Will you take the initiative to take your parents-in-law on a trip?

I don’t remember why or when this idea came about.

I only know that my parents don’t like to go out for a walk, and they don’t have enough time. On the contrary, my parents-in-law especially like to go out for a walk. Although they used to do manual labor in the countryside, now they have moved to the city with the In our life, they are also very open-minded and generous, without being unnatural or unnatural, or as if they have reached a realm where they do not belong. This is rare. On weekends, the two of them go for a walk in the park by themselves. On weekdays, they dance square dances in a leisurely way.

Maybe it’s out of gratitude to my parents-in-law, and I also want to satisfy my little desire to take my parents out for a walk. Although I’m not taking my parents who raised me, I don’t know how they feel about my idea. No matter what your opinion, after all, some elderly people still care. Fortunately, my mother said that they don't like to go out to play anyway, and there are too many things at home, and the parents-in-law like to go out and have no chance to get out of their own way, so let's go. So, without notifying my husband (he is usually too busy to spend time with the children, let alone his parents), I booked the train tickets, hotels, and itinerary, and started a short trip on Friday, when the children finally went on summer vacation. A few days of traveling around. Because I am a small wage earner, raising a family and raising children, I basically live on my own, so I chose the high-speed train. The air tickets were too expensive, so I gave up. Besides, the scenery is on the road, and the old man has never ridden a train before, so it can be considered a small experience.

Although it is not something worth showing off, it is just to satisfy the old man's little vanity. After all, the people around me have never seen friends who take their parents-in-law out to play in person (my world is relatively small) Ah), my daughter-in-law is willing to do this, which is a little bit happy, and it can be regarded as stepping out of the wall and seeing a "little world". Of course, from a larger social perspective, it is a bit funny that you dare to list such trivial things, and it seems to be suspected of flaunting yourself. However, this is what you really want to do. Be filial to your parents-in-law. Many people have done much better than me. Everyone has their own way of expressing themselves, either by giving money directly or by personally serving the basic necessities of life. In my opinion, don’t conflict with the elderly. If you have any different ideas, digest them yourself. , this is the best. By doing this, everyone will be calm and get along with each other in peace, so why not do it. Of course, to be able to do this, you also need to be considerate. Thinking about the big picture, what can be compared to "family harmony and everything prospers"?

Taking my parents-in-law out for a walk, I also have my own little selfish motives. It can be regarded as giving myself an opportunity to teach my children through words and deeds. Of course, opportunities like this can be encountered everywhere in daily life, but it is not often that we go out for a few days and spend the whole day "sticky" together. Let the children take their grandparents to see the outside world, see how the excitement of the outside world is different from ours, and then explain to the elderly the convenience brought by the Internet, which is also an exercise for the children themselves. During leisure travel, everyone is in a relaxed state of mind, and the conversations are more in-depth. The old man who rarely opens up his heart seems to have seen the difficult years of his childhood when looking at the antiquities. He tells the story to his granddaughter, with tears in the corners of his eyes. With a smile. The granddaughter seemed to understand her grandfather's words, and she should also understand to some extent why her grandparents asked them to cherish food and study hard.

Times are not easy, raising a family and raising children is not easy now, and it was even more difficult before.

In fact, people around me would have some minor conflicts with my father-in-law and mother-in-law, and I was the same at the beginning. Slowly, after some running-in, we got to know each other better, and we probably also understood that the reason why a person becomes what he is now has something to do with the environment in which he grew up, the people and things he came into contact with. As long as a person's general direction is good, such as kindness, sincerity, and other small specialities, such as a little vanity and a little fun, these are the icing on the cake in life. In all aspects of life, everyone is unique, and no one is here for someone else. So after thinking about this, you will probably understand that the encounter between people, whether it is with your husband, your children, your parents-in-law, or your parents-in-law, is a kind of fate. Live in the moment, enjoy the moment, and don't worry about trivial things. , hurting the harmony, because the harm caused is not the result that each other wants.

However, this is not something that can be figured out just by taking the elderly on a trip. Some elderly people are not willing to put down their dignity and accept the situation as they come. Some young people are not willing to make do, nor are they willing to give in. We can only stay in a stalemate with each other and let each of them live their own lives. This is also a choice, a different way of life. It just means that when each other is willing to take a better road and make a choice, you might as well try to change your mentality and look at the other side of things. Maybe nothing can be changed in the end, but at least I tried.

However, after returning from the trip, my father-in-law and mother-in-law are more willing to help me with housework than before. My daughters are also more considerate of my mother’s difficulties and help with cleaning and cooking. As for my husband, I cook at home early and go to the station. Take us back. It seems that the one who benefits the most is me.