Things you want to do but haven’t been able to do yet

Things you want to do but haven’t been able to do so far

Do you have something you really want to do? Have you completed it? The following are the things you want to do but haven’t been able to do so far. What I have not been able to accomplish is what I have brought to you, and I hope it will be helpful to you.

1. See your past self and embrace yourself

The things that are worrying about you have not been completed yet, but times have changed. How regretful and helpless it is. Looking back on the way you came, please see your past self and your pure and beautiful wishes.

Reality is never perfect, and there are always many imperfections in life. For example, in the readers' comments, they gave up their studies for the sake of their families, the emotions that they suppressed and did not express in time because of their youth, and the hand-in-hand travel that failed to be fulfilled because of a broken love. Maybe it's because of objective reasons in reality, maybe it's because of subjective factors. When you look back, you will inevitably lament your fate, regret the past, and sigh at yourself. But the years are gone and will never come back, no matter how much helplessness there is.

However, when you can see your past self, you will find that the self who was full of fantasies but had to suppress his true needs was so fragile and even had to pretend to be strong. Tell yourself it doesn't matter, how pitiful!

When you look back, please don't rush to judge or deny. Please feel the original self and try to understand him (her). After so many years, I still can't forget those things, which shows how deeply those things affected me. There was a lot of helplessness in the choice at that time, but perhaps for me at that time, it was the most real choice. In such an environment, such a mental self, such a real existence.

So, when you see your past regrets, helplessness and helplessness, please give yourself a deep hug. When you face your former self with a more open and broad heart, even if you just accompany it silently, self-healing has begun to happen unconsciously.

2. Farewell requires a ceremony, please say goodbye to the past with a smile

In reality, there are many things that we are worried about but cannot complete. In fact, what we are facing is loss, as The death of a loved one, broken love, etc. mentioned in the reader's comments above.

Faced with sudden major changes, we often feel helpless. Do we need to complete those things that we have planned? In my opinion, in the face of loss, if after a period of self-reflection If adjustments can be made smoothly and smoothly, then those failed plans will inevitably be accepted along with the loss. However, if we are still holding on to unfinished events for a long time, then perhaps we need to address the feeling of loss.

Reader @Nana failed to fulfill her wish to take her grandma to travel to Beijing after graduating from college. Every time she thinks about this matter, she still has strong emotions. The reason is that she has not been able to truly say goodbye to her grandma psychologically, and she still cannot let go of her unfulfilled wish. In her opinion, she feels guilty towards her grandma, accompanied by self-blame. How to deal with such a knot in the heart? In my opinion, Nana can actually complete such a ritual and fill the vacancy and regret in her heart. For example, take grandma's ashes or representative relics with you to Beijing for a walk, and go to the scenic spots you promised to take grandma to. When she completes this matter, she can heal her guilt and inner pain towards her grandma, and bid farewell to her psychologically.

Many times, farewell requires a ceremony. It requires a ceremony to carry our various emotions and allow us to face the reality of what has happened and accept the reality. Unfinished events often serve as such a ritual.

Reader @李丽~ After breaking up with her boyfriend, Liang went on a trip to the place she had promised to be together when they were in love. This was actually a farewell ceremony. In the message of reader @May, the importance of the farewell ceremony is more vividly reflected. After being broken up for more than a year and unable to truly get out of the shadow, she went to the city where her ex-boyfriend grew up alone, deleted his photos, and finally completely This relationship was deleted.

Of course, there can be many kinds of rituals, and they are not necessarily achieved by completing unfinished events. For example, in psychological counseling, counselors sometimes ask lovelorn clients to keep a diary or write a letter to say goodbye to their lover. Of course, it is not necessary to deliver the letter, but through the process of "writing a letter" ceremony to complete the farewell.

Time has passed, and if unfinished events are still a worry for you, you might as well make the sense of ceremony more intense. When you fill the vacancy in your heart and truly say goodbye to those people with a smile, you will also have those things. Gain physical and mental freedom.

3. Understand time and growth, and reconcile with yourself

Whether it is seeing the past self, embracing yourself, or saying goodbye to the past through a ceremony, in the end it is nothing more than understanding the time and growth. Grow and make peace with yourself.

Reader @Qianjiang mentioned that she wanted to go to graduate school. I wonder what her original motivation was for going to graduate school? If she mainly wanted to find a stable job, then she would go through many twists and turns later. , and finally realized his wish.

It is certainly a pity that I could not go to graduate school. But looking back, after several years, when you look at the matter of studying for graduate school, besides regrets, are there any other perceptions that are different from when you first wanted to study for graduate school? When you look back, can you see the changes you have made in the years? Growing up, seeing different mentalities facing the same thing?

Time passes, everyone is growing up, and the wishes that were once unfulfilled eventually become the knots that are grudges, or are they still the same? Light relief depends on how we view ourselves and growth.

A few years ago, I was very keen on traveling alone. For me at that time, the feeling of being alone on the road could make me feel spiritual freedom and detachment. I enjoyed this state. In order to prove my pursuit of the spiritual world, I went to many places and made some plans for myself.

In 2011, I told myself that within three years, I must go to Tibet. However, three years have passed and I have not yet gone to Tibet. The reason is that in the past three years, my life experience and experiences have told me that I do not need to prove myself by traveling; my pursuit of spiritual freedom and transcendence does not need to be reflected by going to Tibet. Therefore, for me, Tibet is no longer a symbol and no longer has the meaning given at that time. And when I understood time and growth, I reconciled with my young, frivolous and paranoid self.

People often say that they should never forget their original intention. In fact, as time passes, it is normal for the intention at this time and place to change greatly compared with the original intention. You are no longer the same person you were before, so why should you cling to the old standards and examine your new self? Look at the essence through phenomena. Now that times have changed, for many things, whether you do them or not is not that important. For example, for me now, going to Tibet is no longer a must. Of course, I do not exclude going to Tibet. If I have the opportunity, it is not a bad idea to go to Tibet, but my mentality is different from before.

Time flies, and when we can understand time and growth, we can better reconcile with ourselves. When the grudges gradually become relieved, we will also live a new version of ourselves.

4. Travel the world on a budget

As a standard young man, I really want to travel around the world on a budget as a backpacker carrying a schoolbag. See the scenery of this world, see other places, and the exotic customs in other places. This is something I hope to do, but because of my courage and poverty, this has never been realized, and neither are my parents. They supported me so much that this matter has been put on hold until now.

For someone who is born very emotional but is lazy and timid, there are so many things I want to do in my heart, but so few things I have implemented. Recently, a roommate wanted to deliver food. We think delivering food is a very prestigious thing, just delivering food.

The calmer life becomes and the greater the heart, the more courage will be worn away. In the end, there will be very little left, so the things you want to do are just the things you want to do. , I have never thought about realizing it. I have not traveled around the world on a budget. I can only watch those backpackers traveling around the world. They share their stories on their Weibo, which I read with great interest.

But if there is a chance to realize it, I will still go. After all, this is a small impulse from the literary youth. Is this a thing? Is this a feeling? OK, this is what I want to do. Now, before, and in the future, I want to go to Tibet and Hoh Xil.

In fact, another thing is to protect Tibetan antelopes. After watching Lu Chuan's "Kekexili", I really feel that I want to go to the Tibetan Antelope Sanctuary to protect these little angels, or become an animal protector. Volunteers at the base are also available. I like animals and I hope I can protect them.

5. A quick trip

What I have always wanted to do but never had the chance to do is to take a quick trip. I want to go to Lijiang, Yunnan , I want to see the beautiful scenery of Lijiang, see the architecture of Lijiang, and I also want to see what kind of food there is. I have been thinking about this trip since I went to college, but many factors have prevented me from realizing it so far. .

My family is from Hainan, and I studied in college in Hainan, so I have never been out of Hainan Island since I was a child. I have never taken a train, a plane, or a boat. My first The first time I took a train was two months ago, so I haven’t done many things that others have experienced. I really want to travel to Yunnan. I really like the architecture in Lijiang and the houses there, but When I first started my freshman year, I didn’t understand anything and didn’t dare to go. Later, due to financial and time issues, I would sign up for various part-time jobs every time there was a holiday like National Day or Mid-Autumn Festival. My classmates and many friends went on trips. , every time I see the photos they send, I yearn for Lijiang even more. Then during the winter and summer vacations, I am reluctant to use the money I earn from my part-time job to travel, because a trip costs a lot of money, so every time Every time I think about it, I should wait until I earn a lot more money.

I will definitely do this in the future. It’s just a matter of time. I want to go with my beloved and choose a time that is not a holiday, because I don’t like to travel to places where there are too many people. Crowded, that will affect my mood. I hope that my trip will be the happiest and most unforgettable trip for me, so that every time I talk about this trip, the corners of my mouth will turn up instead of regrets. , although it can’t be realized now, but it doesn’t matter. The more you look forward to something, the more profound it will be when you have the opportunity to do it.

6. Enjoyable long-distance travel

Traveling to various places may be something I have always wanted to do but have never had the chance to do.

Traveling is something I particularly like, but because my time and finances do not allow it, I have only traveled a few times. And each time I was with friends, and there were a lot of people there, so my interests were not exactly the same. Those trips were enjoyable, but they were not the kind of trips I had dreamed of.

The places I particularly want to visit are Tibet, Daocheng Aden and Phuket, Thailand.

Tibet is a pure holy land. Under the influence of Tibetan Buddhism, Tibetan people feel very simple to me, and their hearts seem to have been purified by Buddhism. Under the sunshine, the dignity and holiness of the Potala Palace shine on Tibet. The magnificent snow-capped mountains and pure rivers purify people's hearts and sublimate our spirits.

Daocheng is a beautiful city. The filming location of "Passing Through Your World" is in Daocheng. The name sounds very beautiful, and the various natural landscapes are also very charming. Just looking at the pictures online is already very attractive.

The sea in Phuket is very beautiful. Although there are many beautiful seas across the country, I like Thailand very much. I think Thai people are very friendly. And I think Thailand is a very simple country and it is relatively close to China, so the air tickets may be cheaper.

I have always wanted to have a long trip, a month long, to wander around my favorite city leisurely, but time does not allow, and I don’t have that much money, and my parents will too. Worried about my personal safety and stuff like that.

If I have money in the future, everything will not be a problem. I will take my parents and my lover with me and have a long and enjoyable trip together.

7. Curious about the outside world

Something I have always wanted to do but never had the chance to do is to travel around the world and see what the outside world is like. Broaden your horizons and relax yourself at the same time. Because my family's economic conditions are not that rich, I can't go where I want like the so-called rich second generation.

Every time I see those friends in my circle of friends traveling to various places and eating delicious food, I feel that their lives are very happy and colorful, and I feel very envious. Then I can't go where I want like them, because my family doesn't have the conditions, and I'm still a student, so I'm not financially independent. My parents still need to bear my living expenses, so I can't do any willful things to embarrass my parents. As a caring child, I can only go to school and study normally every day, and find some part-time jobs during the holidays to reduce the burden on my parents.

Every time I hear my friends come back from vacation and talk about where to go to play and where to eat delicious food, I feel very envious. In fact, I have always wanted to go on a quick trip. I also really want to indulge myself and my conscience, stop thinking about too many things, put down everything around me, and go to a strange place. Go and see what the outside world is like. Time is so short and you won’t be able to see it all in your lifetime. However, the world is so big. So I feel very regretful from beginning to end, and I hope that one day I can achieve this, travel around the world, see what the outside world is like, and appreciate the culture of various places. Because I don’t want to stay in one place all the time, and I am also very curious about the outside world.

8. Watch an NBA game

I have always wanted to go to the United States to watch an NBA game, but there is no way for me to realize this wish in a short time.

I watched an NBA game by chance. From then on, I began to fall into the world of basketball and couldn’t extricate myself. As a fan, my ultimate wish is to have the opportunity to watch an NBA game up close. game.

I want to sit in the Oakland Arena and cheer loudly for them with all the fans who support the Warriors. I want to touch the Warriors icon on the floor and feel the traces of their hard work. I want to Go take a look in the locker room and want to sit in Klay Thompson’s chair and feel his scent.

But there is no way to realize this plan for the time being. First of all, it is difficult for me to coordinate time, because this year happens to be my senior year, and I have a lot of graduation matters to deal with, and I am also facing the pressure of finding a job. , so there should be no chance to watch the game until it stabilizes.

Secondly, funding is also a problem. I don’t want to continue to use my parents’ money to watch the games I like, because I feel that I have to rely on myself to fulfill all my good wishes. Therefore, there is also a process of making money. , will only go to the site if there are sufficient funds.

Finally, I think there is another safety issue that needs to be considered. It is definitely very dangerous to go there by yourself, and your family will not feel at ease, so you need to find a like-minded person to go with you, so that you no longer have to worry about safety. And everyone can cheer for their favorite team.

Although it seems that all this is just a luxury wish now, I believe that I will definitely realize this wish in the near future, and I will definitely be able to get my wish. Sitting behind them, I heard them shouting tactics. , seeing them running hard, everything is so beautiful.

9. The life I want to live

In fact, I have a lot of regrets in my life, because I am a person who particularly likes to think. However, since my time is not enough every day, there are many things that I really want to do, but in the end I fail to do them. Because I had a lot of plans when I was in college. My dream at that time was to have the opportunity to go abroad for graduate school. It’s not that the domestic graduate schools are not particularly good, but I like to go and see the outside world. Because I feel that if I go to a foreign country for graduate school, I might learn more. I also want to experience some of the feelings that different countries bring to me.

However, due to some financial problems at home, I did not choose to study abroad. Every time I think about these things, I still feel unhappy in my heart, because I see many people around me choosing this. I went to school abroad and every time I saw some of their posts on WeChat Moments, I felt that in fact, as young people, we need to experience some differences and some of the conditions in our own lives. Therefore, I can only do what I like to do now. If I study abroad for graduate school, the cost may be extremely high.

And sometimes they will say that it is particularly difficult to graduate if you go to graduate school abroad, because you need to learn a lot, and you also need a lot of exercise. With such high tuition fees and living expenses now, children from ordinary families like us can only choose to give up. Because we don’t have the ability to go abroad for graduate school, and our grades are mediocre. So I chose to give up this dream in my junior year. After all, it was impossible to achieve because we had to consider some real-life issues. Regarding some regrettable things in life, we can only work hard through future life and live the life we ??want.

10. Feeling China

I think I have a lot of things like this. I have a lot of things I want to do, but it seems that I have been thinking about it, but I have not really realized it. .

Since I was a child, I have wanted to go to Tibet and see the mountains there. Let’s see if I will have altitude sickness when I get there. This is something I really want to know.

Because every time I see someone on TV having severe altitude sickness after going to Tibet, I really want to go and see it, and there are also many folk customs there. I want to experience it. . The environment there is also very beautiful.

The folk customs are also very simple, so going there has always been a dream of mine. However, there has been no chance of achieving it until now.

I have had a dream to travel around the world since I was a child. Although the older I get, the more unrealistic I feel, and then my dreams start to shrink a little bit. The last thing is to travel around the whole of China.

In fact, this is not an easy thing, so I am still stuck in the stage of thinking and have never put it into action. Sometimes there is a big gap between thinking and doing it. Thinking is just a matter of time. It's something, but it's really hard to do.

There is one more thing that I really want to do now, and that is to take my grandfather to Tiananmen Square to see the solemn moment when the national flag is raised.

I believe he will feel very proud of you. I think when he gets old, his lifelong wish is to go to Tiananmen Square and experience that sacred moment again.

He used to always nag about wanting to go to Beijing. When I was still young, he always said boldly that when I grow up, I will take you there. Not just to Beijing, but anywhere.

But when I grew up, he passed away. Now I am alone. Without him, going to Beijing seems to be meaningless. But if I have time in the future, I want to go and see the solemn moment when the national flag is raised in the morning, and feel our China for him.

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