How do we get to know a person during the trip?

Traveling is the easiest way to see what kind of person a person is. If you really know the true face of your boyfriend through travel, which is quite different from your usual performance in communication, you can choose to break up.

I believe this sentence very much, so the year before last I proposed to travel abroad with my predecessor. The purpose of my going is to see him clearly. So on the way, I deliberately took some small things to annoy him to see if he would take care of me and comfort me when he was tired from traveling.

As a result, he completely lost the tenderness and thoughtfulness of the past, kept a straight face and felt particularly cold. Later, I didn't go to several agreed scenic spots, so I was particularly unhappy and even quarreled.

After that trip, I broke up with him naturally, neatly. The other party has no intention of saving it. Finally, I couldn't help asking him why he was so grumpy when traveling.

He said: "Travel is the best way to see a person clearly. You can lose your temper and show me. Especially difficult to serve. Unlike you, I finally saw it clearly. "

What is this? ......

During the journey, it is inevitable that the situation will continue; More importantly, when people are in a foreign land, the mode of getting along escapes from the quiet days of daily life. People who have been busy for more than half a year will inevitably relax their normal nerves. A moth has put out a fire several times, and you can see it from communication style, emotional management ability to problem solving ability. Compared with strangers who form temporary groups, intimate relationships are faced with more tests, and friends in need are upgraded. Once you slack off, your previous dignity is so unreal, and those mature and steady partners are more likely to gain the affirmation of each other.

Travel is full of accidental factors, and it may be unwise to rush to define your partner's behavior.

Therefore, travel is not necessarily a relationship curse. Accidents that everyone wants to avoid during the trip may also become a turning point in the relationship. The key is to focus on each other, take care of each other's feelings, or overemphasize ourselves-I am not traveling alone, but "we" are traveling.

Perhaps the safest way to keep a wait-and-see attitude towards intimacy without disappointment is not to put your perfect assumptions about life and your partner into a hasty trip at once.