As long as you know how to choose and plan, stay-at-home moms can be wonderful and fulfilling

Women will always face more choices, especially under the influence of thousands of years of Chinese traditional culture - men are at home and women are at home. In the eyes of everyone, women seem to make sacrifices for the family. A matter of course.

To be honest, I used to be very disgusted with stay-at-home mothers. Of course, I was not disgusted with the stay-at-home mothers themselves. What I was disgusted with was the moral judgment of this society: it is natural for women to contribute to the family. If a woman devotes herself to work, a little If you neglect your family, you will be criticized by the outside world. The most ridiculous thing is that most of these accusations come from mothers and mothers-in-law who are also women.

Especially when I see many female friends around me, after having children and becoming stay-at-home mothers, they are busy with their children and family all day long, focusing on trivial and trivial matters. I am even more determined: resolute If you don’t become a full-time mother, you must not lose yourself.

But after watching the Mother’s Day short film I wrote, Peng Fei’s story changed my mind. It turns out the question has never been full-time or job, it's just a matter of personal choice. As long as you know how to choose and plan, stay-at-home moms can be fulfilling and growing.

Peng Fei’s story has given me a lot of inspiration. Let me share three insights with you:

Peng Fei was an S-level project manager in the past, which can be said to be a career She was on the rise and had a bright future, but something happened to her son, which made her resolutely resign to accompany her child as he grew up.

Returning to the family at this time is not a compromise and giving up on life, but an inner self-choice.

Indeed, when children are young, it is very important for parents to accompany and care for them.

My mother complained to me a few days ago that my sister-in-law was too nervous about the child and did not leave her niece in their care. I understand what my mother means. My brother and sister-in-law work in another city. If my mother wants to see her granddaughter, she has to wait until her brother and sister-in-law come home during the short holiday, or she can only take a car to see her. In contrast, many of her friends are taken care of by their children. The grandsons and granddaughters are left to the grandparents to take care of while they work hard outside, so the mother is very envious.

I don’t know what my brother-in-law and sister-in-law told my mother. I immediately said back: If it were me, I wouldn’t be the hands-off shopkeeper myself and leave the children completely to the elders. When I was a child, my parents were busy with business and left me at my grandparents' house until I was 9 years old and entering the second grade of elementary school. This experience once made me feel insecure. I thought my mother didn't like me. Even now as an adult, I am not used to being too close to my mother.

Now I also have the right to choose. I can choose the life I want to live and the things I think are most important.

Being a housewife does not mean completely losing yourself. We can take care of our family and children while taking advantage of every opportunity to cultivate ourselves and improve ourselves.

Like Peng Fei, she studies piano, reading, financial management, fitness, and travel. She leads a more colorful life than many working women. When you look at her, you see a refined and elegant woman, with no hint of decadence or slovenliness.

And what she looks like now is just because she has never given up growing, and has been exploring her own interests and potential, learning and making progress all the time. This is worth learning from every woman.

Choose to be a stay-at-home mother and without professional income, it seems that the burden of the family will fall on the husband alone, but accounting and financial management have changed everything.

Optimize household expenditures and reduce unnecessary consumption through accounting; obtain passive income through investment and financial management, and increase family income.

Accounting records daily expenses and every detail of life. It is also a matter of self-management and practice.

May you and I always remember: We are more than just mothers, we can choose a multi-faceted and wonderful life!