Features and patterns

Life is a big stage. Walking on the stage of life, everyone is dealing with different people every day. Around us, all kinds of people and things make up most of our lives. Good or bad conduct, good or bad behavior, men, women and children, different ages, different sexes, and shallow cultural knowledge constitute a big social family. There are no two identical people in the world, and identical twins also have subtle individual personality differences. The amount of cultural knowledge does not necessarily determine a person's pattern, but you can see a person's personality. Some people attach importance to feelings and righteousness, and are considerate of others everywhere; Some people are mercenary, critical, selfish and self-centered. Some people are tolerant, some are petty, some are optimistic, and some are cynical. In my life, I often meet different types of people and their different principles of life. Now I list several types, and I don't mean to evaluate them. I just summarize them.

The picky king mother

Wang Niang is the wife of her husband's colleague. She is usually gregarious, warm and generous, caring for her neighbors, and is a good wife and mother in the family. A few years ago, we were very close to the Wangs. We often go shopping together, take our children to play and eat together. Every time she goes out to eat, whether we treat her or they choose a restaurant, she will be picky for a long time. One minute the restaurant is unsanitary, two minutes the environment is too bad, and three minutes the food. This is not good, that is not right. I remember that once our two families went to a griddle to eat beef, and all the dishes were served, and Wang Niang began her long speech again. There is too much garlic, all peppers, and no meat. While eating, I stirred with chopsticks and turned the pot full of vegetables upside down. What bothers me most is that she always spits when she talks a lot, which is disgusting. At first, we all agreed with her euphemistically that we would not come next time. I don't know. The more we agree, the more excited she is. A meal is all bad, and if you eat it wrong, everyone has no intention to eat, so you have to eat a little and leave. Once and for all, she thinks that the quality and hygiene of cheap restaurants are not good, and going to good restaurants thinks that the food is too expensive and uneconomical. After a while, we were afraid to go out for dinner with her.

? Damn old lady

? Who says the elderly in rural areas are kind, kind and simple? I obviously learned from such a sharp, mean and unlovable old woman. Last summer, my mother-in-law was going to attend the 60th anniversary reunion in Zhijin, and my husband and I drove her. When the bus arrived at Liugui River, I stopped and went to a family's toilet with my mother-in-law. It was a foggy day. Seeing no one around, we said hello, and didn't see anyone open the door, so we went directly to the toilet far from the house to relieve ourselves. When I came out, I saw an old lady in her fifties standing on the side of the road to go to the toilet. I said hello to her, thanked her for the convenience of going to the toilet, and went to the car. Mother-in-law came over and stopped her, saying that she had to pay two yuan to go to the toilet. My 80-year-old mother-in-law didn't respond for a long time. The gentleman next to the car heard the harsh voice of the old woman and went over to help her out. The woman still said it would cost two yuan. Sir, listening to her bad tone, she didn't want to give money, so the two sides argued. The woman said that you have to pay for going to his toilet, and the husband said that there is no country like your family that is so ignorant of the world and so harsh on passers-by. After a few words of stalemate, I asked my husband to give her money before we left.

Along the way, we all talked about this family, the old woman, by the Liugui River. Not because of two dollars. It's just that this old woman ruined the beautiful image of rural people in our minds as simple and kind. From then on, every time I passed there, the image of the old woman who maliciously prevented her mother-in-law from asking for money would appear in front of my eyes. In the later days, we often went to the countryside and borrowed toilets for convenience, but we were never charged. Actually, it has nothing to do with money.

? Awkward parking

We went to a mountain flower valley to play the other day. This season, Yishan Flower Valley is fully open, free of tickets, and the parking lot in the scenic spot is no longer charged, and it is empty. In order to make the old people walk less, we didn't choose the scenic parking lot 100 meters away from the scenic gate, but stopped on an adobe ground opposite the scenic spot. As soon as the car stopped, a smart woman of about 60 years old came over and asked the driver who stopped first to pay the parking fee, saying a car 10 yuan. I also parked the car and walked down. This person looks like the mother of a good friend of mine. This is where her family lives? And I've always heard that her family has a temporary parking lot. I leaned in friendly and said, "Hey, I know you. You are my friend's mother. A few days ago, your family was buried, and our family went to Bijie funeral home to mourn. " The purpose of my speech is not to ask her for free, but to let her know me. After all, when you come to her house, you always say hello. As for free parking fees, it is not very important. She didn't answer me. She said to another driver in our group, "Since she is a friend of my girl, let's take a car for 5 yuan!" " In fact, when we stopped by just now, we didn't bargain. We bought a car for 5 yuan and she sold it once. After receiving the money, she didn't look at me, didn't say hello to me, and went into the house without looking back. I'm a little depressed. My friend's mother, who often meets us, doesn't even pretend to greet us when she collects parking fees at her house. Mr. Wang also recalled that they drove six or seven cars when they came to Huashan for a reunion last year. I met my friend after parking. She said to my husband, "Why don't you stop in my parking lot and take care of my business?" You should have called me first. "At that time, Mr. Wang didn't feel anything. Now I think of it." Businessmen value profits! "Maybe, not all businessmen only focus on profit.

? Parcel loans and deposits

There is a cake shop at the entrance of the community, and the salesperson is a woman recruited from the countryside. We are very busy at work and often don't receive packages. The deliveryman asked me to pick up the parcel and put it in the cake shop at the gate of the community while I was not at home. When I came back from work to pick up the package, the salesgirl in the bakery was very polite and I was very happy. Later, she often borrowed things and put parcels in her shop. Occasionally, when she feels embarrassed, she will buy some cakes and bread before leaving. Because I dare not eat more sweets to lose weight, I don't often buy her cakes and bread. Every time she holds a borrowed bag, she is always in high spirits and enjoys it. A few days, she was not in the shop, and a young man was selling something. I took the parcel and left politely. The young man has been to this store several times, so I asked why the salesgirl was not in the store ... Then one morning, when I came back from morning exercise, I met her at the door of the store and hurriedly greeted her. She said that the old man died at home, which delayed her for a while, and she came back to continue her work. My parcels, including those in the community, are still stored in her pastry shop. She never complains, and her shopkeeper never stops her. On the shelf in the corner of the bakery, large and small packages piled up into mountains. We still shop online and pick it up after work. They always say politely, "It's okay. You can put them away. You won't lose them."

Examples like this are endless, and the world is really full of life. We exist in society in our own way, and judge others by our own standards, and others are also measuring everything around us with their rulers. The criteria for judging right and wrong and disharmony are not who has the final say, but what people around you say. I hope I can constantly check myself while talking about others. Is there anything wrong with your usual words and deeds? No one is perfect. As for me, although I have no mind's eye and won't do anything that harms others and benefits myself, I am stubborn and stubborn. Just like a friend said, "You, you talk and do things in a hurry, completely ignoring the feelings of people around you." Many times, when someone has just said half a sentence, you rush over and interrupt the second half. " Yes, I'm always smart and always worried that others can't do well, so I like to think of others first and worry about others first.

? There is a saying in Zuo Zhuan: "To err is human." What is said here has nothing to do with right or wrong. As far as etiquette and moral cultivation are concerned, different experiences, cultural differences, levels and family education can all show a person's moral cultivation. Although we can't ask others to drive in the prescribed way, just like driving, if we don't obey certain traffic rules, then narrow roads are simply not enough. There is no fixed standard for dealing with people, and it is impossible to set rules. If people in every society can be more generous, more polite and virtuous, and less immediate interests, we can relearn some traditional cultural teachings of our ancestors. One day, you will find that although you have given up a lot, you will get more than you expected, and you will get it if you give up!