How to avoid embarrassment, strategies for meeting parents

Guidelines for parents’ first meeting, issues and precautions related to parents’ meeting

Parents’ meeting related issues

1. When to arrange the first meeting of parents Meeting for the first time

Both people have the idea and plan to get married, and both parents are in the same chapter. If two people are getting married, they can arrange for their parents to meet. Generally, the parents of both parties meet to discuss marriage matters.

2. Who should initiate the first meeting

Generally, it is the man who makes the formal proposal.

3. Who pays the bill after the meal

If it is the same city, the man usually pays the bill; if the man’s parents go to the city where the woman’s parents live, the woman usually pays the bill; in order to avoid There are unnecessary embarrassments and conflicts. It is best for the children to settle the accounts rather than letting the parents settle the accounts.

4. Who needs to participate in the meeting? Do you need to bring relatives?

It is not advisable to arrange too many people to attend the first meeting of parents. Generally, both parents and children can be included. If there are more people On the contrary, it will be very reserved.

5. Where is the appropriate place to meet?

(1) Restaurant/hotel: Choose a restaurant that everyone recognizes. It is best to choose an independent private room for easy chatting. Choose a hotel location between two The family members are all in a suitable place, and the food tastes are prepared according to the preferences of both parents.

(2) Home: Some families will choose to meet at home, where the atmosphere is more comfortable. It is best for the man to take the initiative to visit the woman's home for the first meeting to show respect for the woman.

If it is a different place and the distance is relatively long, the boy's parents will usually go to the city of the girl's parents. However, it should be decided based on the actual situation. It can be discussed by both parties according to the convenience.

What to prepare before meeting

1. Prepare gifts

It is best for both parties to prepare some "meeting gifts" in advance for each other's family when they meet for the first time. It is recommended to prepare some "affordable" gifts, and it would be better if the gifts from the man's family are more generous.

Gift list (recommended)

(1) Wine: Moutai, Wuliangye, Guojiao, red wine, etc.;

(2) Cigarettes: Zhonghua, Furong Wang etc. (based on local well-known cigarettes);

(3) Tea: Pu'er, Tieguanyin, Longjing, Jinjunmei, etc.;

(4) Health food: donkey hide gelatin cake, bird's nest, Calcium tablets, protein powder, fish oil;

(5) Food gift boxes: nut gift boxes, milk powder, milk, etc.;

(6) Clothing and home textiles: silk scarves, cashmere scarves, etc.;< /p>

(7) Jewelry: jade bracelets, pearl necklaces, pearl earrings, etc.;

(8) Skin care and beauty: skin care product kits, perfumes, etc.;

2. A brief understanding before meeting

Before meeting, children should first introduce the basic information of the other parent to their own parents, such as personality and hobbies. They can praise the other parent more appropriately and increase the parents' understanding of the other parent's family. The degree of favorability will be smoother when meeting and communicating.

3. Children visit and greet each other's parents more often

Let the other parent understand and recognize you, so that they will feel more cordial to your parents when they meet.

4. Things to remind parents

Don’t praise your own children too much, but praise the other person’s children more. Don't point out the shortcomings of your partner's children. When you meet for the first time, talk about the good things and not the bad things. You should leave a good impression on the other person's family. Don't try to intimidate the other party. Don't be tough, otherwise the atmosphere will be awkward.

What to talk about when meeting for the first time

1. Get to know each other.

2. Be familiar with the family situation.

3. Chat homely.

PS: Topics that can be discussed include:

(1) Local scenery, specialties, food, etc. can be discussed in different places;

(2) Recent physical condition, health care, etc. Body secrets, life tips;

(3) Respective occupations, work status, past work experience, etc.;

(4) Daily hobbies, cooking skills, travel sharing, etc. ;

(5) Interesting things about your own children when they were young, and praise the other person’s children;

4. Things you need to pay attention to

(1) The first meeting is too detailed There is no need to talk about the issues, the more detailed the discussion, the easier it is to have disagreements;

(2) Parents can communicate about marriage matters such as the marriage customs of the two places, whether an engagement is required, and the general process of repentance; the approximate date of the wedding , budget, scale; where to buy a house, where to live in the future, etc.;

Etiquette when meeting

1. How to address

Generally call the other person’s parents and uncle /Auntie, parents call each other xX dad/XX mom. When they get acquainted with each other, they can call each other by their first names; if the relationship is strong, they can directly call each other's in-laws and in-laws' mother.

2. Table manners

Parents and children should try their best to maintain a dignified and decent manner, civilized behavior, sincerity and generousness, and natural modesty. Children should pick up food for parents and their significant other appropriately, refill tea for parents in a timely manner, eat in a civilized manner, and do not get drunk when they meet for the first time.

3. Adjust the atmosphere

If parents have disagreements during the discussion, the children should change the topic in time to avoid more intense arguments.

If parents are shy and unable to let go when meeting, the children should find topics in time and try to make both parents familiar with each other.

In short, children should put more thought into making this meeting between their parents smooth and successful.