Some parents-in-law would rather spend 100,000 on a trip than treat the other parent’s illness. What do you think?

In fact, this is a very common phenomenon. This situation is just like what the sentence says: "It is love to help you, but it is reason not to help you." Although the two parties are in-laws, It doesn’t necessarily mean that we must help each other. After all, money is earned through hard work. Parents of both parties do not have to help each other. They are different from their children. If they are children, then they are indeed obliged to help themselves. Old people, just imagine, if your child marries someone else, and the other person's parents are sick, would you be willing to spend a lot of money to help them treat their illness? I believe many people will have different attitudes. In fact, when encountering this situation, I think it should be solved through the following points:

1. Normally enhance the relationship between both parties

First of all, we can't just improvise. We should enhance the relationship between the elderly on both sides in normal times. For example, find opportunities to get together more. If the father-in-law and mother-in-law like to travel, then try to organize it so that everyone can travel together and have dinner together every week1 ~2 times, often using these methods to strengthen communication between the two parties can well promote the relationship between the two parties, and then the two parties will definitely help each other when something happens.

2. Do more work

For the elderly on both sides, we, as good intermediaries, should do more work in peacetime, for example, at the parents-in-law’s place, you You should say more about what your parents like about them. When it comes to your own parents, you should also say more about how your father-in-law and mother-in-law helped them behind the scenes. In short, through your efforts, you can let both parties promote their relationship, and slowly their relationship will grow. It will get closer and closer.

3. Speak directly if you have something to say

In fact, many times, there are too many hidden rules for adults to do things. At this time, we can choose to say something directly. For example, if it is true If you need help from your parents-in-law, you can find an opportunity to talk to your parents-in-law at their home and tell them directly about your situation. I believe that many times they will lend a helping hand after serious consideration.