Why are foreign students afraid to make friends now?

Have you brushed your circle of friends and suddenly found that you didn't seem to see his/her news? Those friends who studied abroad, friends who used to talk about everything, have slowly disappeared from the circle of friends. Don't feel strange, and don't doubt whether he blocked you, but he is slowly fading out of his circle of friends. Why don't international students send friends? Here are a bunch of explanations, which one do you want to hear?

I explored the reasons and found that they were all "reasonable".

1, afraid of purchasing: your circle of friends, his purchasing circle.

It is no exaggeration to say that every international student will become a purchasing dog.

Nowadays, there are two kinds of students in the circle of international students, some of whom buy for you. They can't wait to screen out the information they ask for purchasing every day, squeeze out a little leisure and rush to various shopping malls to find things that they "take away" by the way. On the other hand, purchasing has become a profession. In the process of being called purchasing, he gradually evolved into a real purchasing person.

If you don't break out in silence, you will start a business in silence. Of course, most people are the former.

If you study abroad and send a friend to Australia, all kinds of primary school, junior high school and high school students who haven't been in contact for more than ten years will suddenly appear in your circle of friends.

From milk powder and health products to skin care and cosmetics. From a new mobile phone to a selfie artifact to a handbag and high heels. Various demands and complaints about procurement. What do you want when you are out of stock? In short, I want to cry without tears!

As an international student who usually only hangs around the school and is busy with classes. If you don't agree, you have to drive away, ask for a price and take a photo. If the price is not "very cheap", it is a waste of time. Gas, parking, crying.

Once upon a time, the most common appearance of international students in the circle of friends was purchasing. It's a little small, 2-3 yuan a day, and a little professional, and it's 10 yuan a day. As a senior purchasing agent, it is counted by dozens of pieces per hour. I can't wait to stop them at once.

Those junior, slightly professional, gradually withdrew from the stage of purchasing. Because purchasing is really: leading money to sell flour and selling white powder.

User 1:

After years of studying abroad, if there is "dear, what time is it there now?" "How about the exchange rate recently?" Ask the question at the beginning of the type.

Do not go back! The next sentence waiting for you is "when will you return to China?" Bring me something. " It's impossible to prevent!

If there is a strange avatar, a dialog box pops up with a familiar name, and suddenly pops up! No reply, the next sentence is "Is your XXX cheap?"

Netizen 2:

Things are bought, but exchange rate changes are common. You are not allowed to pay the deposit, so I have to give you money in advance. You can help me count the lowest exchange rate last month, so what can I earn by purchasing? You want to send me away with "I'll invite you to dinner when I come back"? No way!

Netizen 3:

I heard that milk powder, perfume and bags there are very cheap. Please show me one. Well, suddenly I relented and agreed, and tragedy came. It is common to go to several cities to buy. It would be even worse if he sent you a link. "Not show XX knife? How did you overcharge so much? " Miss, do you know that you have to pay taxes when you buy things in America? I thought I had no character and cheated her a lot of money.

For those non-professional purchasing, purchasing is really not to support the family. I was also rejected by my friends, thinking that I would cheat you, so even if I had to go back to China on holiday, I would never dare to tell anyone in my circle of friends again. All three suitcases are full of things I want to buy by the way. What should I do with my luggage?

Do you dare to send a circle of friends to say that you want to return to China?

2. Your vacation, their exam week.

When you take a long vacation and lie on the sofa with a mobile phone brush, you don't need to be confused. Why are they silent when they go abroad? Examination week! There is no time at all!

During the exam week of each semester, there should be three or five courses connected with exams, various knowledge points and test sites. Remember, everything is concentrated at one point in time, and you must remember them all. During this period, there are still various papers to be handed in, written, revised, brought back, revised and handed in. These cyclic processes.

Apart from complaining, there is nothing worth posting in their circle of friends during this time, and they have no time to post it. As international students, they don't want to worry their family and friends, so they simply don't send them.

3, afraid of being said to show off wealth

Children studying abroad are always mistaken for rich second generation and live in luxury. Famous brand bags and gold watches are necessary props for friends. In and out of tall hotels, restaurants are also one of the typical locations. But not so many rich second-generation children go abroad, so forget it.

User 1:

Foreign outlets are cheaper than Wal-Mart's cabbage. Not every bag with a big LOGO is over 10,000 yuan. Sometimes friends bring famous brand bags and my photos, which is also a show off! ? Then don't be photographed with LOGO in your life!

Netizen 2:

No matter what kind of circle of friends, the following comments are always neat:

Wow! Bai is showing off his wealth again.

Wow! Bai is showing off his wealth again.

Wow! Bai is showing off his wealth again.

Wow! Bai is showing off his wealth again.

Wow! Bai is showing off his wealth again.

You say, what do I dare to send?

Netizen 3:

Children studying in rural America know that buying a car doesn't cost much, and it is second-hand, if they can change hands after graduation. There is also convenience. You don't know how to wait for the bus 1 hour in the cold wind and finally cancel it because of the snowstorm. Don't think that owning a car is to show off your wealth, it really isn't.

I don't want my parents to see it.

If you are a hundred years old, you will worry about 99. Parents all over the world are extremely concerned about their children, what's more, their children are far away from home. In order to avoid all kinds of comments from my parents, I simply don't send friends.

User 1:

"Your parents worked hard for you to study abroad, not to get a diploma." . I just went out to play after the final and got such a heavy attack. Mom! You don't read code words in my library all night, practice and demonstrate hundreds of times in front of the mirror, and when you don't have time to eat and cook instant noodles, such a heavy criticism will not be accepted by children!

Netizen 2:

My parents are afraid that I will suffer abroad. Seldom go to restaurants to make friends. Being said, "Son, it's not enough to eat so little, so eat more meat". But I have ordered a full table, and I am afraid that I will be targeted by the bad guys and will kidnap me.

Netizen 3:

Which girl doesn't love beauty? When the skirt was a little shorter, my mother began to shout in the circle of friends, "There are many foreign perverts, so don't mess around." God knows naked riding and sunbathing are the most popular abroad. If I tell her, I'm afraid I'll have a heart attack.

5. Social fear

Grouping friends is the worst design. New friends always forget to group, and then find that they are not in the right group. By the way, I found that he had problems with others and would not talk nonsense. Every time you add a new friend, you are overwhelmed, which is comparable to the final exam.

User 1:

Every time I send a circle of friends, I am looking forward to the number of likes and comments, for fear that no one will like and comment. I am so nervous that I can't help staring at my mobile phone every time I send it. Just don't send it.

Netizen 2:

Inadvertently, I put * * * and friends in the wrong group. In a chat, A said that she saw the photos of my last trip, and B said that she didn't. The scene suddenly became awkward. "I think A's relationship is better than mine?" I haven't seen B much since. The circle of friends does not bring you closer to your friends, but makes your friends less and less.

Netizen 3:

The circle of friends has become a circle of classmates, colleagues and relatives. Every time I type something I want to say, I find that XXX will see it, modify the text and find that XXX will see it. Become concerned about what can and cannot be said. Finally, I got used to saying nothing.

This is not the same as Gossip Girl. The life of studying abroad is not so easy. In addition to falling in love, it is that kind of party life, just a TV plot. Getting up early to catch up with papers is the daily life of international students, and it is also urgent to send emails to professors every day. Life abroad is mostly a stressful study task, and leisure life is mostly an illusion. Do other people like watching these things? If you are sick and encounter difficulties, do you have to put a circle of friends to worry your parents?

Therefore, it's not that international students don't want to send their friends, but they dare not.

Unhappy things come out and make people who love you worry. Happy things come out and make people who don't love you hate them. For international students, the circle of friends is not so much sharing and venting as asking for trouble.

As a result, they gradually left the circle of friends.

Please give more tolerance and care to foreign students!