What if my parents don't support me to travel?

I have a question that has always been in my heart, and no one can give me an answer.

Before I went to college, I read many inspirational articles or some educational materials. At that time, I had an idea in my heart that universities should be independent and should not always cling to and rely on their parents.

What I want to ask is whether it is necessary for college students to travel. Every time I tell my parents that I want to go somewhere to play with my classmates, my parents always object, for the following reasons: it is too unsafe for a girl to go out; For my parents, traveling is equivalent to relaxing. I spend their money to relax, and I don't want to be with them, which is unfilial. And so on.

I was surprised because I saw a lot of things. It's normal for friends to get together and go somewhere to play when they are in college, and so are some friends around them. I have also checked the travel materials, and it really costs a lot of money to go out. Considering the travel expenses, accommodation expenses, meals and so on, there are many extra expenses.

My inner struggle is that I don't know what the meaning of travel is. If I go out to see the market, I don't think I can see much in one place for only a few days. If I cultivate the ability to live independently, it will be a kind of training for me to go to college alone.

However, after reading so many examples, I feel that if I don't go out to play with my friends, college study is really a waste, and I have never experienced such a life of going out to play with my friends (because I have been traveling with my parents before I went to college, and I feel like a bird that hasn't grown up, and I have been with my parents). Well, actually, I was talking nonsense. I wonder if you can help me, teacher?

-Autumn leaves reply-

1, the inspirational article is correct, but you have to understand that a child who has always relied on his parents has a process before learning to be independent. You don't have to test yourself with things like travel from the beginning. You can start with some small things, such as trying to change a set of clothes with different styles, buying a favorite CD and reading a book you want to read. Every choice and intention in life is an independent beginning.

I totally understand that your parents are worried that it is not safe for you to travel alone. Recently, a friend of mine traveled to Chengdu and rented a car from a car rental company, just in time for the 16 Chengdu Patriotic Parade. They rented a Honda, and then you know what? They were slapped angrily by patriots, hiding in the car and afraid to come out, make phone calls and take pictures. Fortunately, nothing happened in the end, but this is the itinerary booked in August. At that time, no one knew that there were so many such "patriots" around us.

Your real problem is that you have the desire to travel independently, but you have no determination to save money for your independent travel. If your independent travel depends entirely on your parents' funds, my opinion is simple: whoever pays will listen to you. A person who is financially difficult to be independent often loses his will to be independent. You should remember it clearly.

Traveling with parents is also an independent good opportunity, because it can help parents arrange their trips (considering the health and physical quality of the elderly). Why do you take self-help travel as an easy thing? My wife often organizes tours for me, but she doesn't feel relaxed, eating, drinking and having fun, living and worrying about everything.

5. Is it a waste of college time for the university not to travel? I can only tell you that I didn't even think about it when I was in college. Is my university deserted? Don't define an unnecessary goal for yourself and then force your parents to help you accomplish it. That's not independence, that's abusing others' love for you.

6. Finally, I suggest you watch Ten Years of Backpacking, but I suggest you think about what others have prepared for the trip after seeing the chic of others.