After breaking up, will you travel with your ex?

Some time ago, my best friend told me about an incident that happened to her brother, and the result was something she couldn’t let go of.

After two years of studying abroad, Xiaoyu, who has a travel complex, wants to take advantage of the last month of freedom before going to work to go on a budget trip to the country where she studied abroad.

He had planned all the routes, arranged the time, and prepared his luggage. He found that traveling alone during the journey was a bit too lonely, so he thought of Qianqian. Qianqian is Xiaoyu’s ex-girlfriend. The two of them had studied abroad together and were somewhat familiar with the place. Coincidentally, Qianqian agreed.

Yes, Xiaoyu and his ex-girlfriend are going to travel together. As soon as the news came out, the first person to stand up and object was my best friend herself.

In her opinion, it seemed inappropriate for the two of them to be traveling together now that they had broken up. She thought of many reasons to stop them, but her brother was determined and still went together. She asked me, when did adults become so casual about relationships?

After listening to her story, my bestie’s dissatisfaction seemed more like another question to me: after breaking up, will you still be friends with your ex?

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In this fast-paced world, feelings are like a kaleidoscope, ever-changing, and faster than you can accept. Today we are friends with each other, but tomorrow we will die without contact. In the hearts of some people, love is more like the spice of life. It comes and goes quickly.

But no matter how the world changes, the existence of many things must abide by its own bottom line, just like love. We can accept that we will find another person we like after breaking up, and we can accept that when we can no longer live with our partner, we can choose to leave and find our own Mr. Right?

The premise is that we have completely dealt with the previous relationship and are alone. This is a choice based on moral bottom line. Not being a scumbag or a scumbag is a sign of respect for every relationship.

Later I asked my best friend, and she said that the reason why Xiaoyu chose her ex-girlfriend to be with was purely because the world was so big and I wanted to see it. I wanted to make an appointment with my classmates, but after graduation, everyone went their separate ways and couldn't go together. And after the breakup, the two were still single because they were busy with studies and finding jobs. This is the reason why he insists. Rather than following the trend and finding a stranger you don't know, it's better to stay with Qianqian. Although they are not lovers, they are still friends.

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Xiaoyu’s words make sense to me. The purpose of dating his ex-girlfriend was just for traveling. If anyone else had time to spend time with him, it would be Qianqian.

As for my best friend who is already married and has a family, from the perspective of a married person, the focus is not on traveling, but who to travel with. It just so happened that this person was the ex-girlfriend she felt was the last person she should choose.

But she forgot a dividing point. Xiaoyu is still single and Qianqian has not found a new boyfriend yet. As long as they do not hate or reject each other, traveling together is not impossible.

As for my best friend who is already married and has a family, from the perspective of a married person, the focus is not on traveling, but who to travel with. It just so happened that this person was the ex-girlfriend she felt was the last person she should choose.

But she forgot a dividing point. Xiaoyu is still single and Qianqian has not found a new boyfriend yet. As long as they don't hate or reject each other, traveling together is not impossible.

Just like a certain Ms. Zhang in the entertainment industry, she dares to love and hate, and has a fierce personality. Someone in front kicked Wang Quan'an, and someone in the back slashed Yuan Bayuan. He directly stated on Weibo: A woman can accept the pursuit of single men from all over the world, including her ex-husband.

Putting aside her right and wrong views on mate selection, the reason for choosing her ex-husband was largely because they had not become estranged from each other because of their divorce. They are still friends. With the relationship of friends, the changeable development of relationships becomes less embarrassing.

No one is willing to develop further with a person who is hostile to them and who is not of the same frequency as themselves.

We cannot evaluate them, because right or wrong, good or bad, only lies in their hearts.

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In my opinion, if you can still be friends with your ex, you probably didn’t put much investment and effort in the previous relationship, or you didn’t love you 's predecessor.

They may be together to try the feeling of love, but the result is not important.

Otherwise, if you really love someone and invest so much emotion, it is just to get a happy ending: to achieve positive results.

Taiwanese star Chen Yihan is a good example. She is a sunny and optimistic girl by nature. Looking through her Weibo, she is always smiling brightly in the photos. She once revealed in an interview that she had 47 boyfriends, many of whom became good friends with her after their exes broke up.

Forty-seven boyfriends, at first glance, scare away a lot of people who are loyal to love, but even seven of them can give people the impression of being romantic.

However, there are indeed many Chen Yihans in life. They are quick to invest in relationships and withdraw quickly, and falling out of love does not have much impact on them.

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We all hope to treat love as we treat our own lives, seize the only opportunity and stay together until we grow old.

While we are praising eternal love, can we also retain our own attitudes toward our exes?

Many people who can’t hold a grain of sand in their eyes will turn their ex into a stranger and respond with a polite smile just like they would treat others.

They understand their emotional bottom line, which is not to give their current partner any uneasiness. Being a stranger is their best option.

Those exes who can still be friends are more like textbooks for them on their emotional journey, allowing them to grow up gradually. Occasional contact is based on the courtesy of ordinary friends. A person who has done you no harm should not be treated like an enemy. After all, the separation between you is just not suitable, and no one is perfect.

I hope that one day if we don’t love each other anymore, we can forget each other in the world, and we can also laugh and settle our grudges.