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This article is written for friends who are not good at chatting with strangers, and share four topics that can be talked with anyone. Each topic is illustrated with examples, which is simple and easy, and the reading time is 3 to 5 minutes.

Some people I know are cheerful and have high emotional intelligence. When you meet a stranger, you can make friends quickly and turn strangers into friends.

But there are still some people, including myself, who are not very good at or like dealing with strangers. When you meet people you don't know, you are always afraid of embarrassment and have nothing to say. Although I have been in sales for many years, I can't say that I like dealing with strangers.

But in life and work, there are many opportunities to deal with strangers, which cannot be avoided and changed. So, I began to try to find some solutions.

Since you are not good at chatting with strangers, can you prepare some topics in advance that you can chat with strangers anytime and anywhere? Of course there is.

Topic 1: Weather

Nice weather today!

How cold it is today!

It always rains recently!

Haha, to be honest, have you ever seen a stranger say such a thing? To tell the truth, I have said this before, because I am afraid that I will be embarrassed if I have nothing to say.

Unfortunately, the more afraid things are, the more they come. When the other person often answers yes, yes, well, I feel embarrassed. What are we going to talk about next?

Why did this happen, and the chat ended in two or three sentences?

Looking back, it was because my opening remarks were simple and the other side had no room to play. If the content is slightly expanded, will it be different!

Still use the above example to analyze.

It’s quite cold today. The sudden drop in temperature is easy to catch a cold.

Yes, I caught a cold the other day. You should pay more attention!

A: Mm-hmm. Besides keeping warm, I also do some exercises to enhance my resistance.

Yes, I always insist on running.

Then, we can talk about running, when to run, who to run with, and then bring it to other topics, which is very natural.

It is not enough to have an opening speech, but also to expand the content of the opening speech, so that the other party has room to play the topic, so as not to be speechless.

The way to expand the topic is weather+event (mood)+personal experience+recent current events, so that the other party can find the similarities in the topic and extend it.

Topic 2: Food.

Food is the most important thing for the people, and eating is something that everyone experiences every day in our life, so this is a good topic.

For example, you are invited by a friend to attend a party today. How do you talk to strangers around you? From the food around us, this is a good start.

A: Today's fish is delicious. This fish is very tender. Do you like it?

Yes, I think it's good, too

A: I share an interesting experience with you. I once ate fish and got stuck by a fishbone. As a result, I drank a lot of vinegar and felt my teeth were sore.

B: Pay more attention, especially when feeding children at home.

Then the topic can be extended from children to other people, and there are many topics to expand.

Eating is not limited to what is on the table. When drinking tea, you can talk about the classification, practice and taste of tea; When eating fruit, you can talk about the function and color of the fruit; You can also talk about coffee and dessert, depending on your scene.

Just pay attention to one detail. Don't talk about food safety when tasting. It is likely to affect the appetite of the other person. You know the reason.

Good food can often bring people closer together, so people should be invited to dinner when socializing.

Theme 3: Sports

Exercise symbolizes health and self-discipline, and most people are willing to leave an image of health and self-discipline in the first contact.

Everyone has different preferences for sports. Some people like running, some like playing ball, some like stretching, some like yoga and so on. People are very willing to discuss their sports with each other.

When we first met, we could say that.

You have a well-proportioned figure. What exercise do you usually do to keep it?

I usually practice yoga.

A: It turned out to be yoga. No wonder you not only have a good figure, but also have a good temperament. I also want to practice. Can you share your experience with me?

Then, the other person may tell you why she practices yoga, how to persist and what she has learned. Anyway, we can talk a lot.

There are many people running, you can also talk about this.

I get up at six and then run. I'm really persistent. I admire it! Is there any way to make a slacker like me get up early? Ha ha!

B: You can join the morning punch group!

Then, the other person may share with you what group he joined and how to get up early.

Topic 4: Interest

When we meet for the first time and talk about the weather, we can continue to talk about our interests. Everyone has his own passion and usually knows something about it.

Talking about interests is the best way for the other party to cause * * *.

On a rainy day like this, what do you usually do at home, reading books or watching movies?

see a movie

Are there any good movies recommended recently?

B: I just watched XXX movie. The theme is clear and there are many high-tech demonstrations, which are worth seeing.

Yes, I saw this movie, too. I like the details of XX best.

After talking about the movie, everyone is basically familiar with it and can discuss and communicate in other aspects.

Example 2:

A: It's a beautiful day today. Will you go for a walk outdoors in such fine weather?

Yes, I prefer being close to nature.

Have you been to any interesting places recently? Can you recommend it?

Xx is a good place. You can drive there. The restaurant at the intersection is good, and the scenery by the lake is beautiful.

It should be noted that it is best to talk about something that you have a common interest, so that you can continue. If you don't have the same hobbies, just be a good student and listen to the teacher.

There is a reason why I didn't choose politics, entertainment and current affairs as the topics of our first meeting.

Because for people who meet for the first time, you may not know what their preferences are. If their likes and dislikes are inconsistent and their views are different, it is easy to be embarrassed.

The above four topics have the best comprehensive effect, and we can adjust and train according to our own use to achieve the best effect.

Friends start with strangers. Chatting with strangers will make more friends.

A threesome requires a teacher. Welcome to leave a message to share more suitable topics.