Why are some people successful in official career and others down and out?

Why are some people successful in official career and others down and out? In this world, many people are brilliant, knowledgeable and even capable of going deep underground! But why did you end up poor and accomplish nothing? And many people without any talent can succeed and be proud of the spring breeze? We all shoulder heavy responsibilities. Why are our lives so different?

The reason is that they understand the essence of society and the hidden rules of interpersonal communication. To some extent, whether they know the way of the world determines whether a person's life is rich or poor!

Most successful people, without exception, know what the other person needs and what he is thinking-if you want to catch a fish, you must think like a fish!

We can see that those successful people always want to thank this person and that person when talking about their successful experiences. We believe in their sincerity when they speak, because there are always some people who give them practical help, or give them a hand, or give them a rely on. In this era of such close relationship between people, no one can succeed easily alone.

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The confidant of Minister Zuo of the Ministry of War has a son named Huang, who has been a magistrate in Fujian for many years.

Seeing that others had letters of recommendation from senior officials, he thought that his father had a good relationship with Zuo before his death and ran to Beijing to seek Zuo's help. However, Zuo has never written a letter of recommendation to anyone. He said, "as long as a person has the ability, someone will use him." Huang sent him away with a word.

Huang didn't get help, and he was angry and resentful. After leaving Zuo Fu, he went to Liulichang to see calligraphy and painting. Suddenly, he saw a small shop owner learning to write the left font, which was very realistic. His heart moved and he came up with a clever plan. He asked the shopkeeper to write a fan, leave the money and proudly shake it back to Fuzhou.

This day is the day to see the Governor. Huang shook a paper fan and went straight to the governor's office. When the governor saw it, he was very surprised and asked, "Is it very hot outside?" Beginning of autumn is gone, and the man is still shaking his fan. "

Huang shook the fan: "To tell you the truth, it's not too hot outside. It's just that this fan was personally given by Lord Zuo when I went to Beijing this time, and I can't bear to put it down. "

The satrap was taken aback and thought, "I thought this Huang had no background, so I didn't give him a vacancy for several years." I didn't expect him to have such a big background. " Zuo wants to see the emperor every day. If he hates me, I can't eat a word or two before the emperor. The satrap asked Huang Ba's fan to look carefully. This is indeed left handwriting, which is not bad at all.

He returned the fan to Huang, returned to the back hall gloomily, found a tout to discuss the matter, and listed Huang as the magistrate of a county the next day.

Huang rose to Sipin Daotai in a few years. The satrap went to Beijing for the first time. When he met Zuo, he buttered up and said, "Huang is the son of an old friend of your adult, and now he is in the Taoist temple in our province." Zuo smiled and said, "Really! That time he came to me, and I said to him,' As long as you have the ability, there will be people who know the goods.' Dude, you know a lot about talent! "

03

"Mo, chuai also. Those who have inner character are also the masters of chuai. If used properly, it will be hidden. " -"Guiguzi Mopian"

Interpretation of this sentence: touch and feeling are a method of speculation. By observing each other's external performance, we can accurately judge their inner thoughts and feelings, so as to be grasped by ourselves, which is the main purpose of inferring feelings. When trying to figure out, you need to follow certain rules, and this rule must be carried out in the secret method.

This sentence clearly points out that one of the basic principles to be followed when applying "Mo Yi" is to act in secret and not be noticed. In the name of Left, Huang paved the way for his career. Although he made a risky move, he did it in a watertight way and applied "Mo Yi" appropriately.

Huang Guan's worship of the Taoist platform is aimed at the left of the great noble, and it is really a wise move to let the governor of the little noble promote him to the official position. Let's put aside the corruption of the officialdom in the late Qing Dynasty and Huang's despicable behavior of deceiving the world. It was from the perspective of borrowing power that Huang saw the characteristics of the officialdom in the late Qing Dynasty, came up with the countermeasures for seeking officials, and used "the technique of being tempted" to achieve his goal.

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China society is a society with a strong relationship orientation. Everyone lives in the operating systems of "own" and "outsiders" every day without knowing it.

When we see that the "one of our own" given by others is convenient everywhere and does not follow the rules, we will complain that it is unfair to be an "outsider" and must be "business-oriented", but we seldom realize that we are often classifying "one of our own" and "outsiders" and giving others different treatment.

This circle of "one's own" is made up of "human" cement, so if the front door is blocked, it will let him "go through the back door". Of course, if "back door" doesn't work, we might as well be flexible, learn from pornography, secretly practice "Mo Yi" and get involved with others in another way. With a good relationship, many people's careers have made great progress because they are good at "thinking".

China has too many people and too much pressure to survive. It's hard to get out and get along, even harder. If you are not careful, you will be poor and accomplish nothing. If you want to get along well outside and get ahead, you must know a little about the rules of the game.