Should a friend who borrows money and refuses to pay it back should be urged to pay it back?

My opinion is that it should be urged. Because you lent him the money as a friend, and if you don't repay it after a long time, it means he is dishonest. If he breaks his promise when he borrowed the money, then he no longer treats you as a friend. Besides, Yes, no matter who you are, you must borrow and repay. Honesty is the most basic principle of being a human being. This money should be urged. If there is a repayment period agreed upon, try not to urge it within the period; if the repayment period is exceeded, you can remind it in a timely manner; if you have no intention to repay the money for a long time after borrowing it, you must urge it.

For example, a friend of mine borrowed 10,000 yuan from another friend. At the time, he said he would pay it back in two months. Later, he owed more than 100,000 yuan due to gambling. It has been almost 3 years since he paid it back. Half of it has not been returned, and the previous half was returned after urging several times. After the friend learned about the situation, he simply stopped pressing him.

All my friends and buddies around me know that my purpose is that if you feel embarrassed to open your mouth when you ask me to borrow money, it means that you feel that you have a good relationship with me. Since we have a good relationship and you didn’t pay me back when I used the money, I have the nerve to ask for it! If I ask for a debt and you make a face and look particularly annoyed, then just give me the money back and that's the end of the matter! I don't expect you to accept my favor when I lend money, but I also don't want my enemies to lend money to me just because I lend money to others.

The maintenance of relationships between friends needs to be based on trust, especially when borrowing money. I trusted you to lend you the money, so you have to work hard to live up to my trust. If the borrower violates the agreement first, it is equivalent to breaking the foundation of trust and losing trust. Of course, the lender should press for debt. Or to put it another way, if there are no special circumstances and no understanding is obtained from the lender, we can conclude that this behavior no longer treats the lender as a friend. If that's the case, why not urge it? Of course, if the other party is willing to take the initiative to repay the loan, but really has difficulties, and actively explains to you or formulates a repayment plan, then don't press if you can.