Excuses let us repeat our miserable lives, but what we want is not just poetry and distance

I was chatting with a new friend in a coffee shop. My friend is a public relations event organizer and does some photography work part-time. As for casual chat, my friends complained that PR activities require traveling all year round, making it difficult to settle down. There are many competing partners competing for business, and the work is boring and difficult to do. As a part-time photographer, I also missed many opportunities to take photos of famous models. Others They are all doing well, but they are still unknown.

I said, why don’t you change your job? He said it was too difficult to change jobs, and the public relations industry was mainly about connections. Without connections, you wouldn’t be able to do well anywhere, and he didn’t have many connections. I said, what about becoming a professional photographer? He said it’s even harder to be a photographer. There are a lot of big names and there are countless people waiting to become famous.

He doesn’t want to admit that he wants stability, high income, comfort, and fame, but he just doesn’t want to settle down and plan well or do his current job well. All you do is make excuses.

When a friend asked me about my work, I said: "I quite like my job." My friend's eyes widened and he looked at me with a look of disdain and exclaimed: "How is that possible? I have never heard of anyone who likes their job!"

I am what people call an "IT migrant worker" , The IT industry is a sunrise industry. With the development of science and technology, every industry needs informatization, and you don’t have to worry about not being able to find a job in the future. I am a person who likes new and advanced technologies by nature. IT can bring me constant technological updates and satisfy my curiosity about all walks of life. I have a stable job and a good relationship with my colleagues. I still work in a city that I like. Although the salary of this job is not high, it can provide me with a living. I still have savings for a year to travel. I work 9 to 5 and have a regular life, which does not affect me at all. Life after get off work... I really can't deny it, I just love my job. If I didn't like it, even if I didn't like it that much, I would have resigned early.

I know that I must be a very annoying person in his eyes at this moment. I should tell him how much I hate my job, how much I hate my life, and even complain about society with him. Injustice and the system.

Zhihu said: "All those who complain about social injustice and the system only have one sentence translated: Please give me money, women and social status."

The sad thing is that humans are never willing to admit that they are making excuses, including me. It’s just that I realized that excuses would only lead me to a miserable life over and over again, but what I wanted was not just poetry and distance.

I didn’t work in the city I like now for two years. That was when I just graduated from college, and I worked in T City. When I first arrived there, I found that the climate, accent, and lifestyle of T city were not suitable for me. But when I thought about only having 1,000 quick bucks in my pocket, I still gave up my waist for five buckets of rice. After working for a year, I have some savings. I still don't like it here, but considering that my workplace is a central enterprise and my job is stable, I still can't bear to leave. But now I am facing a city that I don’t like and I don’t want to settle here. I feel terrible. When I was working for almost two years, I thought over and over again and asked myself what kind of life I really wanted. Are you willing to give up your current comfort for such a life? Are you willing to start over in your favorite city?

The answer is: I do.

So I came to the city I like, doing a job I like, and looking forward to meeting the people I like and living the life I like with me. I think if I can work hard earlier, then I will live the life I want earlier.

I am not an idealist, on the contrary, I am very realistic. Just do it if you like it, and work hard. Just give up if you don't like it, never regret, never run away or make excuses.

I am willing to admit that sometimes I am timid, vain, and lazy, but I must not use excuses to deceive myself. I am willing to improve.

I am a person with a genetic constitution that is prone to obesity, so I have never given up exercise and will lose weight in stages. During my last staged weight loss and fitness exercise last winter, I sent a WeChat message to everyone I could think of who would invite me to dinner, including my family, colleagues, boss, and friends. I said that starting from November 30, as long as I don't weigh ** pounds, so please don't invite me to dinner. If you do, you can only eat low-calorie salads. You can have afternoon tea, but it can only be black coffee. After sending the group message, I started eating healthy meals. I made healthy meals for myself, and went to a salad restaurant with my boss for business. An old friend I hadn’t seen for a long time also went to FRESH’s salmon salad. Even when I go back to my mother's house, I ask my mother to buy ingredients for me in advance and I can make healthy meals by myself when I go back. My family didn't understand at first. They thought I wasn't too fat, so why did I torture myself? But after seeing me scream with joy in front of the scale in order to lose a little weight, my mother took the initiative to ask me if I would prepare the ingredients for a healthy meal before I went home the next weekend. I found that if you implement your plan unswervingly, the people around you will support you.

Yes, I lost ten pounds because I didn’t regularly do abdominal muscle training in front of the videos, and I also developed a vest line.

? If you want to lose weight, don’t make excuses such as having to attend social events, having to eat when you get home, having to eat for your husband and children if you don’t want to eat, feeling hungry, etc. The truth is that no one cares. No one is going to get mad at you because you only eat salad when socializing, no one is going to starve to death because you don't eat, and no one is going to have trouble finishing dinner because you're eating a healthy meal. All your excuses are excuses for your greedy and lazy desire to lose weight.

My friend is a military wife. She complains that because her husband is inconvenient to go abroad, she cannot travel. She is particularly envious of people who can travel everywhere every year. I said your husband is a soldier, but you are not. You can take your children, your parents, or go abroad with your friends! She said she didn’t have a husband to worry about not being good at English. I said just learn it. Travel English is not difficult. She said going abroad is expensive, so save your money. I have nothing to say, let her continue to envy others!

People who don’t want to do it are always looking for excuses, and people who want to do it are always looking for ways.

I once felt that my butt became flat when I worked at my desk every day. Then I found a 40-day squat tutorial and followed it for 40 days. My butt became much rounder and firmer, and it looked much better when I wore a tight skirt.

I feel that my English is not good, and I insisted on memorizing 100 words every day. I memorized more than 7,000 words in the TOEFL. Although my English has not improved much, I have gained a lot of confidence.

I suddenly fell in love with a certain type of novel, and I once read 40 of them in 2 months...

?I also saw a girl lose weight from 150 pounds to 110 pounds with my own eyes Jin, I was running during the dog days of summer and she was running as well. I stopped running on the dog days of summer and nineteen, but she was still running. I could run up to 10 kilometers, but she had already run a half marathon and won several medals. I just want to say that she looks amazing after losing weight!

You may think that I have some chicken soup and some chicken blood, but in fact I am not determined at all. I am doing an ordinary office worker's job, I don't have much savings, and I rent a house to live. I am not good enough, but I'm getting better little by little.

I don’t make excuses, cherish every idea, turn it into a wish list, and complete my plans in an orderly manner. After completing one thing after another that I wanted to try, I became clearer about what I like and what I don’t like, and spent more time on the things I like instead of letting thoughts linger in my mind. Don't waste good time.