Observe words and emotions, how to see through the psychology of others

Recommended reading? E? Observing words and emotions is the basic skill to control freely in all human relationships. Not being able to observe words and emotions is equivalent to turning the tiller without knowing the direction of the wind. It is impossible to talk about world affairs, and it may even capsize in a small storm. Although intuition is sensitive, it can easily be deceived by others. Knowing how to reason and judge is the top skill pursued by observing words and emotions. Words can reveal a person's character, and facial expressions and eyes can allow us to observe words and expressions. This is the basic skill for manipulation in all human relationships. Not being able to observe words and emotions is equivalent to turning the tiller without knowing the direction of the wind. It is impossible to talk about world affairs, and it may even capsize in a small storm. Although intuition is sensitive, it can easily be deceived by others. Knowing how to reason and judge is the top skill pursued by observing words and emotions. Words can reveal a person's character, expressions and eyes can allow us to peer into other people's hearts, and clothing, sitting postures, and gestures can betray their owners without even realizing it. Speech can tell you a person's status, character, quality, and even reveal his inner emotions. Therefore, being good at listening to the undertones is the key to "perceiving speech." If looking at color is like looking at the weather, then looking at a person's face should be like "looking at the clouds to know the weather", which requires profound knowledge, because not everyone can express happiness and anger at all times and on all occasions. On the contrary, it is "laughing in the face". On the face, crying in the heart.” "Wink color" is the most important thing to pay attention to in "face color". It can tell us the truth most involuntarily. People's sitting posture and clothing also help us to see people in subtle ways, and then identify others as a whole, and have a clear understanding of their inner intentions. 1． Only by being able to tell the direction of the wind can you steer well. A man passed three subjects, then participated in the candidacy, and won the position of magistrate of a county in Shandong. The first time I went to meet my boss, I couldn’t think of what to say. After being silent for a while, he suddenly asked: "What's your surname, sir?" The boss was surprised and reluctantly said "X". The county magistrate lowered his head and thought for a long time and said: "Your surname is unique among hundreds of families." The superior was even more surprised and said: "I am a bannerman?" Doesn't your county know? The county magistrate stood up again and said, "Which flag is your lord?" The superior said, "It's the red flag." The county magistrate said: "Zhenghuang Banner is the best. Why don't you choose Zhenghuang Banner?" The boss was furious and asked: "Which province are you from?" The county magistrate said: "Guangxi." The boss said: "Guangdong is the best, why are you not in Guangdong?" "The county magistrate was surprised, and then he found that his boss was full of anger and walked out quickly. The next day, the commander-in-chief went back and took up a teaching position in the school. The reason is that he doesn't know what to say. If we can really Observing what is happening in communication and adapting to circumstances is also a skill. For example, we often encounter some unexpected situations during interviews. Visitors should concentrate on talking to the host, and at the same time, they should also be sensitive to some unexpected information. Perception and handling appropriately. The host is looking away while talking to you, and someone is talking in a low voice at the same time. This indicates that your visit just interrupted something important and the host is thinking about it even though he is receiving the reception. You are absent-minded. At this time, your wisest way is to stop and leave the most important request: "You must be very busy. I won’t bother you. I’ll hear back in two days! "You left, and the host felt both grateful and guilty for you: "Because of my own affairs, I didn't receive you well. "In this way, he will work hard to complete your entrustment and make up for it. If the doorbell or phone rings suddenly during the conversation, you should take the initiative to stop the conversation and ask the host to receive the visitor and answer the phone. You cannot listen without listening. Go down and put the master in a dilemma. When you visit again hoping to hear the good news that the task has been completed, you find that although the master has put a lot of effort into the task, it has not been completed satisfactorily and the progress is very slow. But you should turn the urging on your lips into thanks, fully acknowledge the master's efforts on your behalf, and then tell him about the current situation in order to gain understanding and sympathy. At this time, the master will realize that although it is time-consuming and troublesome, it is worth the effort. The problem has not been truly solved, and a good person is determined to do it to the end, and will further work for you. In interpersonal communication, having a more keen and detailed observation of other people's words, expressions, gestures, actions and seemingly casual behaviors is to grasp the other person's intentions. The prerequisite is to measure the wind before you can steer. For example, when dealing with a boss, observing his eyes and hands can give us insight into his heart: 1. The boss does not raise his head or look at people when he speaks. This is a bad behavior. Symptoms - looking down on subordinates and thinking that they are incompetent. 2. The boss looks at people from above. This is a sign of superiority - he is domineering and arrogant. 3. The boss stares at the subordinates for a long time - he is. Waiting for more information, his impression of his subordinates is not yet complete. 4. The boss looks at the subordinates friendly and candidly, or sometimes winks at the subordinates - the subordinates are very capable and likeable, and even mistakes can be rewarded by him. Forgive. 5. The boss’s eyes are sharp and his expression is unchanged, as if he is going to pierce his subordinates with a sharp sword. This is a sign of power, indifference and superiority, and it also signals to his subordinates that I can see through your mind. 6. The boss occasionally glances up and then looks down after meeting the subordinate's eyes. If he does this many times, it is certain that the boss is not sure about the subordinate. 7. The boss stares into the room and nods slightly from time to time. It is a bad signal. It means that the boss wants his subordinates to obey him completely. No matter what the subordinates say or think, he will ignore it. 8. Put your hands together and press down from top to use the body as a balance - it means calmness.

9. Put your hands on your waist and bend your elbows outwards. This is a traditional body language for those who are prone to giving orders. It is often a posture made when encountering specific power issues. 10. The boss sits on a chair, leans back, puts his hands behind his head, and stretches his elbows outward. Although this shows that he is relaxed at this time, it may also mean that he is conceited. 11. Point your index finger at the other person - a naked sense of superiority and combativeness. 12. Holding hands behind each other is also a sign of superiority. 13. The boss pats the subordinate on the shoulder - recognition and appreciation of the subordinate, but only a pat from the side shows true recognition and appreciation. If photographed from the front or above, it means looking down on subordinates or showing power. 14. Put your fingers together, forming a pyramid shape with your hands, with your fingertips facing forward - be sure to reject the other person's signal. 15. Clench your hands into fists - not only to scare others, but also to show that you want to defend your own views. If you bang your fists on the table, it is simply an attempt to prevent others from talking. Of course, to do a good job of "weather forecasting" in social networking, you need more detailed "weather" knowledge. In the following sections, we will introduce it to readers by category. 2. Good at catching the "undertone" There was a poor man who was sick and his condition gradually became serious. The doctor said that there was no hope for him. The patient prayed to the gods and said that if he could get well and get out of bed, he would sacrifice a hundred cows and give gifts to fulfill his wishes. His wife was standing next to him. When she heard what he said, she asked: "Where did you get the money to repay your vow?" He replied: "You think God asked me to get out of bed just to ask for these things from me. Something?" This story is that people are easiest to agree to things they don't want to do, and people sometimes don't mean what they mean. From this point of view, observing words is a very learned skill. People's inner thoughts are sometimes revealed verbally unknowingly. Therefore, as long as we pay attention when talking to others, we can gain a deep understanding of others' inner world from the conversation. 1. Know the psychology from the topic. People often unconsciously express emotions from a topic. There are various types of topics. If you want to understand the other person's personality, temperament, and thoughts, the easiest step is to observe the relationship between the topic and the speaker himself. You can get a lot of information from here. When talking to middle-aged women, the topic is mostly about themselves, because they feel that they are their biggest concern. Sometimes they also talk about husbands or children, which means they regard their husbands or children as their own incarnation, and talking about them is equivalent to talking about themselves. For such middle-aged women, you have to appear as a listener and recognize that they are virtuous wives and great mothers. In the world of young men, their favorite topic of conversation is cars. Car magazines are as popular as music and football magazines. The young men's topics almost always involve topics related to the car's brand, travel distance, speed, etc., although most of them cannot afford a car temporarily. In fact, they are so keen on the topic of cars, just to show that they have the ability to buy cars in the future, or that they know a lot about these things. This is also a fashionable topic, nothing more than showing themselves. Therefore, you should listen to them attentively as they talk about cars, and it is best not to put on a disgusting or impatient face. Your patience can satisfy their vanity. 2. The "secret" revealed by the wording habits. Language indicates origin. In addition to social, class or geographical differences, language also has psychological wording that differs based on personal level. The deep psychological twists and turns of people will be unconsciously reflected in the means of self-expression - wording. Even if it has nothing to do with the self-image you want to express, you can often get a rough idea of ??the person's true image by analyzing the words. In this sense, it is the characteristics of the words that the person is not aware of that speak far more eloquently than the content of the words. Tell us about himself. People who use the first person singular are more independent and independent. People who use the plural form are more likely to lack individuality, are buried in the group, and go along with the others. People always think that they are speaking and writing articles in their own words. In fact, they are borrowing other people's words unintentionally and have a desire for self-aggrandizement. If you explore this in turn, you can get a glimpse of the depth of their hearts. For example, people may be confused when the speaker uses difficult words and foreign languages. In fact, such people often use words as a shield to hide their inner weaknesses. When choosing a career, it is necessary to fully demonstrate your talents, but if you are too pretentious, it will be superfluous and have the most detrimental effect of making others feel confused. This situation often just refutes the inferiority complex about one's own intelligence, using words as a shield to cover up one's inferiority complex. Mr. Zhang in "Fortress Besieged" showed off his foreign language in front of Fang Hongjian to show his erudition, but in fact it only reflected his poverty of knowledge. 3. The way you speak can reflect your true thoughts. Generally speaking, a person's feelings or opinions are clearly expressed in the way he speaks. As long as you think carefully, even the subtext can be gradually revealed from behind the curtain of speech. (l) The speed of speaking is an important key to understanding deep psychology. If they are dissatisfied or have a hostile attitude towards someone, many people's speech speed becomes slow and slightly dull. If you feel guilty or lie, your speaking speed will naturally increase. Suppose there is a man who goes home on time after get off work every day, but on this day he stayed in the office to play poker with his colleagues after get off work. When he got home, he immediately told his wife that he had worked overtime, and cursed why there were so many I can't finish my work, etc.

His speaking tone will also be faster than usual, so that he can relieve the underlying uneasiness in his heart. When you encounter a man like this, the wife must be cautious. Once something starts, there will be a next time. Don't take it lightly. (2) See through the other person’s psychology from the ups and downs of the tone. The above-mentioned man who "worked overtime", when he got home, his tone of voice was not only fast, but also impassioned, as if today's "overtime" really disgusted him - he was very unwilling to "work overtime". When two people have different opinions, if one person raises his voice, it means that he wants to overwhelm the other person. For the kind of person who has ambitions, he will definitely deliberately cadence when speaking to create a different feeling. There is a desire to attract other people's attention, and his desire for self-display is vaguely revealed. (3) See through the other party’s psychology through obedience. The premise that constitutes conversation includes two entities in different positions, namely the speaker and the listener. We can break through the other party's deep psychology based on their various reactions after speaking to us. If a person is very serious and obedient, he will probably sit upright and stare at the other person. On the contrary, his eyesight will inevitably be scattered, and his body may be leaning or moving randomly, which is a sign that he is bored. Some people listen carefully to each other's words, and when the narrator is about to finish speaking, he will also reveal his own feelings. From this, it seems that the listener relies entirely on strong patience and curiosity to finally achieve the goal. Breakthrough Speaker Secrets. If you want to get some information from someone, you will start with a common topic, then listen carefully, ask questions, listen... you will achieve your goal step by step, and the other person will forget to be careful while being happy. , on the contrary, they will think that you are a good listener and considerate. 3. The expression on the face, the clouds in the sky. Color gazing refers to observing people's faces and learning their emotions. This is the same as the old hunter who relies on changes in clouds to infer rain, rain and snow. When husband A and wife B first got married, they had a very good relationship and were often inseparable. However, as life became more and more ordinary, both of them became familiar with married life, and there was nothing new about it anymore, but they often quarreled over trivial matters such as firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, and tea. At first, when Little A and Little B were dissatisfied, they quarreled with each other and refused to give in. However, after the quarrel, the two reconciled after a few hours. However, as the number of quarrels increased, it seemed to become a common occurrence. Little A and Little B no longer wanted to pay attention to each other, and they went through a stage of indifference. But this is not a solution. Little A and Little B still have to face family and friends. In order not to let others see it, they gradually transition to a situation where they appear to have a good relationship with each other and love each other when others are present. But once they are alone, At that time, the house was quiet and did not disturb each other. Gradually, they began to talk when no one was around, but this did not mean that they had abandoned their past feud, it was just that sometimes there were things that had to be said. As the disharmony between them develops to the extreme, the unhappy expressions gradually disappear, and instead a smile appears on their faces, and their attitudes appear humble and cordial. No wonder a judge who often handles divorce cases said that when either party shows this attitude, it means that the relationship between the couple has reached an irreconcilable point. Human psychological activities are very subtle, but this subtlety is often revealed in expressions. If you encounter something happy, the muscles in your cheeks will relax; if you encounter something sad, tears will naturally flow down your face. However, some people are unwilling to let others see these inner activities. Just looking at them on the surface will make people make mistakes in judgment. For example, at a negotiation meeting, the other party smiled with a completely satisfied expression, which made people feel at ease that the negotiation was successful, "I understand, what you said makes sense, I will definitely consider it this time." However, The final result ended in failure. From this point of view, we cannot judge the other person's true emotions simply from their expressions. When using expressions to break through the other person's psychology, you should pay attention to the following two aspects: 1. No expression does not mean no emotion. For example, some employees are dissatisfied with the words and deeds of their supervisors, but they dare not speak out. They have to pretend to be expressionless and appear indifferent. However, in fact, his inner dissatisfaction is very strong. If you observe his face carefully at this time, you will find that something is wrong with his face. When meeting such a person, it is best not to accuse him directly or make him look bad on the spot. It is best to say: "If you have any dissatisfaction, you might as well speak up and listen!" This can appease the feelings that subordinates are trying to suppress. However, it is not advisable to talk too much at this time and avoid direct confrontation. Instead, you should choose another time to exchange opinions with your subordinates openly and honestly. In this way, you can successfully resolve this low-water relationship with your subordinates and establish a good image as a supervisor. There are two situations of being expressionless, one is extreme indifference, and the other is not paying attention at all. For example, when we are talking here, someone looks confused and looks like he doesn't know what to do. This is an expression that doesn't pay attention at all, and it may represent a kind of good intention. Especially for women, it would be inappropriate if they express their kindness too openly. Instead, they might as well show an expression that is almost indifferent. 2. You will smile even when you are extremely angry, sad or hateful. In this case, the eyes and expressions are different. Usually people say that they are smiling on their faces but crying in their hearts. Even though he is full of hostility, he pretends to be chatting and laughing on the surface, and his actions are generous.

The reason why people do this is that if they express their inner desires or thoughts without reservation, it will be tantamount to violating the rules of society, and may even cause betrayal, or become the culprit of public criticism, and fear that they will be criticized by society. Sanctions are a last resort. It can be seen that errors often occur in color viewing. When the sky is filled with dark clouds, it may not necessarily rain, and those who smile may not necessarily be happy. Many times, when people swallow bitter water in their stomachs, they have a sweet look on their faces. On the other hand, when your face becomes grim, you might be smiling in your heart. 4. Discerning people's hearts through their "eyes" There is a story in Greek mythology about a person who will immediately turn into stone. To put it bluntly, this is the deification of the power of the eyes. From a medical point of view, the eyes are the most sensitive among the five sense organs of human beings, accounting for more than 70% of the sensory field. Therefore, they are called the "king of the five senses". Mencius said: "There is nothing better than the eyes, and the eyes cannot hide the evil. If the heart is upright, the eyes will be downcast; if the chest is not upright, the eyes will be dizzy." It is natural to reveal the sincerity from the eyes, "The eyes are the center of the soul. window". Desires and emotions in deep psychology are first reflected in the line of sight. The movement, direction, and concentration of the line of sight all express different psychological states. Observing changes in the line of sight is helpful for communication between people. It is not difficult to see what is going on in the house clearly by climbing up the window sill, and you can know the inner state of people by reading their eyes. The method of looking at people with eyes has been around for a long time. A person's personality is immutable, no matter how profound his cultivation efforts are. As the saying goes, nature is hard to change. It is still simple to judge a person's personality, but the performance of values ??is not. Xing is internal and emotion is external. The most obvious and difficult-to-conceal part of emotion is not words, actions, or attitudes, but eyes. Words, actions, and attitudes can all be covered up with disguise, but eyes cannot be faked. When we look at our eyes, it’s not about the size, size, roundness or length, but the eyes that matter. When you see his calm eyes, you can understand that he already has a plan in mind for your anxious questions and has a good chance of winning. Just ask him for instructions and express your anxiety. If he refuses to explain clearly, it is because the matter is confidential. There is no need to ask more. Just wait for his answer. If you see his eyes wandering, you will know that he is helpless. It is useless to worry in vain, and it is useless to ask him for instructions. You have to calm down and think of another way to deal with it. Don't ask any more questions. This will only increase the degree of his confusion. This is your chance to show your instinct. Come and find a way on your own! If you see his eyes shining sideways, as if there are thorns, you can understand that he is extremely cold. If you have a request, you don’t need to tell him for the time being. You should take the opportunity to leave as soon as possible. Even if you stay for a while longer, it will be uncomfortable. Then retreat and study his attitude towards you. Find out the reasons for the coldness, and then look for ways to restore the relationship. When you see his gloomy eyes, you should understand that this is a sign of ferocity. You must be careful when negotiating with him. His vicious hand was placed behind his back, waiting for an opportunity to come out. If you are not ready to meet him, then it is best to withdraw your troops as soon as possible. If you see that his eyes move differently than usual, you will know that he has a trick on his mind and wants to give you a taste of your suffering. At this time, you should be cautious and don't approach lightly. There may be traps arranged by him, and you will fall into his hands if you make a mistake. Don't believe too much in his sweet words. This is the bait on the hook, the sugar coating on top of the poison. Be extra careful. You can see that his eyes are dull and his lips are white, and you can understand that he is terrified about the current problem. Although he says it doesn't matter, he is not desperate and is indeed still thinking of a solution, but he can't figure out the reason at all. You don't need to ask any more questions. You should step back and think about how to deal with it. If you already have a solution, you should propose it to him and express how confident you are. When you see that his eyes seem to be angry, you can understand that he is furious and full of energy at the moment. If you don't plan to break with him, it should mean that you can compromise and make a quick turnaround. Otherwise, if we take another step forward, it will inevitably lead to a fierce frontal conflict. When you see his calm eyes and smile on his face, you know that he is very satisfied with something. If you want to please him, you might as well say a few more compliments. If you want to ask for something, this is also a good opportunity. I believe it will be easier than usual to satisfy your wishes. When you see his eyes wide open and his attention wandering, you can understand that he is tired of your words, and any more words will be ineffective. If you don't end the paragraph quickly, or take the opportunity to leave, or find a new topic to talk about what he wants to hear. thing. When you see his eyes fixed, you can understand that he thinks it is necessary to listen to what you say, and he should state it tactfully according to your predetermined plan. As long as your opinions are not bad and your methods are feasible, he will definitely be willing to accept it. If you see his eyes drooping and his head tilting downward, you can understand that he is worried and in great pain. Don't tell him happy things, which will only increase his pain. Don't tell him painful things, because it becomes more and more unbearable to feel sympathy for him. You have no choice but to say some comforting words and leave quickly. Talking more is boring. If his eyes are raised, you can understand that he disdains to listen to you. No matter how good your reasons are and how clever your arguments are, there will still be no brilliant results. It is better to stop ridiculing and retreat to find a way to get closer. In short, the eyes are scattered and gathered, moving and still, flowing and condensed, gloomy and sluggish, drooping and rising. After careful consideration, you will definitely find that human feelings are revealed. 5. Use seats to draw a "map of the human heart." In the relationship between people, where to sit and how to sit all reflect people's deep psychology.

First of all, where you sit directly reflects the society and group’s traditional consciousness of superiority and inferiority, or advantages and disadvantages. Even now, in formal gatherings or gatherings with many elderly people, who sits in which position will give the host a headache. Unnecessary give-and-take or arguments often occur among meeting participants. Secondly, all people have the mentality to maintain their own dedicated space around their own bodies. If this is violated, they will be unhappy and uneasy. This space is called the "body range". Normally, people do not invade each other's boundaries. It is not difficult to see that by marking and analyzing a person's sitting position and posture, a "topographic map" of the human heart can be drawn. Let’s take a closer look below. 1. The physical distance between seats also represents the psychological distance between you and the other party. The size of this distance can indicate the degree of subjective intrusion into the other person's physical domain, so that we can judge some of his psychological thoughts and know what he wants to do. For example, even in a very wide sofa, they will inevitably sit close to each other. This is of course not because there is not enough space, but it reflects their mentality of being like each other. In a situation like this, if it's a couple around you, if you don't want to annoy others, just be sensible, give others some space, and walk away. Another example is that in a university classroom, if someone wants to actively participate in the discussion, most of these students will sit at the front of the classroom. On the contrary, if some students do not come to class often and take up class time to go out to work, they will definitely sit at the back. Yes, people who are not interested in this subject will also choose to sit in the back. 2. The direction of the seat is meaningful. There are two aspects to the direction of the seat. The other is sitting facing away from the entrance of the room and somewhere inside. Sitting directly opposite or next to the person has a different psychological state. Sitting face to face creates a sense of distance. At this time, it will feel more comfortable if there is an obstacle such as a table or something between the two people. When sitting side by side, there is no such restriction. Most people sit side by side at a close distance, facing each other in the same direction and looking at the same object. In this case, it is easy to create a sense of connection. . When sitting face to face, both parties are in the best position to observe each other, so it is easy to conflict with each other and create a feeling of confrontation. The same goes for relationships between men and women. There is a table in the middle, and the two people are sitting and talking face to face. This may be a quite intimate shot. However, this sitting position shows that they are not deep enough with each other, and it shows that they have a mutual psychological relationship. Willingness to understand. On the contrary, under normal circumstances, two people sitting side by side will talk less than a man and a woman sitting face to face, because they already know each other, and it is very possible that they may even have committed themselves to each other under certain circumstances. . Therefore, we can infer other people's psychological activities and related information through the direction in which they sit, so that you can have countermeasures if you want to take any action. When you see a man and woman sitting hugging each other, stop having any undue thoughts about stealing someone's love. As long as you wish them a sweetheart and get married soon, they will have a good impression of you. If you see a man and woman sitting opposite each other, it means that they still need further communication. If you are interested in one of them, there may be hope. 3. Use deep sitting and shallow sitting postures to see through the other person's psychology. For humans, the standing posture is the most suitable general state for activities. Therefore, when people sit, they assume that they can stand up immediately. Sitting shallowly on a chair is one example. There are also people who dare not sit on their chairs because of nervousness, and are often in a state of emergency about to take action. Once people relax, they will sit firmly on the chair and stretch out their legs at the same time, very leisurely, indicating that they will not stand up immediately. This view can be seen from lions and horses. They are powerful, so they can sleep all day long, which seems to represent a kind of confidence. Lions like to prey on horses, so these horses stand nervously all day long, but they still cannot escape their bad luck. The person who sits deeply therefore has a mental advantage, at least he hopes to be condescending. People who sit shallowly often feel uneasy while sitting, showing a state of being at a disadvantage. People who sit shallowly will unconsciously show a mentality of obeying the other person. In front of such people, you must not appear too strong or arrogant, because they will resist in their hearts. On the contrary, if you show kindness or concern for him, he will definitely like you in his heart. Being willing to get close to you lays the foundation for expanding future relationships. In fact, anyone can be used. If many people are willing to get close to you, this will give you an advantage. At least you have won in interpersonal relationships, and your work, work, and study will easily lead to success, and you will be just a few steps away from being appreciated by others and even your boss. Not far away. 4. Deep psychological phenomena manifested by human sitting postures. Some people cross their legs as soon as they sit down. It is said that such people are deep and unwilling to admit defeat. However, this is the case for men, and it is slightly different for women. A woman crosses her legs boldly, which shows that she is quite confident in her appearance or clothing. This kind of sitting posture is very sure to attract a man's attention, and it also means that she shows her strong desire. This kind of woman has a strong self-esteem and is keen on being a boss. She interacts with men easily, but is not easily attracted to him. a man. 6. Seeing the Heart through Clothes People originally came into this world naked, and they only wear clothes in order to hide their true face.

In fact, human beings have never thought that in order to wear the clothes they like, including the color and material, they would expose themselves without any concealment. Because the clothes everyone chooses reveal their psychological state. 1. People who dress gorgeously have a strong desire for self-expression and love to be in the limelight. In public, we can find some people who always wear eye-catching and gorgeous clothes. Generally speaking, such people have a strong desire for self-display. At the same time, this kind of person has a particularly urgent desire for money. Therefore, when you see such people wearing fancy clothes, or there are such people among your colleagues, you can gain insight into their psychology, praise them more for their clothes, and be satisfied. Their inflated desire to show off is a good idea, and this kind of person will not easily become your enemy. 2. People who dress simply lack self-confidence and like to quarrel. There is a kind of person who dresses simply and does not like to wear gorgeous clothes. Most of these people lack a subjective personality and lack confidence in themselves. Wanting to show authority to others and trying to make up for one's own feeling of inferiority. When you meet such people, don’t argue with them, because the more inferior a person is, the more they want to hide their inferiority, and the more they will argue endlessly with others in order to save the little bit of face they have left, which is not conducive to getting along with others. Maintain relationships. At this time, you can openly admit his point of view, and he will feel your tolerance and generosity, and you will achieve unexpected results. 3. People who like fashionable clothes feel lonely and often have mood swings. There is a kind of people who completely ignore their own hobbies and even say they don't know what they really like. They only take popular as their hobby and follow the trend. Such people often feel lonely in their hearts and often feel uneasy. 4. People who ignore fashion are often self-centered and unconventional. There is a kind of person who doesn't care about the popular situation. This kind of person's personality can be said to be very tough, but there are also some people who dare not face the colorful world outside and blindly shut themselves in a small dark room. This kind of people think that if they follow the same tune as others, wouldn't it mean they have lost themselves? Such people are often self-centered and often make everyone boring. 5. People who have a hobby of mutant clothing want to change their lifestyle, and they also have an element of escaping reality. Xiao Zhang, a company employee, has been wearing suits of a fixed style and style so far. But one day, he changed into a chic jacket, bright trousers, and a tie of a completely different color to work at the company. In terms of appearance or spirit, Xiao Zhang must have received some kind of stimulation in his heart, causing him to undergo some changes in his thoughts. Therefore, in their deep psychology, they usually have some new meaning. Colleagues curiously guessed: "What happened to him today?" "What problem did he encounter?" For this kind of person who suddenly changes his clothing preferences, if you want to maintain a good relationship with him, you should appear to be taking it for a while. , or praise him for looking good in whatever he wears, etc. I believe that the door to his heart will open to you. Your attitude of recognition is stronger than others' questioning attitude, and you will win others' rewards - praise. 6. There is a group of people who are neither fanatical about fashion nor ignore it, and they gradually change their clothes. This type of person is moderate in dealing with things, has a stable mood, and generally does not do anything extraordinary. They are more rational and do not follow desires too much, nor do they blindly follow popular fashion. This kind of person is more reliable and worth making friends with.