Should I really give up my career to accompany my children?

I am an educator. I have taken many students with me, and I can guess something about my parents through the behavior habits of different students. Parents are the best teachers for children, and some behaviors and habits of parents will affect children. Parents must work hard to educate their children when they deserve family education. As the saying goes, "it is the father's fault to raise and not teach."

Parents work hard. They have to earn money and stay with their children. But should we give up our careers to accompany our children?

If the rest time of your work doesn't match the rest time of your children, you will rarely see your children and spend little time with them, especially your mother. I wonder if you can change your job? Or choose to accompany the children first? The most lasting expression of my love, is choosing to stay by your side. I once saw a child whose homework was basically never finished. His mother works in Foxconn. Either go home late during the day shift (overtime during the day shift) or work at night shift (sleep during the day). I asked his mother if she had seen your homework. He shook his head and said that his mother was making money for him.

Although work is important, it is far less than children's education, and children's companionship is more important. Money can be earned in a few years, but once it is missed, it can't be made up.

You really should put aside your career and spend more time with your children.

Tell me about the children around me.

Children without children really have a lot of problems.

My cousin's family is a little girl and a little boy.

Cousin and sister-in-law work in Jiangsu and can't take them with them. Grandparents help with the children.

The girl is older, in the second grade of primary school. When I come back from school, I will watch cartoons with my mobile phone.

Grandparents talk lightly, but she doesn't seem to hear them, and she smiles while watching them.

To put it bluntly, tears are just a snot, as if they have been wronged;

Adults are not busy reading their homework, but they are always absent-minded There is a chicken flying next to it, a dog jumping and reading faster than anyone else.

There is also patience. Grandparents farm and do housework, so they don't have much time to spend with her.

Children are small and have poor understanding. Sometimes a question can't be reflected several times. Grandparents don't have that much time and patience.

Some grandparents still don't know a few words and don't know how to teach them.

After a long time, children's learning can be imagined.

Boys are younger. Presumably kindergarten is because old people prefer the youngest, and little boys are too spoiled.

When you come back from school, you need snacks and toys to play.

No one has time to play, but also to disturb my sister, and the disturbed sister can't do her homework well.

Moreover, the little boy is a little selfish, and only the leftovers of good things are given to his sister.

Sister's toys have to be robbed, too My sister is doing her homework here and he is watching cartoons there. How can my sister do her homework with peace of mind?

Learning is one thing, and growing up with you is another.

Grandparents are too old to play with their children.

For a long time, grandparents have been too partial to their children's education, and many children have "princess disease" and "prince disease"

If parents can stay with their children, grow up with them and guide them in time when they encounter problems, it will definitely be different.

However, children want a good school, good clothes, good shoes, snacks and big meals.

What kind of life can parents give their children when they give up their jobs that can't be called "careers"?

Who doesn't want to spend time with their children if conditions permit?

If you can really give up your career to accompany your children, I don't think anyone can do it, except flexible employees or extremely rich people. Because you are in this suitable position, once you leave and want to come back, you can say that you don't have to think about it. After this village, there is no such shop at all. Besides, you don't have to leave work to accompany your children. As long as two people work together, less socializing, using fun mobile phones and holiday time,

Work hard during the day and accompany the children at night, and kill two birds with one stone.

Both parents distribute their children's education and husband and wife rotate. Don't expect it to be done by one person. Personal advice, let children have high satisfaction with their parents, which is beneficial to their growth.

I have been going through this contradictory stage some time ago.

When the child was one year old, he left me and went back to his hometown with his parents. I also tossed back and forth several times in the middle, and I met once in a while, which is not to say that I stayed at home. However, even so, this process is as difficult for me as the implementation of that year. Before I can recover from the joy of welcoming a new life and being caught off guard as a novice mother, I will continue to face my first parting with my children. I don't know how others get through it. The whole process was a bolt from the blue for me. At work, since I came back from maternity leave, I have no mind to concentrate on my career as before, and I will be distracted from time to time, such as KPI and drawing pie. At this time, they all seem so pale and powerless. I'm not afraid that I can't take care of myself at home or anything, but this sense of separation is really maddening.

I will think about it from time to time when the children are not around. What is she doing now? Did you pull it out? Did you pee? Can you talk? Have you grown taller? Anyway, mom should feel the same way. When she was here before, she wanted to run home before work. Now that the child is away, she doesn't want to go after work. Going home is deserted. Walking into the community, I saw three or five groups of children downstairs, and I really wanted to go up and touch and hug, but I couldn't envy them.

For a long time after the children just came home, I have been in all kinds of madness, always looking for trouble when I have nothing to do, all kinds of unhappy emotions, and the work pressure is already great. Every morning when we are together, I think about how to leave my job quickly. It really feels like a grave to go to work. It's too painful, at least eight or nine months or even longer. Staying up late every night is after midnight, and I sleep about five or six hours a day. I used to feel depressed or anxious, and it was really painful.

My parents are far away, and I don't want them to worry. My husband is under great pressure at work here, and he takes it out on me every day when he comes home. The whole room is full of smoke, and there is no peace at home and abroad I really don't know how to get here …

Fortunately, it's all over. My parents take videos of my children at home every day. I can talk, call my grandparents, grow taller and fatter, and play with children ... sometimes I really feel that I rely on these videos to continue my life every day. I really want to thank my parents for everything. I think it's probably watching children grow up and eat and drink for a long, long time, which makes me feel at ease.

I have been working for almost six years, working at the grass-roots level and managing. I sometimes think that I have no reason to be anxious because I can't let go of both ends. I hope my children are by my side, and I want to work hard. People always know that you can't have it both ways, but you can never do it. Even if there is a little hope, I will not be willing to give up one. Look at myself and my husband, both of whom are in other places, working hard outside, not with their parents, and the children will be in the future. No one will stay with their parents forever, so the ability of self-survival is greater than everything else. Above all, you can live independently, master a skill, have your own career and continue without relying on your parents or relatives.

Fortunately, I have passed that difficult time. I have a lot of things that I have to figure out myself, and no one can convince me ... As a novice mother in the workplace, I also advise all my sisters who are about to become mothers or are already mothers in the future. Career is not the most important, but it is indispensable. Don't try to balance family and life, it's impossible.

It is not recommended to give up your career and accompany your children.

Man's life is short. You don't do what you like and you don't work hard for it. I believe one day, you will regret it.

Both parents and children will go for a ride with you. Parents grow up with you, and you raise children. Parents will grow old and children will grow up. But people have to have their own lives and partners after all.

Being with children wholeheartedly will narrow people's contact with life and make them very closed. It's not good for children, and it's not good for yourself.

Try to live the life you want.

Dilemma.

Children only need to be with them for a few years, but it is likely that your career is on the rise.

If you choose to stay with your children, it will be really difficult for you to find a job, especially for women, once they are labeled as housewives and stay-at-home mothers.

If you choose a career, your child will grow up, but the content of growth and growth is different. Maybe you will regret it. So what?

In this life, people are already in a dilemma.

Accompanying children is to give enough unconditional love, so that children's hearts are full enough, and high-quality companionship can also have good results.

Asking this question in a difficult problem is an eternal topic in contemporary families. There is no right or wrong, it just varies from person to person. Adults cannot plan their children's future. I have also seen couples pick up their babies to accompany them to work and take care of each other. Although they are very tired, it is their parents' responsibility. I have also met stay-at-home mothers, and their status will also affect their children's character and conduct. I have also met my father from other places, and my mother started her own business with two children. In fact, in any case, before becoming a parent, you were not only a mother, but also yourself.

Being yourself and setting a good example for children is the greatest love for children! We don't have to give everything to our children because we are in debt, and we don't have to blame ourselves for not taking care of our children completely. We can be ourselves without the help of outsiders. I am willing to take care of my children because of my love, so I don't have to blame myself, feel sad, or even feel sad. Be yourself and the children will understand you.

Mom and dad love me very much and work and live very hard! I also want to live, study and adjust the frequency as hard as my parents. This kind of education is intangible, not tangible.

Judging from your problems, you must be a responsible mother and love your children very much. Maybe your child's learning problems give you a headache. Maybe many mothers around you have returned to their families. Maybe you think children should be put first, but please think about what your father is doing when you can't balance work and family. It may be difficult for us to educate adults, but please firmly believe that there is always a way out.

I am very upset, why my career didn't improve, and I really spent a lot of energy taking care of my children. But after the resumption, I realized that I had taken too many detours and I could take care of my children in live high.

I am the mother of two children. Around this question, I will share three stories about choice, and make a summary and three suggestions.

The first story: family conditions permit, my husband supports me, and I am willing to give up my career to accompany my children to have children full-time. I used to be a kindergarten teacher. I worked hard and my salary was not high. When the eldest baby was born, he looked at the sleeping baby in his arms, and his heart melted by his appearance. Sleeping maternal love is awakened in every cry and laugh of the child. After taking full maternity leave and consulting with my husband, with his support, I made a decision: I give up my career to accompany my children! This decision kept me at home 12 years.

In the eyes of outsiders, women don't have to go to work, and they have nothing to worry about, which is great happiness. But this 12 year is really not easy for a stay-at-home mother. It takes courage to be a full-time mother. First of all, I have to face a series of questions and persuasion from most relatives and friends. They will think that I am not enterprising, independent, my marriage is risky and my family status will be reduced.

Fortunately, I deeply know that taking care of children at home is actually a job, which is more important than making money and career. Giving up my career is temporary for me. A child's childhood is only once, and I don't want to miss it. Of course, we can also see that it is really easy to take care of children when they are older, and there is a lot of worry.

Summary:

1, it is very important to choose to stay at home with your children full-time and have the support of your husband.

Because the process of taking care of children is trivial and will be very hard. When you are in trouble, without your husband's support, it will make it difficult for you to move forward on the road of companionship. Therefore, it is very important to make this choice and get the support of my husband.

2. If you choose to accompany your child full-time, you must be mentally prepared.

The process of taking care of children is the day of dealing with daily necessities. There are joys and sorrows, loneliness, and sometimes I feel useless. Then how to overcome these hurdles requires self-growth. Are you ready?

3. Choose to stay with your children full-time and learn to hold a group to keep warm.

When a person takes care of a baby, he will definitely experience bitterness and joy. So who are these pains and pleasures attractive to? You can try to find a group with children like you. Not only do children have more playmates, but the years with children will not be lonely and bitter, and they will also spit on each other, play together and share together. Complaints and emotions are released together with spitting, which will not bring children and husbands, and will help families to be more harmonious and children to grow up healthily.

4. Choose to accompany your children full-time and arrange your own holiday once a week.

Waiting in one place for 24 hours for a long time will collapse sooner or later. Consciously replenish yourself with fresh blood, so as to bring enrichment and freshness to children.

The second story: I don't have to give up my career, but I can accompany my children. My best friend's choice is different from mine. She is a civil servant with a monthly salary of over 10,000 yuan, and her husband is a freelancer with a monthly income of over 10,000 yuan. There is a son and a daughter at home. The eldest son returned to the workplace when he was over one year old, and when the second daughter was around, he went to work after taking full maternity leave. During the day, it is mainly the elderly at home who help with the children, and the husband can help.

In the evening, my best friend's husband will accompany the children. You can take care of both work and children, and you don't have to consider whether to give up your career to accompany your children. Although I can't stay with my children all day, I have a short time to stay with them every day. Both children are healthy and grow well.

Summary:

1, it is important to have a fixed time with your children every day.

Parents who want to go to work need to consciously arrange a fixed time for their children every day, which is conducive to the establishment of children's sense of security.

2. It doesn't matter if the company's time is short, but a high-quality company is the key.

Because I have to go to work most of the day, I don't have much time to really spend with my children when I get home. But it doesn't matter. Mom and dad should not blame themselves or feel guilty. What you need to do is to be a high-quality partner in a limited time. For example, play games with your child wholeheartedly, tell stories, or do anything other children want you to do with her. This is the time that belongs to the child completely, and it is up to the child to decide.

Trust and gratitude are needed for the old people who come to help you with your children.

Since you have to take care of your career and children, there will always be busy times when you need help from foreign aid. Most families will ask the elderly to help me, just like my best friend. What needs attention is: don't interfere with the way the elderly take care of their children, fully trust the elderly, and raise gratitude, instead of ignoring everything. Doing these two things well will help families to be more harmonious and create a good growth atmosphere for children.

The third story: his career became the whole of his life, but he ignored the company of his children. My husband knows a friend who is a jeweler. He is his own boss, with an annual income of over one million. In addition to high-load work every day, there are many social activities, and there are often no weekends to go out early and come back late. His wife is a professional manager of a well-known real estate company, and her income is considerable, but her work pressure is high, so it is common to work overtime at meetings. There are two daughters at home. The eldest is in the sixth grade, and the second is only one and a half years old.

The house at home is too big. My grandparents have been living together to help take care of two children. In order to relax the old people, the family also hired a live-in nanny to help them 24 hours a day. It seems to be a very happy family, but there have been problems since the eldest daughter was in the sixth grade. Children's academic performance drops rapidly, they are tired of learning and often skip classes. Because on weekdays, couples rarely see their children, let alone communicate with them. When such a problem occurs, both of them are very helpless and can't find the reason.

Summary:

Children have only one childhood, and no matter how busy they are, they will succeed. If he neglects his company, it is not easy to remedy the problem when it occurs. Some adults think that I have paid so much for my children. But have you ever asked your children if this kind of effort is what you want? It is also very important that the elderly and nannies can help you, but they can't replace your love and companionship for your children. You must not rely too much on them, so children will have physical and mental problems after a long time.

Finally, I will give you three suggestions: First, whether you should give up your career to accompany your children needs to be considered comprehensively according to your personal and family situation.

Second, don't worry about whether to give up your career to accompany your children. Whether you give up your career or not, you can effectively accompany your child to grow up healthily. The key is whether you are willing to spend time, even if it takes only ten minutes of high-quality time, and you will see a lot of changes in your child day by day. If you put your heart into it, you will get something.

Third, if you really don't have time to spend with your children at this stage, don't blame yourself or feel guilty. You can express your love and communication to your children by writing letters, message boards and making phone calls. Have the right time and then make adjustments in your career. It's nice to be with children completely and wholeheartedly.

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