The Monkey King, Pig and Friar Sand, who is your child? Parenting begins with understanding.

Monkey King children can't sit still, but they learn quickly. Piggy children are easily distracted, but good at socializing; The sand monk-style children are safe, but they are easy to be told by their parents that they are fooling around; Tang priest-style children are serious about rules, but they love to be called timid and rigid. ...

As parents, they can always find their children's shortcomings and hope to change, but they find that the skills and methods mentioned by experts or the experience of other countries are not necessarily good.

In fact, raising children is the same as seeing a doctor. It is necessary to "suit the right medicine" when seeing a doctor and "teach students in accordance with their aptitude" when raising children. If you don't understand the characteristics of children, you can't teach them in accordance with their aptitude.

Let's look at a set of cartoons, which vividly show how people of four temperament types will react differently to the same thing:

Psychologically, people's innate temperament types are divided into four categories, each of which has its own distinctive characteristics, so children of each temperament type will have different behaviors and need different parenting styles.

These four temperament types are: choleric, sanguine, mucinous and depressive (not equal to depression). Every masterpiece has distinctive characters. If the characters in The Journey to the West are used to represent the four temperament types, they can be divided into four categories (the most typical representative of depression is Lin Daiyu, and Tang Priest's pursuit of perfection and rigidity also includes depression, represented by him here).

Courage-the Monkey King-style children;

Smart and active, lively and outgoing, studious, aggressive, impulsive, unstable, unable to sit still. It is difficult to discipline, easy to talk back, and not easy to apologize for doing something wrong. I don't like being bound by rules, dare to break the rules, have good independence, and don't like listening poorly. This reaction is the strongest among the four categories. ...

Discipline characteristics:

A bloody pig-like child;

Parenting:

Mucus-a child like a sand monk

Parenting:

Depression-The Child of Tang Priest (Lin Daiyu)

Depression and depression are not the same thing at all, but children with depression are relatively more likely to fall into depression.

put forward

Every child has his own distinctive characteristics and personality, and there is no distinction between good and bad. Every child has not only a single innate temperament, but also a variety of temperament types coexist, but generally there will be 1-2 Excellence. The type of innate temperament will not change.

A child's personality is a combination of innate temperament types and acquired growth environment.

Knowing the temperament type of children can better cultivate and guide them.

The Monkey King can't get the embroidery needle, Tang Priest can't jump, Friar Sand can't sell it, and Pig can't do one thing.

But you can let the Monkey King take the big responsibility, let Pig Bajie sell it, let Tang Priest take the embroidery needle, and let Friar Sand do that single and repetitive thing … each has his own strengths.

Teaching students in accordance with their aptitude is to make use of children's characteristics, foster strengths and avoid weaknesses, give play to advantages and weaken shortcomings. Understand to understand, understand to accept. ...

Temperament types also apply to adults. Only by knowing yourself and your children can you get a better education.