A 35-year-old divorced man asked: My mother has only been in my house for two days. Why didn't she wait on my mother?

Mother-in-law without proper limits and irrational mother-in-law have become the two killers of marriage.

The more people, the more right and wrong.

The couple have to face a lot of friction together, and then involving family of origin will only make the situation more complicated and difficult.

During the National Day, 34-year-old Wang Jie took her 25-year-old new wife Yan Yan to Lijiang for their honeymoon.

Yan Yan and her mother-in-law don't deal with it, so Wang Jie thought, take her mother with her when traveling, so that her mother-in-law can enhance her feelings.

Who knows, at the beginning of the journey, the two choked.

In order to take good-looking photos, Yan Yan specially bought a new dress, a white skirt, which matches the beautiful scenery of Lijiang River.

Originally very happy, my mother-in-law saw this dress, but poured a pot of cold water on her head: "What are you wearing, just like a female ghost!" "

Young girls like to enjoy life, catch up with their honeymoon and have a good time.

Yan Yan wants to experience local exquisite food, specialties and scenic spots among online celebrities.

Mother-in-law was angry: "You just got married, and you spend a lot of money. What's more? " ? Really lost! "

Wang Jie advised his daughter-in-law: "My mother has been there before, and she knows more than us, so she should listen more." While coaxing her mother: "Yan Yan is still young, what do you care about with her?"

And the consequences of mud, who also didn't convince anyone. Mother-in-law, daughter-in-law and husband have each added a lot of anger.

Mr. Wang remembers a conversation between his son and his mother:

A mother quarreled with her wife, and the mother asked her son who to help.

The son said, "Mom, you still have your father to support you, but your daughter-in-law is married and she only has me."

Mom was angry: "Don't you treat me like a family?"

The son is quick-witted and decisive: "We will always be a family. Before marriage, I was a child who grew up under the care of my parents. Now, I have my own small family, and I want to take on the responsibility of being a man. Everyone and the small family really need to be separated so that the two sides can be harmonious. "

As the saying goes, "a bad husband spreads at both ends, and a good husband hides at both ends."

It is normal for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to have different preferences, and it is not the worst for her mother-in-law to be unreasonable, but her husband is desperate because of her three views.

A husband who can't carry clearly is a person who pretends to sleep, and you will never wake him up.

There's a negative case in Zhihu, where everyone brushes diss as a man. Let's taste how great a husband can be.

Before marriage, the man's wife asked: Will she live with the old man after marriage? The man replied: No.

As a result, after marriage, the husband and mother wanted to move in. "Only once every two days a month, but my wife is not very welcome."

At first, my wife cooked and served. Later, when I heard that my mother-in-law was coming, she would go out for dinner with her colleagues and come back very late.

So the man thinks that there is something wrong with his wife's "can't afford to hide" attitude, she can't handle interpersonal relationships, and her emotional intelligence is low.

"My mother is an elder. This is her home. They tried to save money to buy a house. Why do they need advance notice to come? "

"I just want to live my own life. Isn't filial piety the most basic thing? She will try to integrate into this family when she marries me! "

The man said that he earned more than his wife, and the wedding room was also the down payment given by his parents. Most of the decoration is also supported by his parents, and the mortgage is mainly from him.

At first glance, do you think your wife is willful and perverse, and your husband is full of grievances?

What is the truth?

His salary is a little more than his wife's, far from being the pillar of the family.

The down payment for the wedding room was made by his parents, but only his name was written on the real estate license;

Isn't it natural to own a house and pay off the mortgage? Besides, life can't cost money? Your money has paid off the mortgage. Didn't your wife pay for eating and drinking Lazar, but the wind blew away?

The wife paid tens of thousands of down payment for the car at home, so the man filled in his name because he didn't have a driver's license. No name without a driver's license? Tens of thousands of dollars is not money?

In the process of decoration, the man and the woman were busy, contacted the decoration company, communicated with the designer and paid some money. In the end, I didn't say my name, but I didn't get a good word?

Knowing that my mother has a bad temper and loves to express her opinions, I have to let my wife suffer. Elders should get used to it? Who hasn't lost his temper yet?

The most wonderful thing is that when we got married, the man's family didn't give the bride price to the woman, not even the wedding banquet!

Such a person who takes advantage of all kinds, arrogant, selfish and ignorant, now asks in turn:

"My wife can't hide from my mother. Can you accept it? "

Hehe, it should be your kind and tolerant wife who is considering whether to divorce you.

Why do you think that if you marry a wife, you should be integrated with your family? Treat your parents like your own, and try to be a good daughter-in-law and a "good daughter"?

It is right to be filial to your parents, but your parents are only good to you, not including your married daughter-in-law.

She just wants to live a good life with you, not all to help you do your filial piety.

You should have your own lives.