Long-distance travel is the fastest and best way to understand a person’s character

Mr. Qian Zhongshu said in "Fortress Besieged": Travel is the best test of a person's character. Traveling is the most tiring and troublesome time, and it’s the time when one’s true self comes out. Only those who do not hate each other after a long and hard journey can make friends.

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A Chinese friend came to Australia for his honeymoon, and we signed up for a group trip to Sydney. One day we went to the Blue Mountains, and a minibus drove to pick us up. It was probably the last one to arrive at the hotel where we were staying. After getting on the bus, we discovered that only the last row and a seat next to the driver were left. Before we could say anything, my friend's husband said he was motion sick and sat next to the driver.

There was still chatting and laughing in the car at first. As we approached the Blue Mountains, there was a winding mountain road with many twists and turns. The car became quiet and I felt like my stomach was churning. We finally made it to Blue Mountain, and after getting off the bus, I felt much more comfortable. But my friend was so sick that she was about to cry. Her husband hugged her and said, "Drink some water, and you'll be fine in a while."

On the way back, my friend's husband once again got into the car. I sat alone in the passenger seat. I was a little angry and thought to myself: What kind of husband is this? He knew that his wife was particularly uncomfortable with motion sickness, so he ran to the front and sat alone. How embarrassed he was. I saw my friend didn't speak, and I was too embarrassed to say anything. As we walked towards the last row, a lady in the middle gave up her seat to a friend.

The group we signed up for is a small group, with a total of 10 people in the group. The tour guide stipulates to meet at the hotel entrance at 8 o'clock every day, and the restaurant serves breakfast at 6:30 in the morning. On the first day, my friend and her husband were 15 minutes late. When they were late for the second time, other tourists in the car began to complain to the tour guide, saying that they Wasting everyone's time.

When I returned to the hotel in the evening, while her husband was away, I said to her: "Can you get up early tomorrow and gather downstairs on time? Other tourists have always complained to the tour guide in the past two days."

At this moment, my friend’s husband came back, and he asked us what we were talking about. After my friend told her, her husband unexpectedly said: “Isn’t it important to relax when traveling? It’s like going to war, starting so early every day. When I’m not working at home, I’m only a few minutes late in the morning. When I’m free, people often don’t come back on time!” /p>

I was speechless. My friend stuck out her tongue to express her apology. On the third day, she just dragged her husband out of bed early, and finally he was not late.

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Not long ago, my friend Cancan complained to me that she went on a trip with a few friends, and all the expenses were AA. They took out part of the money in advance and paid Give it to a friend named Xiaoli to manage it, and then Xiaoli uses the money to pay for meals, accommodation, tickets and transportation. Xiaoli and Cancan usually have a good relationship, but this trip together completely changed her impression of Xiaoli.

When eating, Xiaoli rushed to order. She ordered all the food she liked without asking others if they liked it. When eating, I put vegetables into my bowl vigorously, for fear that I would suffer a loss. After dinner every night, she used public money to go to the supermarket to buy a lot of snacks. Other friends refused to eat for fear of gaining weight after eating too much at night, so she took them back to the hotel to eat by herself. She didn't have much money, but her fussy behavior made everyone disgusted.

All the itineraries were designed by Cancan. I consulted several other friends in advance. They were all lazy, so I let Cancan arrange it. For this trip, Cancan spent half a month searching for local delicious and fun places after dinner every night. After making the plan, send it to everyone to see. No one raised any objections until before departure.

Some tourist attractions require walking, and the weather is hot, so everyone is a little tired. Xiaoli’s face suddenly becomes very smelly, and she ignores anyone who talks to her, and she keeps complaining about why she comes here. place, to go so far.

Cancan felt very unhappy and said to Xiaoli: "I have worked so hard to make the plan, so forget it if you don't thank me. Before departure, I sent the itinerary plan to everyone, but no one If you raise any questions, now you are tired and start to blame others. Why didn't you mention it when I asked you to see the plan? "Xiao Li muttered in a low voice: "How did I know that I would go so far? I wouldn't have come if I had known." In the next few days, Cancan ignored Xiaoli. No one wanted to ask Xiaoli to go on a trip again.

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During travel, you can see many details of how a person treats others, and you can also learn more or less about each other's outlook on life and values. If you are usually a good friend and travel together, you will find that the other person is different from usual. Some people say "it doesn't matter" or "whatever" when asked about anything before departure, but when they arrive at the destination and are tired, they have opinions and complaints. There are also some people who, once their own interests are involved, will ignore the feelings of others and be self-centered in everything.

In fact, when they are comfortable, most people can pretend to be charitable.

Once on a long journey, spending time together day and night for a long time will make people gradually take off their disguises. Especially when people are tired, their behavior is easily out of control of the brain, and they become emotional, depressed, negative, and grumpy. But this is also When you see the differences between people. Unfamiliar environments, emergencies at any time, coupled with the exhaustion of the journey, some people only see themselves in their eyes and hearts, exposing their true nature.

The cultivation of a person depends on how he looks when he is tired. When he is physically and mentally exhausted, he can still be considerate of others and know how to control himself instead of just throwing his bad emotions to others. Such a person is truly cultivated and People with good qualities are people worthy of close friendship.

Long-distance travel can also "see clearly" whether a person is suitable for living together. Of course, long-distance travel is just one way to test it, but it is not the only way. For example, whether his attitude towards you and others is considerate or selfish, when he encounters problems, whether he handles them calmly or becomes emotional, and how he handles and coordinates disagreements between you. , these will clearly convey a lot of signals to you, allowing you to see whether you are in tune with each other.

In fact, travel is like a mirror. While it reflects the qualities of others, it also reflects on ourselves.