Should I go back to my husband's family or her family for the Spring Festival?

The Spring Festival is coming soon, so whose home to go back to or who to spend the Spring Festival with becomes an urgent event!

This is a difficult problem that almost every couple will face during the Spring Festival. If the coordination is not good, it will easily lead to quarrels and even affect the stability of marriage! It led to the tragedy of divorce. If so, it's really not worth the candle!

Some female students complain that they follow their husbands to their mother-in-law's house for the Spring Festival every year. My husband and I are both traditional people. According to the folk custom, I will spend the New Year at my mother-in-law's house, and my mother's house is far from hers. It is difficult to go back to my parents' home and reunite with my family every Spring Festival. Not only does he not consider my mood, but he also takes it for granted? Seeing that the Chinese New Year is coming again, I really don't know how to discuss it with my husband. Maybe he can be more considerate and understand me. I don't know how to solve this problem.

To improve the traditional concept, you don't have to go to your husband's house for the New Year.

Times are different now, and people's ideas are constantly changing. Some young people also choose not to go home or even travel for the New Year.

It turns out that in a patriarchal society, men are the pillars of the family, and women's obligation is to teach each other? Married daughters are like spilled water, and many women rarely return to their parents' homes after marriage. However, at that time, the family had many children. It doesn't matter if a child doesn't go back for the New Year, at least there are other children with him.

This is not the case now. Most of the post-80 s and post-90 s are only children, and both parents are looking forward to spending the New Year with their only children!

Now, the trend of equality between men and women has not made it easier for women, but has given them a greater burden.

Women should not only compete with men for higher positions and wages in the workplace, but also cook good dishes and face the pain of having children alone. The task of raising children has also been placed on women.

Only when it comes to the economic pressure of the family, men will shout "equality between men and women", but when it comes to parenting, housework sharing, and even "who should go back for the New Year", they will throw all the questions to women.

Shouldn't women do housework and take care of children? Shouldn't I go back to my husband's house during the Spring Festival?

At this time, we should change the traditional customs. The most taboo is that one spouse uses his own custom as an excuse to let the other spouse go home for the New Year with himself, or is unwilling to go to her parents' home for the New Year with the other spouse.

You know, society is progressive and constantly changing. In the past, it was enough for women to be full-time wives at home. Now women are not only housewives, but also elites in the workplace.

Therefore, this custom of Chinese New Year can also be changed. Don't let these small customs affect the feelings of husband and wife, family harmony and children's sense of security, which is not worth the candle!

Communicate in time and understand each other.

The ability of husband and wife to understand each other and discuss and solve problems together when encountering problems is an important ability to maintain the stability of marriage.

Many couples are prone to disagree because of some minor problems, but they don't have the ability to coordinate, which leads to more and more serious problems, and even rises to the level of whether the other party loves themselves or not, so they doubt this relationship and even divorce.

Don't think that "going home for the New Year" is a trivial matter. Many couples divorce because of a modest thing, and once their emotions come up, they can't stop. When we are in the mood, we should recognize this. "Who will go back for the New Year" has nothing to do with loving you enough. Many problems are getting worse, just because we are thinking about emotional problems.

At this time, we should sit down with each other, communicate with a calm mind and understand each other's feelings and concerns. * * * Discuss a solution that is comfortable for both parties, not just based on one party's opinion.

Spend the New Year in another way and have a happy marriage.

If economic conditions permit, you can consider taking your husband's family and her family out for a trip. It is right to reunite and relax. This is a good solution. Or the parents of both husband and wife are in the same city, or even not far apart, and they can choose to get together for the New Year.

Or you can work hard for the young couple, stay at home for two days and stay at home for two days. Don't use the length of the holiday as an excuse.

If the economic conditions are not enough, we can discuss with each other. For example, I will go back to my husband's family for the New Year this year, and I can try to go back to my family for the New Year next year. At this time, you should also communicate with your mother-in-law, don't be tough, and explain your needs sincerely and seriously. I'm sure your husband's family can understand.

I still can't discuss the countermeasures. None of us want to compromise. Just go on a honeymoon trip during the Spring Festival, and then remember to bring gifts to both parents.

Anyway, as a woman in marriage, don't push yourself too hard. There is enough pressure on women in society. If you can't even decide to go back to your hometown for the New Year, it will be too wronged. If you still love your husband, let him feel how determined and unwilling you are to make this decision.

Imagine, in a distant husband's house, looking at the whole family, how can a daughter not miss her parents in her hometown?

I don't know if the old couple are guarding a big table of dishes, but they can't get chopsticks. Wondering whether a woman will be bullied at her husband's house?

Who will accompany them to watch the Spring Festival Gala and wait for the sketch and crosstalk performances? Don't you even set off firecrackers without me?

Hey, it's so lively here, but after all, it's more like other people's homes, and strange faces have nothing to do with themselves. ......

Just let the other person know what you did.

Instead of having decided to go to her husband's family for the New Year, it is better to put down the burden and have a happy Spring Festival this year, and also have enough confidence to discuss with her husband "going back to her family for the New Year next year"!

Anyway, New Year's Day is the hope of family reunion, so let your beloved accompany you to start the new year!

I hope I don't forget that it takes longer for husband and wife to spend together because of this short 7-day holiday, so it is the key not to affect the relationship between husband and wife because of this little thing!