How to completely accept yourself

At all stages of growth, we often involuntarily adopt various defense mechanisms to avoid trauma. This also leads to the fact that if we don't have enough psychological energy to face problems, it is difficult to face ourselves directly.

At this time, we might as well rely on a solid and reliable relationship to establish this safe relationship, slowly lift the defense mechanism, and let ourselves have more psychological energy to face this "imperfect" self with a sense of security. Then reshape the previous self-cognition and establish an objective evaluation of self-cognition.

Step two, get rid of narcissism and perfectionism:

Perfectionism is also a cliche, although many times we feel that a person has a tendency to perfectionism, which seems to mean that this person is too demanding of himself and self-critical. But many times, perfectionism may also be caused by this person's narcissism.

Many psychological studies have proved that when a person demands himself with abnormal and completely higher standards than human beings, he has a belief in his heart, that is, he cannot make himself a mortal or an ordinary person. Therefore, when ta thinks that she has not reached that standard, she will fall into inferiority and cannot extricate herself.

However, "maturity" requires accepting your own imperfections and understanding that everyone has his limitations and weaknesses. If we criticize ourselves for a long time with requirements that we can't fulfill, we will not only consume a lot of psychological energy for inner self-construction, but also easily lead us to have scruples about the reality of success.

When a person knows more about himself, he will naturally know more about others and many laws of human nature, so he will no longer stick to inferiority, because inferiority is unnecessary.

A self-accepting person can accept himself and others, and will not be troubled by their shortcomings, feel embarrassed and uneasy. They can accept their own status quo, including their own needs, levels and wishes, and they can also treat others' weaknesses and problems with tolerance and live in peace.

The real "self-acceptance" type of "change" is not to let us realize our weakness, change this weakness, and then become as good as others, but to strive to become better ourselves on our own basis.