suite for her mother-in-law without telling her, and now she is going on a business trip. He said directly to his wife, "No money! You make money to let your mother travel! " Liu Li was also angry and said to Li Guanghao, "You have no sense of responsibility at all. Doing housework all day, picking up and dropping off children, tutoring children in their studies, and not being idle at home. Did you pay me? Besides, aren't your parents also traveling? "

Li Guanghao said, "You're right. My parents travel, but they spend their own money. The house we live in was also bought by our parents, but you bought it for your parents. Is it comparable? " Li Guanghao felt that his wife was really confused and began to regret this marriage.

Emotional analysis:

In life, there are always some wives like Liu Li who want to give their hearts to their parents after marriage, but they are not filial to their mother-in-law who bought a car and a house for themselves. They never consider their in-laws and always exclude themselves.

Liu Li is a typical "brother company". Without her husband's knowledge, she actually spent 450 thousand to buy a house for her family, betraying her husband's trust. Li Guanghao is a very generous person. If he were another man, he would get divorced ten times. Liu Li not only did not reflect on her behavior, but also asked her husband to report a tour group to her mother. Such a woman does not know which is more important.

I hope all married women can put themselves in the shoes of their husbands. It is not easy for a man to support his family, so he should be more distressed and considerate of his husband. Even if the bride's family needs help, discuss and communicate with her husband. Arbitrary behavior can only lose the trust of her husband. I hope all couples can handle their marriage well and work together to create a warm and peaceful home.