How to treat the companion culture of contemporary young people?

First of all, we need to know what a partner culture is.

Partnership culture is a new kind of social relationship, which refers to the relationship in which people regularly engage in certain activities together. Friendship is everywhere in life. After all, anything can be built. 00, a partner is something that an individual cannot or does not want to do alone. Find a stranger to do it together, return to their respective lives after cooperation, and partner again next time because of something. On social platforms, the post-00 generation describes the importance of a partner like this: "You can live without love, but you can't live without a partner". The existence of partnership not only fills the young people's need for companionship at some moments, but also goes hand in hand with intimacy and may turn into intimacy.

Why is it popular among young people?

1. Atomization and defamiliarization in modern society lead to people's lack of enthusiasm and energy to manage intimate relationships, and the relationship with "neighbors" is becoming more and more indifferent and fragile? . Partner culture provides realistic contact with strangers, is an active choice based on the same needs, and has a certain sense of tacit boundary.

Second, the development of the Internet has given more young people a platform and channels to find partners. On the social platform, young people can quickly find like-minded partners according to their own interests and needs, whether it is eating, traveling, watching exhibitions, playing cards, etc. , you can post on the internet or join the group? .

Third, the changes in young people's social needs and consumption concepts lead them to be more inclined to simplify and purify interpersonal relationships, while meeting social needs, diluting the time and emotional costs they need to pay. Partner culture is a kind of "fast food friendship". You don't have to bear too many responsibilities and obligations, and you can find a suitable partner anytime and anywhere.

The essence of partner culture is short-term communication based on the same needs, which is shallower than friends and more important than colleagues or classmates. It is a social way to adapt to the changes of modern society, and it is also a brave attempt by young people to find their own "neighborhood".

Common types of partners are as follows:

Dining partner: refers to a partner who eats with strangers. You can spell tables, vegetables and orders, saving time and money and increasing the fun of eating.

Travel partner: refers to a partner who travels with strangers, who can strive for accommodation, transportation and itinerary, reduce travel costs and risks, and expand the tourism circle.

Exhibition partners: refers to the partners who watch exhibitions with strangers, who can share their experiences and feelings, take photos with each other and recommend other exhibitions.

Card friends: refers to the partners who play cards with strangers, who can find like-minded card friends and improve their card skills and level.

Game partner: refers to the partner who plays games with strangers, who can form a team, cooperate and communicate, learn from each other and compete.

Sports partner: refers to the partners who exercise with strangers, who can encourage, supervise and guide each other, and can also increase the motivation and effect of sports.

Photography partner: refers to the partner who takes photos with strangers, who can take photos, comment and communicate with each other, and also learn photography skills and methods.

In addition to the above categories, there are many other types of partners, such as book partners, gossip partners, chat partners and so on. In short, as long as there are similar needs or interests, it is possible to find a suitable partner.

Although "companion" culture meets some needs of people in intimate relationship to some extent, it is unlikely to be a real substitute for intimate relationship. The following is a multi-angle analysis combining theory with reality:

1 Intimacy theory: According to intimacy theory, stable intimacy has the characteristics of depth, persistence, trust, commitment and mutual support. In contrast, the "companion" culture usually lacks persistence and commitment, and it is difficult to satisfy the sense of security and belonging that people seek in real intimate relationships.

2 Psychological point of view: From a psychological point of view, a stable intimate relationship contributes to the improvement of individual mental health, self-esteem and happiness. However, due to the lack of persistence and commitment, "partner" culture may lead people to feel empty and dissatisfied emotionally, which will have a negative impact on mental health in the long run.

Sociological point of view: From a sociological point of view, intimacy is of great significance for maintaining social stability and family structure. However, the "companion" culture can not meet this demand, which may lead to the breakdown and instability of family and social relations.

Anthropological point of view: From the anthropological point of view, intimacy is common in all cultures, and human demand for intimacy is a basic biological drive. In contrast, the "companion" culture is not universal. It can only meet the needs of some people to a certain extent, but it cannot completely replace the real intimate relationship.

Emotional ties: Emotional ties in intimate relationships are often deep and lasting, and "partner" culture often lacks such deep emotional ties. In a partnership, both parties may feel temporary companionship and satisfaction, but it is difficult for this relationship to develop into a real intimate relationship.

To sum up, although the "companion" culture can meet some needs of people in intimate relationships to some extent, such as companionship, attention and short-term satisfaction, it cannot replace the persistence, trust, commitment and deep emotional connection brought by real intimate relationships. The following are some possible causes and effects:

Dependence and security: True intimacy provides people with a lasting sense of dependence and security, but the "companion" culture cannot provide such lasting support and security because of its short-lived and informal characteristics.

Physical and mental health: long-term participation in "companion" culture may have a negative impact on individual's psychological and physical health. Due to the lack of stable emotional support and sense of security, participants may have psychological problems such as mood swings, anxiety and depression, and may even affect their health.

Social skills and communication skills: A real intimate relationship requires both parties to have good social skills and communication skills, which is conducive to the establishment and maintenance of the relationship. However, the "partner" culture often does not emphasize these skills, which may lead to poor performance of participants in real intimate relationships.

Long-term commitment and responsibility: a true intimate relationship requires both parties to be responsible for the relationship and take responsibility. In the "partner" culture, both sides often fail to establish this long-term commitment and sense of responsibility, which easily leads to the breakdown of the relationship.

Conflict of values: individuals who participate in the "companion" culture may face the conflict of values with the intimate relationship in real life. This may lead to confusion in the understanding and expectation of real intimacy, and then affect the performance and satisfaction of individuals in real intimacy.

In short, although the "companion" culture meets the needs of some people to a certain extent, it cannot replace the real intimate relationship. In real life, the establishment and maintenance of true intimacy is still an important part of individual emotional needs.