How to grasp the discretion of communicating with family members?

Harmony is the most important. The closer people are, the more they care about their opinions and the more they are eager for their understanding. But many times, this can't be forced, especially with elders. After decades of life, it is normal that we can't understand each other. It's best to cut out your own heart and lungs, but you can't and don't quarrel. It's better to promise and say a few words to make your parents happy and you don't nag.

Sometimes, what they say is reasonable. You can keep a heart. If you are happy, talk. If the limelight is not right, just change the topic, such as eating, drinking, sleeping, sitting and lying down, being short at home, weather forecast, news broadcast, anti-corruption, afforestation, flowers, birds, fish and insects, and sports, as long as you are happy.

Instead of being eager to show your true self, it is better to enjoy this company time slowly. After all, not everyone can accompany us to the end. You don't have to communicate to solve the fundamental problems in your relationship. The problem between most young people and their parents, on the surface, is a communication problem, but in essence, your personal choice does not meet your parents' expectations of your life.

In this case, it is rarely possible for one party to persuade the other party to accept its own values and obey compromise. You sincerely and painstakingly explain and analyze the reasons and prospects of doing something, but many times, even if you talk freely, they will not waver.

So you don't have to talk about life with them all the time. On the premise of determining one's own plan and implementation path, we should use Tai Chi Dafa to cover up the main contradiction, curb the junk emotions related to the frustration of not letting the elders agree with their choices, and avoid unnecessary disputes.

Take more recent photos, cultivate parents' hobbies, enhance parents' sense of value in your life, actively create an unstable but sincere harmonious atmosphere, and strive for the time needed for self-realization in life. After you have passed the unstable period of young people and have the ability to put your life trajectory and your parents' life intersection in a relatively close and stable long-term interval, many communication problems will actually resolve themselves.