What kind of families are these that do not send their children to tutoring classes?

What kind of family is it that does not send its children to tutoring classes? What does the author want to find out by asking this question?

Ten babies and nine assistants cannot be overstated at all. There is a primary school in front of my house. There are various tutoring classes, hope classes, nurturing classes, and grade-improving classes around the school. The advertisements on the door are brighter and brighter than the last, all attracting parents to send their children there.

Among them, the English class has the most signboards. On weekends or during winter and summer vacations, the doors of each class are full of parents picking up or waiting for their children. It is bustling and lively. Their teaching is synchronized with the school textbooks and is one class hour ahead of the school's progress.

Because primary school English classes only have two classes per week, and one English teacher teaches four or five classes, most children cannot understand and follow the class at all, so they all go to tutoring classes to learn English. Ichiban.

Despite the high price and large class sizes, parents still flock to it. Some of the parents have low knowledge levels and can cope with tutoring in Chinese and mathematics, but are powerless in English, so they can only choose tutoring classes. Another group of knowledgeable parents are more than capable of tutoring themselves, but they are too busy with work to take care of it, or their children cannot be tutored by themselves. They cannot listen to your explanations, and they will get excited when you explain them, and they will never listen to other people's lessons. Clever.

When you go to junior high school, well, unless your child is an academic overlord like Qian Sanyi, almost all the children in the class have signed up for tutoring classes. English, mathematics, physics, and chemistry are the major subjects. In elementary school, you may only enroll in a single subject of mathematics or English, but in junior high school you have to enroll in all classes. Children who attend remedial classes struggle to learn, let alone those who don’t. This is the strange state of education.

My baby is in fifth grade and his grades are pretty good. He can keep up with the schoolwork so he doesn’t sign up for tutoring classes. After all, the annual tuition is a huge expense. But I taught him the erhu. In this era of chasing after each other, you always have to learn something to feel that you are a good match for others.

I don’t dare to say anything about whether to enroll in junior high school or not. Maybe some classes are outstanding or some classes are difficult, so I have to enroll in a remedial class.

All in all, there are still many students who sign up for tutoring classes. After all, parents hope that their sons will succeed and their daughters will succeed, and they are never willing to spend money and effort on studies.

Those who have not signed up for the class are either top academics and do not need to sign up. Either the baby is really not good at studying, and reporting it will not help. However, even if their children really don't want to study, parents still have high hopes for tutoring classes. Regardless of whether their children learn or not, they will always be enrolled in one or two, and that's it.

My child is in fifth grade and will be in sixth grade this year. She has never attended a tutoring class because she used to stay with her grandparents and I never paid attention to her studies. Later, in the second half of the fifth grade, I could get over 60 points in the English and math unit tests. The teacher also sent me a separate WeChat message and told me that I would help the child with tutoring. From then on, the child came to my side. I made a study plan for every day. In addition to school homework, I also had to study for one and a half hours a day. I bought her two learning materials for English and mathematics, and used them with the BBK learning machine. Teaching video, final exam scores of 98 and 93, although not very good but a big improvement compared to herself! Why didn't I go to the tutoring class?

First, primary school knowledge is relatively simple. Parents are fully capable of tutoring their children, and I also have time to tutor!

Second, children don’t like to go to tutoring classes, because even if they go, parents still have to supervise the completion of recitation or exercises when they come back, which also takes up time on the road!

Third, overall, the price-performance ratio is not cost-effective! Tutoring classes require a lot of money, but it is not something you can get by paying money. The most important thing is that children have to learn the knowledge and turn it into their own things. After paying the money, they have to work hard. Can!

In summary, I do not recommend enrolling in tutoring classes for primary schools, because primary school knowledge is relatively simple, and study habits and learning methods are more important. In fact, as long as you study hard, use your free time, read more, read more books, and cultivate It’s okay to have other interests and hobbies, such as painting, etc. Children’s time is precious. Only by studying hard can you have time to have fun. If you don’t listen well in class and make up for it after class, then you won’t be reading and playing. Children’s time is precious. Don’t use it to study over and over again. In fact, it’s better to focus on improving efficiency. If it doesn’t work if you study it over and over again, it means it’s inefficient!

As time goes by, learning is actually more about efficient learning methods and good study habits! If you rely on tutoring schools, where should you go?

My family is one of those families that does not send their children to tutoring classes. Pretty awesome, right?

There is a very strange phenomenon in society today: parents are restless if they do not send their children to remedial classes, fearing that their children will fall behind others and lose at the starting line. (Haha, just comforting myself.)

My family is also weird in this regard. From kindergarten to college, our children really haven’t spent a penny on tutoring classes. But he was a perfect academic, from elementary school to high school, he was a top student every year.

We don’t live on campus in elementary school or junior high school. Our parents can watch TV at night, and he can play on the computer. He goes to bed before 9:30. There are no restrictions and rules like other families. And as he advanced in grade, he became more and more outstanding in his studies. He was admitted to a good major in the 985 University, and he was what people call other people's children.

Actually, I don’t want to show off by saying so much. I just want to talk about the reality. Counseling is not the only way out and to stand out. The main thing is to cultivate some habits in children from an early age, such as focusing on doing things, not procrastinating, and liking to read books... I have told my child since he was in kindergarten that the most important thing in class is to listen carefully and speak actively. If you do these two things, you will get twice the result with half the effort. Later, he even previewed, did the questions, and then went to listen to the lectures with questions... While other children were tired of dealing with daily homework, going to bed late, and lacked energy in class, he was just the opposite. Therefore, there is a way to learn. His childhood was much more comfortable than other children.

If we have to say what kind of families do not send their children to tutoring classes, then I think the answer should be families who cannot afford tutoring fees and families who do not bother to attend tutoring classes. The mentality of following the herd is actually not good. It is best to have a method that suits you.

First: Such parents are very successful in their own industry, have their own opinions, and have their own persistence. In such a family, at least one parent is in the industry. Elites have their own opinions along the way and understand their own efforts. There's usually not a lot of anxiety inside. They have their own opinions about children.

Usually this type of parents does not fail to educate their children, but they are more advanced and forward-looking. They focus on different things. They will never focus on educating their children on learning, and they will never follow the crowd. Such families may enroll their children in remedial classes in advance, and then take a longer-term view of their children's development. Of course, usually the children from such families are not too bad, they must be children with their own ideas.

Second: Families with particularly excellent children will not send their children to remedial classes. If your child has good habits and excellent grades, he doesn’t need supplements at all.

According to statistics, 5%-10% of outstanding children never take extra classes. Relying on supplementary classes cannot maintain the true excellence of children. If your child is not "pseudo" outstanding, there is no need to attend tutoring classes. Of course, this type of family is the happiest.

Of course: In addition to being born excellent, the parents must have done enough homework in the early years. The children have received good enlightenment and have good study habits.

Third: Many families believe that "reading is useless". We will find that some people around us are cynical and believe that children's success or future development must not depend on reading. Therefore, since "study is useless", why bother to bother and spend so much money to enroll your children in tutoring classes.

I have met such parents. They have sent their children to so many tutoring classes since they were young. Why pay so much sponsorship fees? This way the children may not have good results. It is better to save the money. It will be used for children to start a business in the future. As for studying, children should let things take their own course. I will support you wherever you can go, and don’t let the remedial classes go.

Fourth: The Ministry of Education attaches great importance to children and does not have a strong educational philosophy. Parents are busy with life all day long and neglect their children, let alone have long-term plans. Basically, children It is a state of self-destruction.

Parents of families in this situation are usually busy and hard-working, or they are relatively content with the status quo. The surrounding circle is also in the same situation, and parents do not have this awareness. It basically stays at "children can eat well and be healthy".

Since you don’t have a concept, you naturally don’t think it’s important to go to a remedial class. Why send you to a remedial class? What are you spending the money on?

Fifth: There are no tutoring classes around, how can I go to a tutoring class? Such families naturally do not send their children to remedial classes.

This situation usually occurs in some relatively remote cities or towns. Tutoring classes are not prosperous, and people are not aware of it. Even if they want to go to tutoring classes, they can't. Also, everyone has a relatively single philosophy and will definitely not go through all the trouble to send their children to remedial classes. In addition, they do not think that their children need to attend remedial classes.

In short: Families who do not attend remedial classes each have their own reasons and circumstances, and families who attend remedial classes also have their own reasons, but there is always one point that cannot be avoided: the child’s performance is not good. Or the child's grades are not good enough, so they must be focused on the child's grades. Maybe some families will have such a situation, the parents are too anxious, everyone is trying to do better, and I can't do it if I don't do well! So in order to have such comfort, I tried my best to send my children to tutoring classes. Do children need to attend tutoring classes?

There is no absolute need or need. What can be said with certainty is: "Tutoring classes are definitely exam-oriented education." All teaching revolves around exams and academic performance. As for what it does to children? There is no real criterion by which to evaluate how helpful it is. However, excessive injury tutoring classes take up a lot of children's spare time and increase the physical and mental stress on children, which is a generally recognized result.

Parents will consider the specific situation, but I suggest that parents relax their evaluation of their children and don't just focus on their children's grades. When it comes to educating children, we must be forward-looking, see their strengths and weaknesses, and evaluate children based on multiple intelligence standards. Elementary schools should discover strengths, make up for some weaknesses, and properly cultivate strengths. Junior high schools and high schools can focus on developing strengths. Start making some career plans and academic plans for your children, and pay attention to your children's physical and mental health, so that your children will do very well throughout their lives.

After all, studying for exams is only a part of a child’s life, and school education is only a stage of a child’s life. Having the ability to learn is king, and only focusing on grades will definitely lead to losses.

Blessings to everyone!

I have been engaged in daycare classes for 8 years. I have taken care of no less than 300 children myself. I have seen and known more than 1,000 children in daycare classes over the years. I will talk about the children I have seen who do not go to tutoring classes. What kind of family and parents are they? 1. A well-behaved little girl who excels in academics

Let me first talk about the little girl who has the deepest impression on me and never goes to tutoring classes.

Five years ago, a little girl led by her mother came to our day care class. She was very mini but looked very smart and well-behaved. This little girl's requirements for coming to our day care class are very simple. She needs to be picked up and dropped off and ensured safety. She does not need help with her homework but must have good class discipline (this is her mother's request).

The little girl’s mother was very busy and couldn’t pick her up at noon, so she put her in a day care class. In all the years she has been with us, this child has never scored 95 points in the exam, and she is basically one or two in the class.

She began to accept her mother's request to develop reading habits since the first grade. From the second grade, she read many books and copied and recited delicious sentences. In the second semester of the second grade, I suddenly discovered that she started to learn simple Olympiad mathematics on her own, and she started to increase her English practice in the third grade.

I once asked the little girl how her mother brought her up, and we had the following conversation:

Me: If you don’t let us check your homework, then mom will go back. Check it for you?

She shook her head: I checked it myself, and my mother didn’t check it either. I just waited for the teacher to correct me. If I made a mistake, I would just correct it.

Me: Did your mother enroll you in extracurricular classes? For example, those Mathematical Olympiad questions you did before?

Her: No, it’s just the question book my mother bought me. It’s actually not difficult. If you don’t know, you can ask your mother and the teacher (they do ask us occasionally).

Me: Is mom usually very busy? What do you do every day when you go back?

Her: Actually, I just don’t have time during the day. At night I just finish my homework, take a shower, read and then wash up and go to bed.

Me: Didn’t mom check your study?

Her: No, my mother said that studying is my own business. I should only come to her if I need it, and try not to come to her if I don’t.

I have talked with her mother many times. This is a mother who is not tall, but looks very thin but very energetic. The reason why she didn't send the little girl to extracurricular classes was not because of family conditions (her family conditions were pretty good), but because she didn't think it was necessary. After all, her daughter was very well-behaved.

Later I made some summary of how such a mother could cultivate such an outstanding daughter. 2. Characteristics of excellent parents

Combined with the characteristics of other parents who can cultivate excellent children, I have made the following summaries:

1. For those who can teach well I am more confident about my children

2. Have a clear direction on how to cultivate my children

3. Prioritize the cultivation of children's character and habits over children's learning< /p>

4. Your own work and life can be managed in an orderly manner

5. The concept of education is to fulfill yourself first and then your children

I once asked I have experienced some parents who have raised outstanding children, and how they view their children’s study and homework. The mentality of most parents is: whether it is study or future work, or even life choices. It's all the children's own business. What parents can do is teach them how to choose, rather than choose to do it for them or control their choices.

Therefore, the most recognized point is that children who study well are never "forced". These children often understand that learning is their own business. When their own learning fluctuates, they will learn to adjust and change. Only in this way can we maintain excellent learning for a long time. 3. Can cram schools produce outstanding children?

Can cram schools “make up” outstanding children? My answer is of course you can, but you can’t make up the best one.

In fact, cram schools are often the "life-saving medicine" and "magic grass" for some parents who don't know how to educate their children. Because how to teach their children well is beyond their knowledge, they can only leave it to cram schools and training institutions.

1. Don’t outstanding children need cram schools?

In fact, the theory is wrong. I have seen many outstanding children attend cram schools, but they attend them selectively, and the amount is not large. In fact, this principle is very simple. Some competent cram schools can teach children some more efficient learning and problem-solving methods. The excellence of these outstanding children does not lie in cram school, but in themselves and at the same time they make good use of the "tool" of cram school

2. Can poor students become outstanding through cram school?

My answer is yes, but this kind of "excellence" is short-lived. Children's learning problems are closely related to habits, thinking, personality, family, and environment. No matter how excellent a cram school is, it can make up for the child's knowledge, but it cannot make up for the "defects" in the child's personality and habits. Conclusion:

The above mentioned situations are all about outstanding children. Of course, there are other situations, such as family conditions that do not allow it, and families who think that reading is useless, etc., but these are relatively rare. , not worth talking about.

First, we don’t have the money to send our children to tutoring classes. Second, my children do not need to go to remedial classes. He was a top academic kid from elementary school to high school. He failed in the college entrance examination because he failed in the comprehensive science test. He ranked 3,800 out of more than 865,000 candidates in the province. He went to a pretty good 985 university and majored in That school is also top-notch. My son said that none of his classmates (who were also top students) had ever attended tutoring classes. Children with good habits do not need to attend cram schools, and those with bad habits are useless. Therefore, parents should not place their hopes on various tutoring classes and cram schools. The most important thing is to improve themselves and cultivate their children's qualities from an early age. Good habits (all kinds of habits in life, study, etc.) are better than anything else. Children will learn easily when they go to school.

My child has not attended cram school, but he has attended extracurricular classes such as Lego, roller skating, calligraphy, chess, and eloquence. The focus is on having fun and helping him find the right way to relax.

Many of my friends and relatives attend cram schools. Even though my child is young and still in kindergarten, I still have a say.

My brother’s boy is a perfect academic and has never been to a cram school. However, this boy has a talent for learning. He has a flexible mind and can learn very easily. This is still the case in high school. You don’t have to worry about staying up late, and you don’t have to miss playing while studying. Basketball and online games are great.

My friend has a first-grade boy. He has a full schedule from the moment he wakes up in the morning. He goes to school for classes, takes care of children at noon, attends classes in the afternoon, and provides tutoring in the evening after school. , at night, both working parents get home first, which one takes him home to sleep. Let's put it this way, this child is small and thin, and his problem solving is obviously behind other children of the same age. He almost never misses flu-like infectious diseases. If his mother hadn't given him gifts to the teacher, he would probably still invite parents every week.

Another friend’s daughter is in sixth grade. Starting from third grade, she has had cram school classes every week except Mondays, covering mathematics and English. Her mother plans to squeeze out more time to catch up on Chinese. This child has a good personality, but it is difficult to complete the homework assigned by the school teacher on time. From time to time, he fails to complete it or misses it because he is too busy and overwhelmed. There is no need to think about the after-school homework in the cram school. In short, the tutoring effect is not ideal.

Of course there are also inspirational ones. A boy from my relative's family had very poor grades in cultural classes. His mother started to make up for him in art from the first grade of junior high school. He passed the college entrance examination and got into a university in Wuhan, majoring in advertising design. Visual inspection showed that he was quite promising.

The matter of supplementary classes is a matter of opinion. Parents must understand clearly what state their children are in and what they really need. They cannot blindly follow the trend or simply push the education of their children to extracurricular institutions. That is unrealistic. Put as much rice as the bowl has. Don’t choose inappropriate ones just to save face.

I was once such a mother. When I saw others taking tutoring classes, I was always afraid that my children would not be able to keep up. I was afraid that I would suffer a loss if I didn’t go, so I also taught my children New Concept English.

New Concept English has been a classic textbook for decades and is indeed worth learning. Later I discovered several problems:

1. There are too many children in the class. After all kinds of interactions, your children have very little time to actually learn, which is a waste of time.

2. The teacher’s pronunciation is not standard.

3. The class mode is mechanical.

After much thought, I decided to tutor myself at home instead of attending cram schools.

Because my child has been taught English by me since he was a child, his English ability is very good. There is no need for mechanical learning for exams. I have left more time for reading and reading aloud.

Every day when we get home, we give our children some snacks, drink some milk, and share everything that happened at school today to relax their children.

After 20 minutes, the children went back to their rooms to do their homework. Before doing their homework, they briefly reviewed today's lessons and then made plans. They each estimated the completion time of each homework and strived to finish it within 20 minutes. Complete homework at your own scheduled time so your child doesn't procrastinate.

After the homework is completed, the children will preview tomorrow's homework according to the guidance book, and today's study is over.

Before going to bed, what we often do is read to our children in bed. We read English picture books and Chinese novels together and talk about our experiences after reading them.

I think the reason why our children’s academic performance is good comes from our good parent-child relationship and more communication. The children’s personalities are very cheerful and they will not give up easily even if they encounter difficulties.

We basically have free time on the weekends. On Saturday morning, we will do the weekend homework that was not completed on Friday. On Saturday afternoon, we will study C++ programming by ourselves for an hour, and then play football until the evening

Sunday mornings are also free time for reading or for children to practice coding, and there is also football time in the afternoon.

We give our children as much time as possible to do sports. A good body is the basis for doing anything. Facts have proved that if you read more and think more, your children’s schoolwork performance will not be bad, but will be excellent. of.

So for parents who sign up for general tutoring plus interest tutoring, are their children tired? Is this learning effect good? You can think about this problem carefully.

I am Henry’s mother, who was born in the 1980s. I share with you the life of those born in the 1980s and spread positive energy.

I focus on family education, English enlightenment, and computer C++ tutoring.

Around me, I have only seen two types of parents who do not send their children to remedial classes: 1. They think there are things more important than grades

This type of parents usually take their children to do something Something else. I know an outdoor sports coach who often takes his son to try various outdoor sports, such as camping, skiing, tree climbing, ziplining... There is also a coach who makes balance bikes. He has trained his daughter to ride a balance bike since she was a child, and then after the modification off-road motorcycles... There are also some parents who take their children to travel around the world just to open their children's horizons.

These parents all have their own hobbies, and this hobby may be their career. They have well integrated this hobby with their children's education, and it can be said that they have accompanied their children with high quality. 2. Financial difficulties, parents don’t have this concept

Because the company’s business is mainly in the county, we found that many children actually wanted to make up lessons, but gave up due to family conditions, and were not even willing to talk about themselves to their parents. idea. In fact, maybe the family has the ability, but because the children often hear their parents worrying about money, they are unwilling to trouble their parents.

There are also some parents who feel that studying is useless, and even sending their children to school feels like a waste of money, let alone going to remedial classes.

My place is in a rural area, and tutoring classes are now emerging, mainly for after-school homework tutoring. Interest classes and specialty classes are not yet popular. Whether to attend a remedial class or not should be related to both parents and children. As for parents, some parents may work freely, while others may be full-time mothers to accommodate their children. They will tutor their children one-on-one at home, that is, they are professional accompanying mothers. Therefore, such children will not attend tutoring classes. . On the contrary, parents who have limited skills and cannot tutor their children, or are busy with work, have to go to tutoring classes. Then there are the reasons for children. Children with good grades can generally complete their homework on time and with good quality. There are not many remedial classes, but it is not ruled out that some do. The rest are those who will always sit on the bench in the class. These students have poor basic knowledge and weak basic skills, which makes them tired of studying. He doesn't know how to do it himself, so the homework can't be completed at all. It gives teachers a headache at school, and parents can’t do anything about it at home, so they will be sent to remedial classes. However, these students are also divided into two categories. One category is to deal with their parents and complete their homework symbolically. Over time, their grades have indeed improved. What I fear the most is the other type. In the name of attending tutoring classes, they don’t attend classes on time at all. Teachers and parents have to communicate with each other from time to time. In the end, if it doesn’t work, the parents will just let nature take its course and stop spending money on them. .

To be honest, today’s children are working hard enough. How much time can they take to rest calmly in a 24-hour day? After going to school for a day, they immediately go to the tutoring class, and they sit for nearly three hours. I have seen with my own eyes that many children would rather squat or lie down to do their homework than sit down to do it.

Poor children, they have been struggling to survive in a fiercely competitive environment since they were young! You have struggled with scores since you were young, and worked hard with work when you grew up. You have been under high pressure all the way. We will wait and see about your future!