What should I do if I can’t always ask my friends to hang out?

This is an era when we need to learn to be alone.

There are always two reasons why I can’t make an appointment with friends: I don’t have friends, and my friends don’t have time. Maybe there are many people around you, and you seem to have a good relationship with everyone, but in fact, they don't regard you as a friend among others. Many times it may be because when you make an appointment with a friend, your friend just doesn't have time. After all, everyone's life rhythms are often different. This is also the reason why you can't ask your friends to hang out. In fact, it may also be because you didn't ask them in the right way. In short, there are various reasons.

Just like if you invite your friends to sing at a KTV at seven or eight in the morning, it is normal for you to be rejected! When asking friends out, you also need to have the right time, place, and right people. Your reason for asking them out should be enough to make them excited, so that it will not be difficult to not get a date. Many times it is necessary to pay attention to strategy. After all, this is an era of routines. There are many friends around me who often ask other friends to hang out, but many times I really don’t want to complain about him. You told me what time you would arrive, but they were waiting for you at your destination for hours and you didn't even show up. You didn't even call to explain the reason. Or you ask someone out and let them foot the bill every time. It’s to be expected that people won’t hang out with you over time! So many times you have to self-examine first to see if it is your own problem.

If your friends can't hang out with you due to time constraints, I think you should also learn to be alone. Everyone is an independent individual. Since others don’t have time to hang out with you, start by yourself. Especially in today's age, many times you can only rely on yourself. Learning to live alone and be alone is also a very important thing in the process of growing up. After all, no one will always be with you. Many times you will understand yourself better when you are alone. This is also a process of self-discovery, so when you can't make an appointment with friends, spend some time by yourself.