How can two people travel during their love to increase their feelings?

The May Day holiday is spring, and the air is full of romance. Many young couples choose to go out this holiday, enjoy the beautiful scenery together, and at the same time enhance communication, which has the opportunity to greatly warm each other's feelings. We imagine sitting by a beautiful lake with our lovers, telling each other about their love, or immersing ourselves in a wonderful performance together and cheering with our favorite TA. However, in reality, so is another completely different picture. Maybe they took the train for hours and stood in line at the scenic spot until they couldn't agree on what to eat. Finally, both of them were too tired to speak. In a stressful environment, many couples rise to emotional cracks due to various trivial matters during their travels and eventually break up.

There is an interesting word in Japan called "Break up with Narita", because many Japanese newlyweds like to spend their honeymoon abroad, and Narita Airport is a must. Many young couples broke up directly at Narita Airport after their honeymoon trip, because of trivial matters during the trip. In Europe and America, the first time couples travel together is also regarded as an important criterion to test this relationship.

So, let's see why travel can test a relationship.

1. Travel planning and division of labor

The travel plan includes destination selection, travel time, transportation mode, tourist attractions, catering and accommodation, etc. Maybe a person likes small bridges and flowing water, a person likes bustling cities, or a person wants to live in a quiet homestay, and a person likes luxury hotels. There may also be some problems in the division of labor, such as who will pack the luggage and who will be responsible for the strategy, and even the unreasonable distribution of money will lead to conflicts.

2. Small details of living habits

Traveling together for a long time is easy to expose one's living habits. Perhaps one party was careless and forgetful, and the items taken during the trip were misplaced. The other party is very neat, and you can't see such a messy style. Some people begin to take crazy photos as soon as they arrive at the scenic spot, while others prefer to concentrate on enjoying the scenery in front of them. Some even quarrel because the other party doesn't wash their hands before meals and brush their teeth in the morning.

Respond to an emergency

Because there are many uncertain factors in travel, some unexpected small events often happen. For example, the train or flight is late, people are accidentally injured while climbing mountains, and things are lost or stolen, which will all cause tension, and both sides need to deal with the problem randomly. If one or both of them have negative emotions and can't handle the sudden changes properly, many couples can't continue to enjoy traveling together.

4. Conflict of values

Similar values are the basis for two people to get along well. In the process of traveling, being together for 24 hours is also an opportunity to understand each other's values more truly. For example, for some travel stories, one side gives some opinions and comments, while the other side has a completely different interpretation of the same event. If it involves some principled issues that individuals are more concerned about, it will easily lead to the vacillation of emotional confidence.

In view of these problems, we provide some suggestions to help couples avoid conflicts and make better use of travel to enhance their feelings.

1. Make a comprehensive travel plan.

Although some people like to travel more casually, it is easy to feel anxious in the subsequent process if they face many unknowns when traveling. Couples are advised to make detailed plans as much as possible before leaving. Although there is no need to follow the plan one by one, there is no change at all, but having such a big framework and direction will always make them feel more secure and have more control.

Prepare for tolerance.

There are no two identical snowflakes in the world, let alone two identical people. It is easy for people who are in love to idealize each other and expand their similarity too much, and feel that the other person seems to be similar to us in any way. Well, one thing you may not expect is that with the deepening of the relationship, you will find that the gap between the other party and you is getting bigger and bigger. Be prepared to accept these differences, especially some trivial matters on both sides. If they are tolerant, they should be tolerant. Don't rise to different values and cause disputes.

The relationship between them comes first.

During the trip, two people may be busy with their own viewing and entertainment, while ignoring the really important purpose of the trip: cultivating intimate relationships. Remember, happiness is not the most important thing. Always put relationships first. No matter what you do or say, you should consider each other's feelings and regard every activity in your trip as an opportunity to deepen your relationship.

4. Balance each other's different needs

It is inevitable that the needs of two people are different. Among the couples consulted by the author, the man is a lively person who likes to participate in performances with many people, while the woman needs a lot of quiet and alone time, which often leads to contradictions. Later, during a trip, they made some plans for themselves, such as going to their favorite coffee shop while watching a performance alone. This not only meets different needs, but also allows two people to enjoy each other's company when they are together again because of the separated time.

Share your travel experience.

Traveling between two people is a wonderful thing, and the same experience will deepen the sense of connection between two people. Everyone will certainly have various feelings about what they have seen and heard. Sharing these experiences with lovers sincerely and openly will bring them into the same world of two people more truly. Talking about feelings with each other when traveling will make feelings warm up faster.