That day, the goddess put jeans in her socks.

I chatted with a high school buddy the other day, and we recalled the goddess of high school together.

Our middle school is the teaching building of every grade, and the teaching building is the patio building in the second year of high school. Men's and women's toilets are alternately distributed on different floors, and next to our classroom is the women's toilet. Girls on the upper and lower floors basically pass by our door when class is over. At that time, we liked to get some air outside after class, relieve the fatigue of study and see beautiful women by the way. Good-looking girls are always easy to attract everyone's attention, so good-looking and temperamental girls are particularly eye-catching. Yan is such a beautiful and temperamental girl. At that time, we did not have the word goddess, but she was a vivid image of the goddess. Exquisite facial features, a faint smile and a beauty mole on my forehead will cause a small sensation every time I pass by the door of our classroom. "Come out and gather, here she comes", so the boys in our class lined up neatly on the railing outside the classroom and watched her walk through the classroom aisle.

Speaking of this, it may give people a feeling that hooligans look at girls, or it may easily remind people of the yearning for the opposite sex in childhood in the beautiful legend of Sicily. If the story goes on like this, there is really nothing to write. One day, however, the goddess passed by the door of our classroom as usual, and at a casual glance, she found that she had stuffed jeans into socks. Yes, the goddess' jeans were stuck in the socks! ! ! In an instant, the whole set of people about the goddess collapsed. In today's words, it is petrochemical on the spot. First you don't believe it, then you don't accept it, and then you are frustrated.

Time was tight in high school, so I got up in a hurry in the morning. Sometimes I get up late and rush to the classroom without washing my face or brushing my teeth. Pants stuck in socks are sometimes not noticed at all, so it is not surprising that some girls put skirts into underwear. I believe everyone has seen them. But it all happens to people who feel perfect. It's just the action of jeans sticking into socks, which we really couldn't accept at that time.

Just like that girl in high school, we may meet many people and feel good at first impression. But once the other party does something that is particularly inconsistent with our previous impression, it is either a man-made collapse or an extremely low score. Why is this person so ugly when he takes off his makeup? How does this person snore when eating? What should this person do when he sleeps and snores? Why does this man litter? Why is there mud under this man's fingernails? We can't accept other people's small mistakes, because we have made up a perfect partner in advance. Later I learned that this is the difference between the world we thought and the real outside world. The way we face this difference reflects our maturity. In other words, how to face the imperfections of others and the world is an indicator of our maturity.

Many lovers break up because of the collapse of people in the process of getting along. When they don't have much contact or are occupied by the impulse of love, they feel that the other person is white and innocent, and the whole is a fairy. But you will gradually find that she sometimes loses her temper, loses her temper and is stingy. These things are gradually exposed in the process of getting along with him, so some people can't accept the choice of breaking up.

I still remember that in some TV dramas, the female host refused to visit the male host when she was sick because she didn't want the male host to see that she was sick, ugly and helpless. I'm afraid that the man will be sad, but I'm also afraid that the image of the princess and herself will collapse in the man's heart.

Those lovers who develop from good friends will have a higher probability of going far, because in the long-term communication process, they know each other's personality and habits very well, are familiar with each other's hobbies and temper, and even go to the toilet several times a day. Therefore, people's expectations are very low. Only when they feel acceptable will they go together, and if they feel unacceptable, they will not take a step forward.

From birth to now, we will be more and more aware of one thing, that is, there is a gap between reality and ideal. Faced with this ditch, we either degenerate and become fragile and sensitive, or we are afraid of the past and become true and strong. If you want to climb over, you need to do two key words, acceptance and discovery. Learn to accept the imperfections of the world and others. Then find more beauty in the world and find more advantages in it. Abandon the existing stock of bad things and look for more increments about beauty. When others are embarrassed, it is acceptable to take the initiative to help, give a warm reminder, pass a tissue, or accompany them silently. Usually, we should find out the advantages of others, pay attention to what others have done well, and affirm their progress. To do this, we will not only struggle with ourselves, but also become popular.

Let's look at ourselves again. If we dress ourselves strong, gorgeous and capable from the beginning, then we will show our best side to others. But we are all human beings, we have secular desires, we also want to eat and drink Lazarus, we will get sick and sometimes make mistakes. Even a small cold may put us in an awkward position and look very unseemly. Sometimes blowing your nose with a cold will make a loud noise and even leak out of the toilet paper. Phlegm coughs on your clothes and coughs on other people's clothes. I didn't hold back in public and farted. These actions may damage the image of the city. Wouldn't it be better to avoid giving each other a perfect image from the beginning?

I have to mention a concept here, called threshold management. Threshold means releasing stimuli with minimal behavioral response. For an inappropriate example, when I was a child, a boy gave a girl a plush toy, which made her extremely happy. Now, she needs a sports car to make her happy. The cost of reaching the same emotional level and the amount of stimulation needed are increasing, which is that the threshold is rising. The so-called "from frugality to extravagance" and "from extravagance to frugality" are the reasons why it is difficult to lower the threshold after it is raised. In addition to delaying enjoyment, this concept should not give ourselves too much material and spiritual stimulation at one time. We should also manage the threshold we give others. If you give others a lot of abilities and excellent feelings from the beginning, then the threshold for being given is very high. Others are used to the high-end version of us and suddenly present us with a simple version, which is hard to accept.

So don't give your strengths and advantages to others at once, let others discover your strengths and specialties slowly. From the beginning, I gave you an omnipotent image and a special sense of expectation. Not only is there no room for improvement, but as long as we make a mistake, our original tall image will collapse instantly.

We can accept that a rich circle becomes a rich circle, but we can't accept that a rich circle becomes a rich circle. A girl usually doesn't like dressing up and has no taste in clothes, but one day she likes dressing up and dressing herself. The more clothes she wears, everyone will shine at the moment, because the threshold used to be low, so now it is very exciting.

The prodigal son turns around and makes mistakes with good people. That's the truth. It's easier for us to forgive the prodigal son and forget all the old scores. But everyone can't accept that a good man makes mistakes. Even if he makes a mistake once, he may be branded as a lifelong mark. He still cries that we don't believe in love.

Threshold management actually represents a person's maturity. When we are young, we are eager to show ourselves and show all our advantages. When we are older, we will know how to restrain ourselves and stop deliberately showing our things to others. How big is the expectation, how big is the disappointment, and sometimes there is no expectation, and suddenly it is a surprise.

Two years ago, my boss sent Weibo a message saying that the best thing in the world is not to say how good you are when I first met you, but to say, "It's good to know you!" In my opinion, in order to achieve this state, in addition to accepting the imperfections of others and discovering more advantages of others, we'd better learn to manage our own image in the eyes of others, so as to be like an old wine. The longer we stay in Mika, the more exciting we read.