After traveling together, we broke up with each other

There is a question and answer post on Zhihu: Is it better to travel alone or with friends?

Someone replied below:

"When traveling with friends, you have to consider the state of the other person. When he is tired, you are still in high spirits; when he is tired, you are still in high spirits. Yiyi, did you let him, or did he let you? Whoever allows it will affect the travel experience."

Some people also told their own personal experiences after traveling with good friends. , we broke off the relationship when we came back. In short, the responses below the post are overwhelmingly in favor of traveling alone.

People often say that couples must go on a trip together before they get married. If they don’t break up when they come back, it must be true love.

Travel allows two people to get along with each other 24 hours a day. It can be a booster of each other's feelings, and it can also be an amplifier of the shortcomings of both parties.

We often encounter many emergencies when traveling, such as taking the wrong road, running out of battery on the phone, getting separated, etc. These are often a test of the friendship between two people.

Accidents during travel are the best indicators of character. Whether the relationship between two people deepens or becomes indifferent after traveling begins with these accidents.

Cai Kangyong shared one of his travel experiences in Qi Pa Shuo: Once, he and his friends made an appointment to travel to Japan. When they were in Kobe, they suddenly felt the ground shaking violently. It turned out that they happened to encounter Kobe at that time. Big earthquake.

The violent shaking of the ground made him think it was an unprecedented earthquake. When he realized what he was doing and was about to run away, he saw a whole cabinet of friends falling on him.

Without thinking much, he immediately ran over and pushed the cabinet open, saving his friend's life.

Cai Kangyong said: "If I had not pushed open that closet, my friend and I would have been very embarrassed. He would not have been able to forgive me, and I would not have been able to forgive myself."

< p> At the critical moment of life and death, Cai Kangyong did not just worry about his own life and abandon his friends to escape alone. In the face of a catastrophic disaster, he fully demonstrated his character. It would be difficult for two people who have had such a travel experience to have a bad relationship.

When an accident occurs, our reaction is actually our own character. Accidents during travel have neither prior psychological preparation nor rehearsal, everything is natural.

Therefore, accidents during travel can often help us test a person's character.

Travel planning is the best test of two people’s cohesion, because when two people have different habits, different hobbies, and inconsistent views, conflicts will quietly arise.

A netizen wrote on social media: I am traveling with a friend. This is the second day of our trip. We are already breaking up.

Originally, the two were very good friends, and they often met to go out to eat and go shopping together. The two wanted to travel together while they were both on vacation, but unexpectedly, their differences in various aspects gradually emerged from the beginning of the trip.

Before departure, the netizen booked a hotel in advance, but when checking the route, his friend found that the hotel he booked was a bit far away from the attractions, so he wanted to change to another one. However, the netizen saw that the hotel his friend checked had many negative reviews. , so I told my friend to change to a slightly better one, but my friend replied: We are not going to enjoy the hotel. In the end, I followed my friend’s wishes and decided on the hotel he chose.

When two people eat together, their friends always say it’s casual, and afterwards they complain that the restaurant the netizen found is not delicious. There was only one menu when ordering, so the two of them read it together, but the netizen turned the page before his friend finished it, and the last dish he ordered was chosen according to his friend's taste.

Netizens have made it clear that they have already bought a flight ticket back. An uncomfortable trip is not as good as sleeping at home.

The close contact during the trip gave the two people a better understanding of each other's consumption concepts and living habits, and at the same time amplified the differences between them.

We often say that to get married, you need to find someone who is highly compatible with you. In fact, the same is true for making friends. Even if two people who are not compatible with each other seem to be very good friends at the moment, they will be one day in the future. problem appear.

Traveling is a painful and happy thing. The beautiful scenery will make you feel happy, but the fatigue of the journey will make you feel physically and mentally exhausted.

When a person is exhausted, he will naturally take off his disguise. The fatigue during travel can best restore a person's true appearance.

Zhao Xinmei, portrayed by Qian Zhongshu in "Fortress Besieged", said: "Travel like ours is the best test of a person's character. Travel is the most tiring and troublesome, and it makes people realize their true colors. Only those who have traveled hard for a long time and do not hate each other can become friends."

The variety show "Attention Tourists" divided five celebrities into five tour groups, and took a group of amateurs to travel to different places. Some people lost their popularity during this trip. But Chen Xuedong has gained countless fans because of this show.

There was a man named Sun Zhixian in his group, who did not get along well with everyone for various reasons. In a certain episode of the program, Sun Zhixian asked his companion Zhao Jie to help him He carried his luggage by himself, but because of his bad tone and attitude, Zhao Jie was very angry, and the two of them had a heated argument.

When the trip was coming to an end, Chen Xuedong suffered from a severe cold. During dinner that day, he went back to his room to rest early due to physical discomfort. However, due to schedule reasons, the tour group had to take the train again at night. Chen Xuedong, who was already ill, heard about Sun Zhixian and Zhao Jie on the train, so he dragged his exhausted body and called the two over. Try to ease the conflict between the two.

Chen Xuedong showed his truest self during the tiring trip. He did not sit idly by and ignore the conflicts between his partners because of fear of trouble and physical discomfort. His words and deeds also gained a lot of praise from netizens. Big likes.

When we feel tired, we often neglect to manage our own image. For example, Ge You lies down after returning home from get off work, or sits on the ground after climbing a mountain, because at that time, we are the most real. Own.

Travel can not only cleanse one's heart, but also cleanse one's pretense.

Bonard said: It is necessary to build confidence in love, and it is necessary to establish observation in friendship.

Friendship is essential for each of us. Friends around us come and go, but there are very few friendships that can last a lifetime.

When we are not sure about our friendship, it is better to take a trip.

If the other person can still exude the charm of character in the face of travel accidents, the two of them do not have much differences in food, drink, fun, food, clothing, housing and transportation, and they can still be considerate and considerate when they are exhausted, then Decide that he is a friend worthy of a lifetime.

In fact, two independent people actually have many differences, but they become good friends because of one or another opportunity. When the two parties have conflicts and differences during the trip, it is more extraordinary. Understand, be more tolerant, and be more patient. When the other person can handle travel problems in this way, he will also have enough wisdom to maintain the friendship between the two.

Love needs to withstand the test of travel, and many friendships only need one trip to see clearly.