Why can’t I find someone to travel with?

I have read some articles by friends discussing this issue. To sum up, the reasons for not being able to make an appointment to travel together are as follows: 1. Time issues, 2. Economic issues, 3. Relationship issues or concepts. question.

I don’t quite agree with this statement. I think the above is just superficial. On the inside, not being able to make an appointment to travel with someone should be a human nature issue. It’s not a matter of time, finances, etc. Because appearances can be overcome, time can be squeezed, and money is not important. Traveling with a companion is usually close-range and short-term, and will not be a long-term settlement.

I understand that the deeper reason for not being able to ask someone to travel together comes from some of the worst things in human nature? Calculation.

As the old saying goes, habits are similar but nature is far apart.

What does it mean to have similar habits but far from each other? This is easy to understand. People in Hunan like spicy food, while people in Sichuan like spicy food. People in the same place have almost similar habits. But when it comes to personality, everyone is different and human nature is far apart.

Traveling is just about having fun, who doesn’t like to have fun? Yes, I enjoy playing, but it is human nature that decides to join.

Human attributes and all interactions are full of calculations. When you ask someone to go on a trip, you hear some time and financial reasons after being declined. Those are just excuses, and the real situation may not be the case.

In the past, I joined a group of educated youths. There were a lot of people. When everyone got together, they still had a lot to say. They usually invited each other to go somewhere to play, and everyone agreed. But when it's time to set off, many situations often arise. One after another, the reasons for not coming are the above, including lack of time, family commitments, etc. Why do different groups work differently? Because if you have a good time, if you don’t go, I won’t go either. Interestingly, many people travel because of others, not because of their own needs.

The so-called not being able to make an appointment with someone, first of all, you are asking for an appointment with an acquaintance or a stranger, so you will not make an appointment. Familiarity may be from previous encounters, colleagues, classmates, neighbors, etc. However, unless you have been walking together, most of these acquaintances may only be familiar to you by face. Traveling is about living together. You may be familiar with each other, but you may not be able to talk to each other. Talking, playing, and eating are all about nature, and everyone is different. You want to play this way, and he wants to do that. He doesn't like what you like to eat, and you don't like what he likes.

Even if you are friends, it may not be a good idea to travel together. Friends should have heard that friends should not travel together. The truth is the same. You must have seen that there are many couples who cannot get along when traveling.

Some people say that people in travel agencies are easy to get along with. In fact, in the travel agency team, people are individuals. Others have nothing to do with you, and your conversation, play, food, and accommodation have nothing to do with others.

On the other hand, when we travel with friends or acquaintances, we must have substantial contact. The contradiction lies here. This is the fundamental reason why I can’t find anyone to travel with.

So, what should we do? I wonder if we can change our thinking:

In terms of distance and time, there are only three types of travel: long-distance, ultra-long-distance, and leisure gatherings. Travelers should have very clear definitions of these three types of tourism.

1. For long distances, you don’t need a traveling companion.

For example, if you are from Changsha and plan to travel to Shanghai, you can go with your family or alone.

If you want to be together, you should choose the "barrier" method.

When friends travel one-on-one, or when a couple travels with another couple, a third party should accompany them to avoid direct confrontation.

The third party can be your friend, his friend, or the same friend. The barrier has a buffering effect. However, it is not easy to have too many combinations, and 3-4 groups are the best.

2. For very long distances, you must have a traveling companion.

For example, when you go to Tibet, you have travel companions, you can look after each other, and you are safer on the road.

Extra long distance, no need to worry about not being able to make an appointment. Speaking from the perspective of a self-driving person, there are like-minded people walking in the same direction as you in the dens, service areas, or even restaurants and hotels. If you choose to travel independently, it is even easier. You can meet passengers on the same plane or car at your destination, on the road, in hotels and restaurants. We call them "pickers".

When getting along with ultra-long-distance travel companions, you should separate your life and travel. You are just traveling together, don't stick together for food, accommodation and play. When you arrive at a scenic spot, you can act independently when it's time to eat. You can make your own decisions about whether to eat or not, whether to enter the scenic spot or not, and there is no need to act in unison.

3. At parties, the more people, the better.

It’s like going on an outing or going to a certain farm. You go there today and stay for a day or two and come back. This kind of activity is not suitable for small crowds. There are many people and it is lively. What you want is to have fun, play cards, sing, dance, talk, watch the fun... Strictly speaking, this is not a tourist, don't get confused.

In short, the reason why people can’t make appointments to travel together is because people ignore that there are interests behind any appointment. If we distinguish between travel, long-distance, ultra-long-distance, and gatherings, it will be possible to do it. When you don’t need company, you don’t have it. When you need company, you will definitely have it. You don’t have to worry about not being able to make an appointment.

Traveling, seeing the world, and seeing people, it is easiest to become aware of human nature. In the end, you will say goodbye to the immature past.