What do you think of a daughter-in-law traveling in the New Year only to find that the wedding room is occupied by her mother-in-law?

I have always felt that the communication between people is based on sincerity. Only when we meet sincerely can we reap the true feelings. Suitable for friends, relatives and even lovers.

But now I find that sincere quality is really hard to come by. In a relationship, few people can be sincere, even couples who live together day and night will be insincere and disloyal to each other.

The weakness of human nature lies in selfishness, which cannot be denied or avoided. Even saints have a selfish side, not to mention us ordinary people?

But we should also be selfish and not harm the interests of others. This is actually one of the conditions for people to get along with each other.

But some people will only ask others to be good to him unconditionally, and he doesn't want to pay himself. Selfishness refers to such a person, and in real life, such a person is also the most disgusting. In interpersonal communication, such people are also ignored.

If such people appear in marriage, it is also a disaster. Some elders, in particular, have to put on airs and say that they are parents after their children get married, and feel that husband and wife must listen to themselves and interfere in their children's marriage in vain. This is undoubtedly a great harm to marriage.

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Parents interfere in their children's marriage, but in fact they are only harming their own children. Some parents can be sincere to their children, but not to their other half. This is reflected in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law

Many times, the mother-in-law is confused about her son's marriage. She always feels that since the daughter-in-law has entered the door of her own house, she should listen to her words like a son. But she forgot that her daughter-in-law is not your child, and she has no obligation to listen to you. If the mother-in-law only thinks about herself and tries to interfere in her daughter-in-law's life, it will easily lead to conflicts between her mother-in-law and her daughter-in-law.

Some people may say: my mother-in-law is old, and many things will not change for a while. A daughter-in-law should be considerate of her mother-in-law. But what should I do if I meet a mother-in-law who is unrepentant and will only bully the weak and fear the hard?

Daughter-in-law can treat her mother-in-law sincerely first, but what if she doesn't get a reward for a long time? You know, sometimes patience will only make the other person mistakenly think that you are weak and bully you more.

Therefore, in the face of the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, we should treat it dialectically. It is not feasible to endure blindly, and it is not advisable to plan contradictions. We should be flexible on the basis of facts.

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Reader Lu Xiao told me her story. She told me that she thought it would be good to be kind to the elderly, but later found that family harmony needs the joint efforts of both sides, otherwise it will only harm herself and the other side will push your luck.

Xiao Lu is a woman with a strong sense of independence. Her parents' education and personal experience told her that women should not only rely on men, but also rely on themselves.

Therefore, Lu Xiao is very enterprising and has a serious work attitude, which is deeply loved by the leaders.

When she married her husband Abin, Lu Xiao took out her savings, and with the money from Abin's family, they bought a house in the city. When I first bought a house, I wrote the names of two people. For this reason, Lu Xiao's mother-in-law is quite picky. But Xiao Lu took the money, and she couldn't say anything, so the matter had to be forgotten.

Abin's father died of illness a few years ago, leaving Abin and his mother. Since he married Xiao Lu, he has been discussing with Xiao Lu to take over his mother.

It's not that Lu Xiao is stingy, because she has heard people say that conflicts will arise when her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live together for a long time. So Lu Xiao refused Abin's request.

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But Xiao Lu thought of a compromise, that is, renting a small house in the community and letting Abin take his mother to his hometown. Lv Xiao paid the rent, and Abin hesitated and agreed.

Lu Xiao's method made her mother-in-law very dissatisfied. She felt that Lu Xiao just disliked herself, so she just found a house outside and sent it away for herself, which made her son unable to be filial to herself. She is a vicious woman.

Therefore, no matter what Lu Xiao does next, she will not be ungrateful, and sometimes she will deliberately make things difficult for Lu Xiao and speak ill of Lu Xiao in front of her son.

For a while, Abin went on a business trip. Before leaving, she told Lu Xiao to visit her mother often. Lu Xiao agreed.

During that time, Lu Xiao went to her mother-in-law's house to cook almost every day, and then Lu Xiao did housework and laundry. However, her mother-in-law is ungrateful. She often deliberately makes things difficult for Lu Xiao, either because her cooking is not delicious or because her clothes are not cleaned. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law gradually became very bad.

What annoys Xiao Lu most is that after Abin came home, her mother-in-law said that Xiao Lu deliberately gave her a hard time. The food she cooks every day is deliberately unpalatable, and the clothes are not washed well.

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Abin didn't ask randomly, but scolded Lu Xiao. This made Lu Xiao feel wronged, and husband and wife often quarreled.

Because Xiao Lu doesn't agree with her mother moving in, Abin has always had a knot in her heart. Abin also took her mother's complaints for granted, so her attitude towards Lu Xiao gradually deteriorated.

Xiao Lu was very wronged. On the spur of the moment, she found her mother-in-law and had a big fight. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are related to freezing point.

Since then, Lu Xiao has never been to her mother-in-law's house, nor has she paid for renting a house.

A few years later, before the Spring Festival, she decided to travel with Abin for the New Year, and Abin agreed. But unexpectedly, when Lu Xiao came back from her trip, she found her mother-in-law living in her wedding room.

It turns out that two people have traveled these days. Before Abin left, she secretly gave the key to her mother-in-law and asked her to move in. The rented house over there was also returned.

Lu Xiao found her wedding room occupied by her mother-in-law. She immediately asked Abin to send her mother-in-law away, but Abin said she couldn't be so unfilial.

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Facing her mother-in-law's irrationality and her husband's inaction, Lu Xiao felt that she had been teased. Regardless, she went directly to her mother-in-law and asked, "Are you going or should I?"

Mother-in-law made a hullabaloo about, said a lot of ugly words, and said that Lu Xiao can't take care of her son now. Xiao Lu flew into a rage after hearing this, and filed for divorce directly. And took the child back to her mother's house.

A few days before leaving, my mother-in-law told Abin that you can't take care of the children alone. Don't worry, you'll be back in two days.

Abin really didn't go to Lu Xiao after listening to it. He and his mother ate, drank and made friends for two weeks in a row. Xiao Lu was even more chilling about this marriage after reading it.

With the support of parents, Lu Xiao found Abin with a divorce agreement and asked him and her mother-in-law to move out as soon as possible, because the house was half hers.

Abin and her mother-in-law were dumbfounded. I didn't expect Lu Xiao to be so determined and really dare to divorce. Abin cried and begged Lu Xiao to forgive him, and her mother-in-law begged her not to divorce her son. But it's too late.

Women's initial wishes for marriage are all beautiful. As long as you fall in love with her, she will be willing to pay and give in for their future. However, reality is often cruel. If you are too tolerant and kind, you will be regarded as a weakness by a willing heart, and the other party will bully you.

So is the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. If faced with an unreasonable and unruly mother-in-law, women should not blindly tolerate, but show their principles and be a woman with a bottom line, so as to better safeguard their marriage.