How to take my in-laws on a trip?

A new vision of grassroots influence: Dr. Phoebe

A while ago, an article was circulated on the Internet about how to travel with parents or elders. And Dr. Phoebe, who loves to travel with her elders, can't help but pay attention? I found that most articles on elder travel teach you how to take your parents to travel, and then unless you are single, it is correct to travel with the elder on the woman's side. The truth has not changed since ancient times. Mother-in-law always looks more interesting when she looks at her son-in-law, and she always looks more angry when she looks at her daughter-in-law. So I seldom (or so far) read about taking my in-laws to travel. I have just taken my in-laws out several times, and I will take them out again when I have the opportunity. I decided to share some small steps with my in-laws. If you want to hear your daughter-in-law speak ill of your mother-in-law, please move directly to the North fan base. Thank you!

First decide whether the relationship with your in-laws can stand the test.

If your relationship with your mother-in-law is like playing ordinary love every day, they don't like each other, don't contact each other at ordinary times, or want to stab you with a kitchen knife as soon as they meet, then it's really, really best not to travel with your in-laws. No matter who you travel with, even the sister or the other half, there will be many unsatisfactory things during the trip, such as getting lost, such as the closure of scenic spots, such as information errors, such as time delays and delayed trips. This is already a challenge to the general feelings, let alone a mother-in-law who is treading on thin ice. Dear daughters-in-law, I really don't have a good relationship with my mother-in-law. Dr. Phoebe cares about you. Please don't embarrass yourself. Feel free to complain in front of me at any time, but travel with your in-laws? Forget it!

Is your relationship with your husband stable enough, and is your travel temperament consistent?

I swear I don't want to write bisexual language, but before traveling with my in-laws, it is necessary for them to travel by themselves. Once or twice doesn't count, but it has been several times, and both husband and wife have a tacit understanding of travel. Two people come from different families, and their ideas and ways of traveling need to be adjusted. I still remember when my husband and I went to Europe for a self-help tour for the first time, we were in an atmosphere of quarreling anytime and anywhere. It was the first time that we helped ourselves in Europe for a long time, and we didn't know much about skimming and our habits, such as when to get up, when to go out and how many times to play. In this case, if you travel with your in-laws, there should be a family revolution.

Just like any husband and wife, before you get used to your in-laws, you must settle your relationship and feelings with your husband. If you are newly married or newly married, go out to live in your own house for a few years, cultivate the consistent feelings of your in-laws and the tacit understanding of traveling before taking your in-laws to travel!

Start with the same-day round trip or light tour plan.

Assuming that the above two points can be done, don't worry, let's start with a light travel plan. Or plan the kind of trip that can go back and forth in the same day. Whether you take the high-speed train to Tainan, the MRT to Danshui, or the train to Chiayi, you can go into battle lightly. Plan your trip, from going out to going home, and then see if you are crazy on the round trip this day, as an indicator. If the performance of in-laws is passable (how can it be like grading primary school students), consider a weekend trip for two to three days next time, and then extend it to three or four days, one week and two weeks.

Find out the habits of elders

Some elders like to join groups, while others like to help themselves. Some people like to visit all the scenic spots at once, take a group photo with them and leave, but some people like to travel in depth and stroll slowly. At this time, you can find out more about your in-laws or indirectly ask your in-laws what kind of travel they like on other occasions. Is this a city walk? Climb the mountain to see the scenery? Or bask in the sun by the sea? Or you can visit old streets and see historical sites. Doing these lessons often takes some time, but at least the probability of success (success means successfully completing a trip and then the elders are unhappy) will be higher.

Try to take the lead in traveling, and let me know in advance if you want to share the expenses.

Since ancient times, the most expensive thing is. If you can invite your in-laws to play, you can at least master the details such as location, route, accommodation and diet. Of course, there are ways to play without money. It is also ok to go to the old street nearby and take your in-laws to eat local products. In fact, it is your intention to take your in-laws out to play, not to make you spend a lot of money to make a living. If you are really in financial difficulties, you just don't have to take your in-laws out to play (hey) XD.

Or the elders are willing to spend some money, and your in-laws are very independent and don't mind playing with them, so let them take you on a trip! The advantage is that if the in-laws are dominant, that is, they pay more, so you can just walk behind your ass. Why not? )

Accommodation and catering have been slightly upgraded.

Since we are traveling with our elders, those trips to the mountains and the sea are not necessarily suitable, and their needs must also be taken into account. In terms of accommodation, in any case, try to separate two rooms from your in-laws and have more private space, which is good for each other during the trip. Never book the same room to save money. Moderate privacy is absolutely necessary.

Remember that the main purpose of taking in-laws out is to make them happy, not to satisfy their own desires.

If you only have a few holidays a year, and you are always eager to go abroad to play, and the list of things you want to see is endless, then I suggest not to travel with your in-laws. It is suggested that wherever you want to play, see and try, you should go around with your husband or sister, and then your desire and desire for travel are satisfied, and then you can play with your in-laws to be normal. Take them to play to appreciate their hard work, show some filial piety, make them happy and so on. And take this as a starting point. Suppose this trip only allows you to buy what you want (the question is which daughter-in-law dares to shop in front of her mother-in-law, please raise her hand), visit the scenic spots you want and take the photos you want, then consider it as a bonus.

Don't forget the restrooms, rest time and even naps that elders need during the usual trip, which should be taken into account in the trip.

During the journey: remember to be patient, be patient and then be patient.

There will always be unexpected disappointments and episodes in the journey. Please be patient again. Qian Qian should never get angry in front of her in-laws. At worst, it won't happen again. I won't take them out of town next time at best. They have all gone out, and there is no turning back. We must try our best to finish the trip. Remember not to quarrel with your husband in front of them. Because your unintentional outburst may be a small fight in your sweet relationship with your husband. Generally speaking, your mother-in-law can talk to her next-door neighbor or other relatives about the first half of the year, and as a result, you will create an image of a fierce wife, but maybe you are obviously a maid and privately he is an old man! So ladies, please be patient. If necessary, go to the bathroom (never at dLinener's desk) to chat with your sister or family, complain and break the news, but in any case, do your best to make the trip end safely.

If you really can't stand it, give it to your husband.

If your in-laws are old-fashioned, unable to communicate, and exaggerated, you have kicked your husband countless times privately under the dinner table, and your husband's feet are bruised by you, then I suggest asking him to be your lobbyist. Asking him to communicate with his family will only get twice the result with half the effort.

Communicate and communicate again

Every time I travel, I often like to ask my in-laws' questions, but what is their favorite highlight or the highlight of the whole trip? This can be used as the basis for the next trip, let me know what they like and dislike, and gradually establish a tacit understanding with their in-laws. In addition, after such positive communication, even if there are other unhappy things on the trip, you at least know that they are also fun.

Even though traveling with my in-laws requires more homework, I never regret taking them out. And those moments of travel have become beautiful memories of our family. I will always remember that when we went to Death Valley National Park (extended reading: California Death Valley National Park-when Death Valley was full of flower of life), they saw Desert Flower's touch and admiration, and then it rained continuously after taking a series of photos of wild flowers. I will also remember watching them climb the rocks in the mountains and taking a sweet photo for them. Of course, I also thank my in-laws for their countless understanding and understanding, which made our trip possible. I hope I can take them around the world bit by bit in the future (at least this is my wish as a daughter-in-law).