What are the attractions and customs in Kunshan?

Kunshan’s famous scenic spots include Forest Park, Tinglin Park (Yufeng Mountain), and Dangui Garden. Temples and ancient temples: Huazang Temple, Chongning Ancient Temple, Yanfu Temple. Ancient towns and cities: Zhouzhuang, Qiandeng, Jinxi and Zhengyi. Resort: Yangcheng Lake Resort, Dianshan Lake Resort. Wedding customs in Kunshan, Jiangsu Ancient marriage etiquette. It refers to the six etiquettes in the process from the marriage proposal to the consummation of the marriage, namely: accepting, asking for the name, accepting the favor, accepting the invitation, asking for the date, and personally welcoming. This marriage procedure is called Nacai: that is, the man's family invites a matchmaker to the woman's family to propose marriage. After the woman's family agrees to discuss the marriage, the man's family prepares a gift and goes to propose marriage.

Name question: The man’s family asks the matchmaker to ask for the woman’s name and date of birth.

Najib: After the man’s family gets a good omen from the divination, he prepares a gift and informs the woman’s family that they have decided to get married.

Nazheng: Also known as Nabi, the man’s family gives betrothal gifts to the woman’s family.

Requesting date: The groom’s family chooses a wedding date, prepares a gift and informs the bride’s family, and asks for their approval.

Welcome in person: The groom goes to the bride’s house to marry her in person.

The completion of the six rites only means that the ceremony of becoming a wife has been completed, and the "visiting aunt and uncle", which is the ceremony of becoming a wife, must be completed on the next day; if the parents-in-law are deceased, it will be completed after three months Visiting the family temple to worship the gods of parents-in-law is called "Temple Meeting".

Currently every ritual in Kunshan’s water town wedding customs is basically followed in accordance with the “six rites” which are the backbone of ancient Chinese marriage rituals.

The waterside wedding customs in the Kunshan area have distinctive local characteristics: with Kunshan as the center, they are passed down orally in Wu dialect, which is continuity and originality. The wedding custom of the waterside town is a systematic custom, with "six rites" running through it, and it is like a complete life drama with plot, content and profound meaning. Wedding customs in water towns are like a set of long poems. They not only record the details and process of the wedding, but also have the lyrical and romantic nature of poetry. They also integrate begging for a child, praying for blessings, exorcising evil spirits, etc., reflecting the simple happiness ideal of the people in water towns. Wedding Customs in Water Towns is also an encyclopedia that reflects life in water towns, covering the historical origins, folk customs, social structure, religious beliefs, clothing, food, housing and transportation of Han water town residents.

The wedding customs of water towns show the joyful scenes of Han men and women getting married, and reflect the unique rice culture and regional characteristics of Jiangnan water towns. During the wedding process, there is a custom of worshiping and serving tea. Because "every tea tree will plant seeds", tea is used as a wedding prop, which means "planting will produce children", implying the wish of having children and prolonging heirs. A few days before the wedding, the bride has to "cry at the wedding", and even her mother and relatives will cry with her. The sadder the crying, the better, and she will also sing the time-honored wedding cry song. The lyrics are easy to understand and are usually passed down orally by the common people. Folk customs regard the ability to sing wedding songs as one of the criteria for measuring a woman's virtuousness or laziness, intelligence or stupidity. The wedding song, which expresses emotions through crying and speaks for itself through song, not only expresses the simple nostalgia of a traditional big family for their family members, but also expresses the inner feelings of the bride when she gets married. Customs such as rocking the speed boat and blocking the bride's boat not only reflect the unique boat culture of the water town, but also reflect the tenderness and respect the mother's family has for the bride when she marries outside.