Can in-laws move around like friends? Why?

Some people can do it, and some people really can’t!

My friend’s only daughter got married, and my friend’s family got along very well with her in-laws! Two days ago, a family of six went to Hulunbuir to travel together! The four of us were like friends, drinking and playing mahjong. It was so enviable!

But, my family can’t! I have been married for 24 years, and my parents-in-law have eaten at my house countless times, as have my parents! However, *** only ate at my house once. I remember it was the fifteenth day of the first lunar month. The upstairs of my parents’ house was being renovated and they stayed at my house. In time for the Lantern Festival, I invited my parents-in-law to my house to celebrate the festival together. After cooking a table of dishes, I was originally happy but my mother-in-law disturbed me. As soon as my mother-in-law sat down, she said to my parents that this is her son's home. She is the owner. Although my parents didn't say anything, I could feel their embarrassment! I quickly said, this is my daughter’s house, so there’s no need to be polite, it’s my own house. When my mother-in-law heard what I said, she felt that I was targeting her! It's very difficult for my husband and I to do this. As soon as we finish dinner, my husband immediately sends his parents away. I'm really afraid that deeper conflicts will arise!

I have never organized a similar dinner party since then. Both fathers are now deceased. On every reunion day such as Mother's Day and Mid-Autumn Festival, we spend the lunch with one mom and the other mom in the evening!

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Not only can in-laws move around like friends, but they can also go one step further than friends and become relatives.

Among in-laws, there are now a lot of only children. In fact, they are about the same age and have similar ideas. It can be said that they are like-minded.

In-laws should move around frequently. As the saying goes, "If you go smoothly, you won't get close." No matter how far the road is, the closer you will be, and no matter how deep the relationship is, it will fade away if you don't keep in touch.

Frequent contact and communication between the in-laws and the close relationship between the in-laws can also increase the affection between the children.

We get together with our in-laws at least once every two months to eat, drink, play and chat without having to think about what can and cannot be said. Our two children also have a very good relationship.

We have four in-laws, and I am the only one who has retired to look after my grandson. My in-laws take care of my grandson for me at least two days a week, but they still feel sorry for me. They either buy me cosmetics or a silk scarf when we have dinner. Said I saw my grandson working hard.

Our in-laws have basically the same hobbies. My in-laws said that they have established a travel fund. When our grandson gets older, we will take him to visit the great rivers and mountains of the motherland. It is wonderful to think about it.

My in-laws also said that after our parents are gone, we will spend the New Year and holidays together so as not to embarrass the children.

Smart in-laws will definitely get along well with each other, especially those with only children. They will not cause trouble for the children and will do everything for the best of the children.

Therefore, in-laws are more than friends. Being brought together because of two children is truly a fate given by God.

We interact with our in-laws just like our own sisters and brothers, because both of our families are only-child families, and we love our children as if they were our own! Both of our families are bold and generous, honest and honest in dealing with people, speaking out for justice, and quite temperamental. My son is her son, her daughter is my daughter, and my grandson is our same grandson. A pet peeve of all of us! We even said: In the future when we are old and unable to move, we will live together and take care of each other! No matter what happens in the future, that tacit understanding will always be cherished.

Not necessarily. The in-laws are relatives and should move around frequently, but it also depends on how the two families get along. My in-laws have been playing tricks on us from the time the child got married to the time the child was born, giving the young couple money to deceive us. She doesn't live up to her promise. She only talks about taking care of the children but doesn't practice. When she takes a summer vacation as a teacher, she greets her for more than ten days and then leaves. I always feel that her IQ is much higher than ours. After being fooled by her many times, I really don't want to be with her. Move around.

When the children get married, we have an additional family of relatives.

At first, my son couldn’t drive because his in-laws were out of town, so the young couple would go home by car. Later, when we had a baby, we were afraid that he would suffer, so we drove him back and picked him up again, walking like this. Several times, and during the confinement period, the daughter-in-law had a conflict and the old lady insisted on going back. At that time, the daughter-in-law had a fever due to mastitis, and to be honest, she felt a little uncomfortable. Later, I heard that I was afraid that the placenta would be broken and I had to go back and make it into a capsule to eat, which made me feel even more uncomfortable.

Later, when we sent our children home, we dropped them off at the door of our house and headed back without eating. It took about two hours one way. We and I took turns driving and got home in four hours for lunch. When we come back, we go to their highway entrance and they just bring it over.

Now my son occasionally drives and sometimes takes a ride, so the in-laws say hello to each other online. In this way, young couples can feel at ease. As long as they both benefit from each other, it is better for us old people to live their own lives without getting involved. As people get older, their ways of thinking and behavior are basically fixed. Not necessarily both parties can understand or tolerate each other, so we can do our own thing. It's best to be safe.

The in-laws are originally a family. We need to understand each other and be more tolerant. I like this problem, but I can’t handle it well no matter what I do. I treat my daughter-in-law better than my husband and children, and I can’t do anything. Considering my wife's feelings, I can just let it go if I feel a little unhappy. But my mother-in-law is always looking for trouble. When she came, she said she didn't smile at her or open water for her. So it's very difficult to meet such a person. Her I have to take good care of my daughter, and I have to greet her with a smile like God when she comes. I want to go to my daughter’s house and do everything. There is also a nanny. I go to my daughter’s house to cook, wash clothes, and do hygiene. These are all in our family. There is nothing different about what a housewife does. If you do more things, the nanny will do her best after leaving, and she will be in a better mood. Of course you can, and it is very possible. Give a few examples to illustrate.

1. Traveling and having fun together

My colleague in the department is also the mother of my daughter’s classmate. The child has been married for three years, and she and her biological mother travel together every year. I went to Sanya the year before last, Thailand last year, and Zhangjiajie this year. She said: My mother-in-law is in good health and I sometimes help her get things.

During the Spring Festival, the two families got together and celebrated the New Year at their children's home. Play mahjong and chat. Two families merge into one, enjoying themselves harmoniously.

2. ***Take care of the baby together

My husband is a brother and a comrade-in-arms. He and his in-laws are also comrades-in-arms. He stayed in my land and his in-laws were in his hometown. The child got married in the provincial capital.

The child gave birth to a boy. And the family is wealthy. My husband's comrade-in-arms gave him a dowry of 500,000 yuan, and the boy's family was in business. They didn't hire a confinement nanny, they were in charge during the confinement period. After the full moon, hire a nanny to help, and the expenses will be borne by both parties. Each person takes turns to be taken care of for three months. I went back to my hometown to celebrate the New Year, and the two families played mahjong together. When the girl's mother-in-law comes, she always brings a lot of local specialties to the girl's mother, just like sisters.

There are many examples of this. My classmate’s mother-in-law was hospitalized and she went to deliver meals every day. Some of them often go on outings and have meals together. People love and tolerate each other, not to mention their children and grandchildren. They have built a bridge of love between two families and become a bond of closeness and closeness. The more friendly the parents are, the more harmonious the children will be. With the care of the elderly on both sides, the children's work and life will get better and better.

It’s great to be close to each other. Only when the family is harmonious can everything be prosperous. My daughter is not married yet. I decided that I must get along well with my in-laws, play mahjong, drink tea, go shopping, travel, and even take care of the children.

Yes, my brother-in-law’s parents had never met my parents before my sister got married. They met for the first time during the engagement period and the second time on the wedding day. Before I got married, my brother-in-law's parents always contacted my parents through WeChat. After my sister got married, my brother-in-law's parents would often ask my brother-in-law to go back to my house with my sister. My sister and brother-in-law are in Shenzhen, and my brother-in-law's parents are in Guangzhou. , I live in Shenzhen and Guangzhou, so I know their affairs very well. My brother-in-law is an only child. We have 5 children in our family. My brother-in-law treats me like his own sister. My brother-in-law’s parents also treat me as their own child. , she had just graduated and was afraid that I wouldn’t have the money to force it on me. I didn’t dare to take it, so she asked my brother-in-law to transfer 2,000 yuan to me. My brother-in-law’s parents go to my house to visit and chat with my parents whenever they have free time. My aunt often goes shopping with my mother, and even sometimes stays at my house. During holidays, she often sends my mother WeChat messages, even on my parents’ birthdays. We all know that when my uncles and aunts go back to their hometown, they will send special products to my parents. My dad loves to eat oranges. Every time I come home, I buy a bunch of oranges. As a result, my brother-in-law sent 2 boxes of oranges to my dad back to his hometown. In fact, I am very grateful that they treat my sister as their own child, treat me as their own family, care and greet my family

I think my in-laws can get along like friends, and my in-laws and I are like sisters In this way, we have known each other for more than four years. We are two years apart in age, grew up in the same environment, and have similar education levels. We hit it off and have many topics to talk about together. The most important thing is that our wishes are the same. We both hope that Hello children, we all try our best to help the children. When we encounter problems, we will discuss solutions together. Don't protect your own children. In short, be more open-minded and consider each other more. The in-laws can get along well. We When the two families get along well, everyone is in a good mood, and the children are naturally happy too.

The quality of the relationship between the in-laws and the in-laws directly affects the happiness and harmony of the children's marriage.

However, in real life, the relationship between in-laws is full of problems.

A considerable part of the conflicts between in-laws and families have already occurred before marriage. I remember someone said: No parent is willing to marry off his daughter. Therefore, few parents of daughters happily approve of their future son-in-law's marriage when they first learn about or meet them.

In many places, there is also the custom of betrothal gifts and dowries. When discussing marriage, it is rare for both parents to reach a comprehensive agreement on this issue.

There are also many conflicts when preparing for a wedding, such as how many people to invite, how many tables to prepare, what wine to use, what cigarettes to smoke, and how many cars to use. Too many things are bound to create disagreement.

After getting married and having children, how to take care of the mother has become the focus of the problem due to the living habits, cultural differences, and health concepts of both parents. Who watches the children, how they watch them, and how long they watch them is another point of conflict.

Look, handling so many contradictions requires both patience and skill, tolerance and understanding.

Moving between in-laws is a good way to build a harmonious relationship. People are emotional animals, and even if some conflicts have arisen, they can be resolved through normalized interactions.

I am the girl’s parent. My biological mother is very strong, and my lover is not weak either. When my daughter gave birth to her first child, we started to have sex. I try my best to persuade my wife to seek common ground while reserving differences. If I really can’t stand it anymore, I can avoid the limelight first. My experience is to try to participate in major events of the other party's family, such as weddings and funerals of immediate family members. Make an appointment to travel together and visit each other during holidays. The relationship between our in-laws is very good.

The harmonious relationship between in-laws and families reduces a lot of pressure in children’s married life and is conducive to children’s happy life.