After reading My Daughter 2, what have I learned about life?

The second season of the family observation and growth variety "My Daughter" created by Hunan Satellite TV is in full swing.

Different from urging marriage every day in the first season of My Daughter, the types of stories presented to the audience in the second season are more diverse and rich.

For example, the program tells the story of how Angel saved himself from a poor family. Adi, who has been hurt by love, still yearns for the story of stable marriage; Karina, who lived with her mother since childhood, helped her prospective stepfather propose to her mother. The story of Jiang's father facing life choices.

In my opinion, a good variety show should not only make the audience feel happy, but more importantly, it can bring the audience thinking and harvest, so that the vitality of the variety show can last.

Just like "My Daughter 2", it shows us many fragments of daughters' lives and conveys more beneficial values to the audience. In the process of watching the program, we can also look at our lives through their stories and get some enlightenment and insight.

Let me talk about three inspirations brought to us by the program My Daughter 2.

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1. It's not terrible to be born badly. The key is how you face it and how you grow.

There is a saying in the book "Origin and Death": Some people use childhood to cure their whole lives, while others use their whole lives to cure their childhood.

After listening to this sentence, many people always feel that being born in a family has a great influence on a person, and people who have been injured in a family may never get out of its shadow.

So some people always blame all their setbacks on their family background.

But in the program, Angel and karina, the two imperfect daughters of The House of Origin, showed us another way to open the terrible House of Origin.

When Wang Ou was 3 years old, he witnessed his father driving his mother out of the house. She cried and pulled her mother's bicycle rack to stop her from leaving, but her mother pushed her away. She once thought she was an orphan, so for a long time, Angel felt scared and helpless.

Karina also comes from a single-parent family, and has lived with her mother since childhood. In her mind, the role of father has always been played by "uncle".

According to the inherent logic, children from unhappy families may give up on themselves and fall into a tragic whirlpool for a long time.

However, Angel and karina chose to make peace with the past, pass on their love in their own way, and achieve spiritual growth.

For example, Angel and his producer friends said that they wanted to make their childhood experiences into film and television dramas, so as to appeal to parents all over the world to realize the influence of family background on their children and hope that all children can have a harmonious and friendly family.

Karina wanted her mother to be happy forever, so she helped her prospective stepfather propose to her and gave her a big surprise.

None of them give up on themselves because of their poor birth. On the contrary, they constantly reflect on the past, gain experience and insight from it, and make them know more about the present.

It's just Su Like Mingyu in Everything's Fine. She has always been full of resentment against her family, but at the end of the story, she chose to face the past, get spiritual salvation and become happy.

There is a good saying: it is not terrible to be born badly, what is terrible is that you accept your fate.

Therefore, please don't blindly blame your family background and let yourself fall into a "sad trap" when you have a bad day; What you have to do is to face the problem of Origin and Fate positively and feel the thinking it brings to yourself, so that you can live a better life in the future.

Second, don't think about the past, don't be afraid of the future, it's most important to be yourself.

Every girl wants to have fairy-tale feelings, and Adi is no exception.

She shared the story of her friend "wet nurse" with her friends in the program. At the age of 30, the "wet nurse" told Adi that she had seen the world and now wanted to live a stable life. So "wet nurse" resigned and went home to teach her husband and son.

Adi envies the life of "wet nurse" and hopes to meet the person who will accompany her to her old age, but such a simple wish cannot be realized, which makes her feel very sad.

However, I think what my best friend said to her later is very reasonable: remember to treat yourself well before that person arrives.

Many girls are often the first to forget themselves in the pursuit of love. They always want to win the favor and recognition of their partners, but the more they do, the worse the result will be. The other party will choose to escape because they can't bear the pressure of love.

For example, in the movie "The Life of an Unliked Pine Nut", Pine Nut gave everything for every relationship, but only forgot to love himself, so that every love ended in failure.

As Matsuko's boyfriend Aaron said: Her love is too dazzling to bear.

Therefore, girls must put themselves first. We can yearn for love, but don't force it. The most important thing is to keep yourself in good condition.

Like Yi Nengjing, she has remained single since her divorce from Yu Chengqing. She once said that being single is good, you can enrich yourself and pamper yourself.

Later, she met Qin Hao who was 10 years younger than herself. They bravely fell in love and gave birth to a lovely daughter. Their married life has been very happy.

Yi Nengjing's story reminds me of a truth: Sometimes life doesn't go your way, but it will surprise you inadvertently.

When we are single, we can read more books, travel more, socialize more, study more, try our best to show our best side, and welcome the arrival of beautiful love with that expectation.

As the saying goes, when bloom arrived, butterflies came.

Keep yourself relaxed, and true love will find you more easily.

There is no right or wrong way of life. The key is how you choose.

I remember in the first season of My Daughter, Yi Lijing, a famous host, argued with her fathers about whether people had to get married. At that time, both sides failed to convince each other.

But in this season, what my father Jiang said on the show, I think it is the best answer to this debate.

He said: "If a person lives to 80 years old, from 25 to 75 years old, if you have no children, then you will live very easily, but in the last five years of your life, the quality of life may decline with your illness and no one to take care of you; If you like the feeling of children and grandchildren around their knees, you can get married and have children early, but it will be very tiring to take care of them. There is no right or wrong in these two ways, the key lies in how you choose. "

What Jiang's father said means that there is no right or wrong in the choice itself, but we are responsible for the price behind the choice, and onlookers only need to maintain a respectful attitude.

I remember there was a program in "Belly Break with Me", and the host Tao asked, "Why are you always single?"

Faye Yu said, "First of all, I am not a celibate. My identity is that I am not married; Secondly, I'm not in a hurry to choose. On the contrary, I will choose a state that I feel comfortable with. "

People always have to face different choices and different voices in their lives. The world will always tell you what is right and wrong, but it won't tell you what the price behind the choice is.

Therefore, whether it is Jiang's father or not, it is precisely because they understand that the back of the choice means responsibility and dedication, so they feel that any choice should respect their hearts, not force them to cater to them, let alone go with the flow.

In fact, it's like the line in the movie: only children can distinguish right from wrong, and adults only look at pros and cons.

When faced with a choice, everyone must distinguish the advantages and disadvantages behind it. If the advantages outweigh the disadvantages in your opinion, you should stick to your inner voice even if others say you are doing something wrong. On the contrary, if this matter is a kind of coercion and constraint for you, and you don't want to bear the responsibility and cost behind it, then you must not choose.

There is no standard answer in life. Respecting your inner choice is the most correct answer.

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My Daughter 2 shows the real life of the girls through the lens.

By observing their stories, I am reminded of a remark made by Mao Dun, a writer: We have never gone through a smooth road in our life, but we all groped for a wall, fell down and got up, and took a detour.

Therefore, from this perspective, the second season of Daughter is more mature than the first season in the arrangement of programs and the transmission of ideas.

I believe that with the promotion of "My Daughter 2" program, we can learn more from the girls' lives and gain spiritual growth with them.